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wishes · Sep 23, 2009, 12:09 PM

Originally Posted by ohsohappy

I think you know what the answer is to this question is.
By not kissing him, you made the right choice because you knew it was wrong. Kudos, not a lot of young girls your age can say that they have had that sort of will power.

That being said, HE is in the wrong, for reasons that have already been mentioned.
If this guy really likes you, then he will wait untill you are of legal age, and neither one of you are dating someone. If he can't wait, I have a strong feeling that he will take advantage of you. I'm only saying this becuase I don't want to hear that you've gotten hurt because he's tricked oyu in some way.
Be smarter than this guy, most will say anything if they feel like they have something to gain from it. Some just lie because they know they can get away with it. We don't want him to hurt you.

Be careful.
I'd stop hanging out with him, and start spending time with people my own age. It's safer and you can relate better.

I have younger guy friends that I talk to on occasion, but I would NEVER ever try to date them. Not only because they are younger than me, I have a boyfriend. I think of them all like little brothers or cousins.

oh no I hang out with people of my age dw about that :) but thanks a lot ^^

Brownin · Sep 23, 2009, 04:25 PM

If this guy has a girl and he's doing what he's doing with you what makes you think there's any chance of you too working out, I think you should go and find your own man. He might be flirting now but are u 100% when it comes down to it he's going to choose u?

talaniman · Sep 23, 2009, 06:24 PM

Don't help this guy cheat.

wishes · Sep 24, 2009, 05:19 AM

Originally Posted by talaniman

Don't help this guy cheat.

I'm not :)

CraZlife · Oct 4, 2009, 06:20 PM

You need to start with telling your friend how you feel.

He might say that he has feelings for you too. If so then you want to make sure he thinks about it and talks to his girl friend, because he might have feelings for both of you and with you it might not be as serious as his current girls friend.
[QUOTE=wishes;1993508]there is always like that childish flirting and teasing.[QUOTE] He might see more of a future with her and with you he might see more of a short term relationship that is just based on cute little flirting.

On the other hand he might say that he doesn't feel the same and that he just wants to stay friends. I know from experience that this might make it awkward for a little bit because he now knows how you feel. Then you have 2 choices... A.) Act like nothing has changed [the easy choice] or B.) Talk to him about it, tell him that the way he acts led you to believing that he had feelings for you. [Takes a little more courage but can help smooth things out]

Hope I helped!

justcurious55 · Oct 4, 2009, 07:14 PM

Crazlife, that is awful advice. Did you not read anything? She's a minor! He's not! You're encouraging something that could very easily lead to illegal behavior. And he's taken already anyway!

ohsohappy · Oct 4, 2009, 07:40 PM

[QUOTE=CraZlife;2013537]You need to start with telling your friend how you feel.

He might say that he has feelings for you too. If so then you want to make sure he thinks about it and talks to his girl friend, because he might have feelings for both of you and with you it might not be as serious as his current girls friend.
[QUOTE=wishes;1993508]there is always like that childish flirting and teasing.

He might see more of a future with her and with you he might see more of a short term relationship that is just based on cute little flirting.

On the other hand he might say that he doesn't feel the same and that he just wants to stay friends. I know from experience that this might make it awkward for a little bit because he now knows how you feel. Then you have 2 choices... A.) Act like nothing has changed [the easy choice] or B.) Talk to him about it, tell him that the way he acts led you to believing that he had feelings for you. [Takes a little more courage but can help smooth things out]

Hope I helped!

This is very bad advice. You're not helping her.

CraZlife · Oct 5, 2009, 03:45 PM

Originally Posted by justcurious55

crazlife, that is awful advice. did you not read anything? she's a minor! he's not! you're encouraging something that could very easily lead to illegal behavior. and he's taken already anyways!

Oh, I'm sorry. I must have misread something. Calm down. I would have to say you are correct. I think that in that case you (Wishes) most likely don't REALLY like him. It's just a little crush.

jrsg · Oct 5, 2009, 06:08 PM

Yeah, I would agree with the rest. Not a good idea to take this relationship any further than a friendship.

Why?
1. He's taken
2. Physical relations with each other may be illegal in your area
3. He doesn't sound like such a great guy... After all, he is trying to cheat on his current girlfriend. IF you two ever have a relationship (which I strongly recommend against), how do you know he is going to be faithful? If he is willing to cheat on her, how do you know he won't cheat on you?

Another thing you have to be careful about with older guys is that they make not like you the way you think they do. I have seen it a couple times, where the older guy thinks of the younger girl as a little sister, or something of that sort, and the girl takes it the wrong way. An embarrassing situation to say the least.

And... I learned this not too long ago too:
It is completely normal for a young girl to like an older guy. They're mature, smart, independent, etc. HOWEVER, an older guy liking a girl that young (21 liking a 16) is a little weird. I'm just suggesting it's a possibility, because I don't know him, nor do I know you. A similar situation happened to a close friend of mine, and there were endless problems with this guy.

So, he may be a great friend. But in my opinion, that is as far as it should go.

Good luck, and let us know what you decide to do

Kealin · Oct 13, 2009, 03:35 PM

Originally Posted by wishes

i really like this guy we're such good friends and there is always like that childish flirting and teasing. but the problem is that he is 5 years older then me but thats not the problem . the problem is that he has a girlfriend. and yesterday we went out like as friends( with the group and stuff not on a date or anything) and we were like actually going to kiss but i just felt so guilty that we didnt and i dont know wat to do uhh its so frustrating. but i really do like him cause we like fit perfectly together :/ what should i do?

I think if you really love him and you two fit perfictly together you should not le his girlfriend in the way just start hanging out more together and flirt with hm just a little more than he does and fverything will fall and to place just rememeber this Quote (If you love some body never give up... and fate will always find a way)

ohsohappy · Oct 13, 2009, 05:00 PM

Originally Posted by Kealin

I think if you really love him and you two fit perfictly together you should not le his gf in the way just start hanging out more together and flirt with hm just a little more than he does and fverything will fall n to place just rememeber this Quote (If you love some body never give up.... and fate will always find a way)

You are ridiculous. And I'm sure you're young.

That's what we'd like to call "selfish thinking"
Did you know that when someone does something, it always affects another person?

First of all, it's NOT LEGAL, she is ONLY 16, and he is 21! (Did you not read the entire discussion?) He could go to JAIL!

Second, This girlfriend, she has feelings. They matter.

You need to read the whole thread before you just start spouting off wrong advice.

Please, no more naïve advice.