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valinors_sorrow · Oct 26, 2006, 08:04 AM

Originally Posted by nomi

OK, according to J_9, i messed up, and according to Wild Cat, the girl is not intrested.
I agree with both of u.
but :
She was 1st to contact me, she was 1st to propose me, she was 1st to say i love u. Where does this all leads too?

in either case, what should i do no, even if its all messed up, any thing to bring this relation to a safe side ?

That would require talking, I do believe and it would help if it were in the setting WC is referring to... hang out & get to know each other better. But first call the engagement off for now, that was unbelievably premature. And no more funny stunts like you did either--- that was really bad.

Remember this, that if you cannot talk well together then there isn't really any basis for a relationship at all.

Wildcat21 · Oct 26, 2006, 08:36 AM

I don't even think they are engaged. I think he or she was playing. You don't get engaged like that.

You actually have to ge to know someone - see if you like them.

talaniman · Oct 26, 2006, 11:51 AM

Not being from Pakistan, I have no knowledge of how you do the courting thing, but over hear I would tell you to leave this relationship alone until you both where a lot more mature. Too many games and too much drama for a healthy , honest relationship. See you next year.

nomi · Oct 26, 2006, 02:18 PM

To be very honest, it is confirm that she can never date, because as being a muslim, her mother is always with her in every place. We sometimes talk each other in alone, but its not a date. Yeah we did have a chat on phone. She was really intrested. But as soon I started to give her response, scene suddenly changed. Secondly, I'm in UK, she is in Pakistan, so may be its possible that she couldn't call me.

My query was that is she still like me or not ? But I guess the topic has been changed here. No1 sees this point that she was the 1 who first contacted me and get involved in me. I was reading comments on this case :
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...p-38777-7.html

And I think that I also need to giver her some time, and leave her alone. As "People Want What They Can't Have - she has you - no fun.". In this case I think its true.

What you guys say ?

valinors_sorrow · Oct 26, 2006, 02:24 PM

I think some of the cultural differences are big enough to be getting in the way of making good comments to this. I have questions because of the cultural difference like-- do her parent know and approve of you? Is this girl free to choose who she marries?

nomi · Oct 26, 2006, 02:29 PM

Yes, her mother knows me very well, even her mother and my mother knows each other. In her mom eyes, I had a very good image. I can feel the way her mom talks to me. Every time I talk to her mom , it feels that I am talking to my mom.

On the girls side, yesterday she said that (she is ready for marriage, all is she waiting for me to return back from UK. ) there are 100% chances that her mom will not reject me for her daughter.

bleimberger · Oct 27, 2006, 05:10 AM

Nomi I think that you two are way too young to be getting married. I think that when you get back home then maybe you guys should try spending some time together and get to know each other a little better. You two seem to live two totally opposite lives, you two may find out that you aren't mean't to be together, but then again it may work out. I think that you need to give it some time, and see where it goes from there, but I would call off the engagement right now, because if your not sure where she is at in this relationship then there is no point in being engaged.