[talaniman]

Its easier to ask him why he feels that way, than take it personally and forever be worrying about it. Unless he has input, he cannot know how he makes you feel.

Usually when someone cannot accept certain things about you, they aren't looking at you as a person, but what they expect you to be. That's not good or healthy, unless you can understand the why of how he feels, and know what he wants to do about it. Its up to him to adjust his thinking, and you to decide if his feelings are reasonable to you, or not.

[Jake2008]

He doesn't like the way you walk, he disrespects you, takes you for granted, dumps all his problems on you, and you've put up with this for 4 years?

This isn't his problem, this is your problem.

You really have to ask yourself if your needs are being met in this relationship. You can't talk to him about your problems, you can't expect him to give more than a dirty teddy bear for a gift, he makes no effort to show you he loves you, he treats you differently than everybody else.

That you have accepted someone treating you this way shows a severe lack of confidence, and self-esteem issues. Try making a list of things you need in a man, and see if he gets past the first one.

In the meanwhile, because you give, give, and give some more, you have to expect that the results are going to continue to be the same.

Short of whacking him on the head with a 2x4 and dragging him to the mall on your birthday, and forcing him to buy you something nice on your birthday, why not find somebody that shows love and caring without any prompting.

They do exist.

[2ndTime]

1)Stop spoiling him.
2)Tell him that you can talk, walk, and behave how ever you want to.
3)If he can't handle it than tell him to take a hike (go find someone else).
4)Whether he changes his behavior or leaves you, it's better than no change in your life.
5)Go find someone who can treat you better.

[help gf problem]

That's terrible :eek: :eek: don't spoil him anymore go find someone else who actually cares about you, or at least ask him to make you something to show that he loves you.

[moniker1]

I also have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years, and not once have received a gift, card, note, flower... this includes the birth of his child! Glad to see what some other people are saying.

[pillnowa]

I've been with a boyfreind for 2 months now we don't leave in the same country . So we met in the internet and we felt like love but after a month when he came to me he did not bring me anything with him .he's working good and he spent money in other expensive things when he visited me but all the time he was with me he haven't think for once to buy me anything witch I find a bit strange !don't u ?