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friend4u178 · Aug 26, 2009, 06:30 PM

Originally Posted by hheath541

i went through the Internet logs on his account on my computer and found out that he had been visiting incest and child porn sites. like i said, he broke several lines of trust and the blow out was not pretty.

:eek: You made the right decision to boot him!

Just Dahlia · Aug 26, 2009, 06:38 PM

Originally Posted by hheath541

no, she didn't have a part in our break-up. that was over a year ago and she was in a different state. we broke up because he started trying to tell me what to and then crossed a MAJOR line with one of my best friends (no, he didn't cheat with her). after i broke it off i went through the Internet logs on his account on my computer and found out that he had been visiting incest and child porn sites. like i said, he broke several lines of trust and the blow out was not pretty.

Several lines of trust!! :eek: Call the police, save what you found:eek: My G-D girl he's having a baby, if that is true you need to report it and I don't mean to the pregnant girlfriend. :o

Sorry, you probably already reported it right? Please tell me you did?

hheath541 · Aug 26, 2009, 06:40 PM

I know, friend3u. I don't regret ending it. I regret beginning the relationship, and falling in love, in the first place.

Thanks, njluver. I'm trying to get my mind off it. I plan on watching a movie marathon involving lots of things blowing up and people dying.

Option 2 is just out of the question. I refuse to allow him back in my life or to reestablish contact in any way.

hheath541 · Aug 26, 2009, 06:49 PM

Originally Posted by Just Dahlia

Several lines of trust!!!:eek: Call the police, save what you found:eek: My G-D girl he's having a baby, if that is true you need to report it and I don't mean to the pregnant girlfriend. :o

Sorry, you probably already reported it right? Please tell me you did?

There was nothing to report. He made sure that the sites he visited were all CGI and animation, which isn't regulated by law. It's a stupid loophole that excludes material that doesn't involve actual people. Most of the sites were of the hentai/anime variety.

He TRIED to cover his tracks. He clicked on every single popup and banner add known to mankind. Unfortunately for him, I have a mac. My browser logs websites by site name and description, not by url, and only logs them once, instead of every time that site is visited. I could see a list of sites he'd visited, how many times, and for how long. My guess is that he never figured out how to erase the browser history on a mac.

I did send his younger sister and a mutual friend who lives in the same area as his family a DETAILED explanation of why we broke up and what I found. Never got a response from his sister, but I did get an extremely angry email from him after that. He denied everything but the porn sites.

friend4u178 · Aug 26, 2009, 06:55 PM

He sounds like a real piece of work.

Now I feel sorry for the girl he's got pregnant.

hheath541 · Aug 26, 2009, 07:20 PM

If it is his ex, then they deserve each other. I feel worse for the kid.

She rescued a cat that had been locked in an empty apartment for more than a week without food and water. When she took it home it didn't get along with her other cats and didn't like being handled. Instead of working on gaining it's trust and actually taking care of it, she locked it in a large closet. She would put food and water in there, but didn't go in to clean out the little box or give the cat any attention. Several weeks later the cat had kittens. I have no idea what she did after that.

Let them have a kid together. I don't see them being able to keep it.

dincher · Aug 26, 2009, 07:28 PM

Originally Posted by hheath541

if it is his ex, then they deserve each other. i feel worse for the kid.

she rescued a cat that had been locked in an empty apartment for more than a week without food and water. when she took it home it didn't get along with her other cats and didn't like being handled. instead of working on gaining it's trust and actually taking care of it, she locked it in a large closet. she would put food and water in there, but didn't go in to clean out the little box or give the cat any attention. several weeks later the cat had kittens. i have no idea what she did after that.

let them have a kid together. i don't see them being able to keep it.

Sounds like her house is a mess. :eek:

hheath541 · Aug 26, 2009, 07:31 PM

Most likely.

chuff · Aug 26, 2009, 07:45 PM

Originally Posted by hheath541

if i hadn't fallen in love in the first place, no one would have gotten hurt. ugh.

You know when I was younger I heard a phrase that is really true if you think about it. Every relationship ends in tragedy. It's usually either a bad breakup or death. The hurt of a break up sucks, I don't disagree. Part of the problem is it just seems to linger, as opposed a broken bone for example where the pain is in intense but 6-8 weeks later everything is mostly back to normal. The emotional pain is the worst kind of pain. Having said all that, and knowing that if you hadn't fallen in love this would never have happened, there is a true sense of becoming stronger that a break up can offer you if you choose to accept it. If you tell yourself, "Yes this is not great in the moment, but when I overcome these feelings I will be stronger and much better suited to take on the next challenge and relationship" it gives you strength. Ever great growth period in your life was because of a difficult time. Difficult times and situations force us to grow and think differently, and become stronger people. It's horrible to lose someone, but it's awesome to find out how that lose can help you learn more about yourself and your inner strength. I encourage you to start seeing and focusing on the good that is coming from this situation.

hheath541 · Aug 26, 2009, 07:49 PM

The only strength and life lesson I've drawn from it is the knowledge that love, at least for me, only leads to people getting hurt and that if I avoid relationships no one gets hurt.

ohsohappy · Aug 26, 2009, 07:53 PM

Oh god wow, If he's been visiting those inappropriate sites then he CLEARLY does not need to be having a child. Not to mention, from what I do understand, child pornagraphy is a HUGE offense legally. People can go to jail for looking at it, I think, WHAT the heck? Yeah, if anything I feel sorry for the child. But really I don't think you should ever tlak to him again, which I'm sure you won't.

WOW

Do you mind if I ask how old you are?

hheath541 · Aug 26, 2009, 07:55 PM

No, I don't mind. I'm 22.

ohsohappy · Aug 26, 2009, 08:03 PM

Well, I'm not much older than you, as I've said, but I do know this, give it time. But DO NOT give up entirely. Life is full of disappointments, but it's also filled with many pleasant surprises. You have many years left to your life. Although you may not be ready for a romantic relationship yet at this point of your life, don't entirely give up the thought for the future. In the mean time, just try to surround yourself with good people, who have Morals and Values that you can identify with. Like I said, you could be pleasantly surprised. Don't harm your mental health by blocking everyone out. You need people. Good luck! :)

friend4u178 · Aug 26, 2009, 08:09 PM

You usually find that special person when you aren't even looking ;)

artlady · Aug 26, 2009, 08:54 PM

Originally Posted by hheath541

no, she didn't have a part in our break-up. that was over a year ago and she was in a different state. we broke up because he started trying to tell me what to and then crossed a MAJOR line with one of my best friends (no, he didn't cheat with her). after i broke it off i went through the Internet logs on his account on my computer and found out that he had been visiting incest and child porn sites. like i said, he broke several lines of trust and the blow out was not pretty.

:eek: creepy.
Keep that image in your head and be grateful you are away from someone with a severe psycho sexual disease.