[nithin1982]

Thank you amicon, but do you think I should talk to this guy? He keeps on talking to me sending me mails and stuff., do you think I can trust him and be a friend to him?

[amicon]

The fact that you ask makes me think you're seriously doubting him,so I'd say probably not.

[talaniman]

I think you ignore him, and his drama, and stay out of his life. I am sure there are better people to be friends with.

I wouldn't believe not one word of his hogwash he is feeding you. Delete him from your emails, and block his number, so you don't get caught up in his BS!

[nithin1982]

Yes, But I am now deeply disappointed, I trusted this friend a lot, I can't imagine how he would betray my friendship while still claiming to be a thick friend of mine, May be its just that this girl is only troubling him to marry her since she is the one who took him there and he could be trapped too. He also can't tell me that since he knows my problem with her? And may be he is actually trying to be a good friend to me and her(cos he also stated he would marry a girl who his parents find him).. But if he is having sort of a relationship(In this case a physical relationship only which is highly unlikely as we are traditional Indians;-)) because if he was in an emotional relationship how could he ask a question like if I still feel for her and if so he would help each other out to come to the right track.
Actually, I have now no feeling for her other than a great disappointment with her.
But friends, this is really disgusting guys, I mean its not a problem if he is having a relationship with her and be open about it as I have left her a long time ago right? But if he is trying to play a drama with me and as well as with her its definetely disgusting and I do not know how I could do such a thing to a best friend of mine, I would never be able to think of such a thing too,

[talaniman]

That's why you leave them alone and focus on your life, not theirs.

[Devorameira]

Should I keep in touch with this friend of hers?

NO WAY! Avoid her and her friend.

[nithin1982]

Well, I am really angry at these two people now, how wicked even good friends can turn?

[talaniman]

Next time you will see it coming, and protect yourself, but for now, what's done is done, and no need to stir it up any more. You cut them from your life and enjoy yourself despite them.

That's the best revenge, and the best use of your anger.

[nithin1982]

Yes, but they could be just open about it, since I am completely out of her life now, I do not have any feeling for her anymore and I am over it. But what is this? You see they will never be allowed to get married too because they from different ethnic groups and if this is true it means that they are already destroyed. This thing is going to create such a big hassle in their families, damn THEM,

[talaniman]

I get you care, but have no control of the actions of others.

[nithin1982]

Yes, its true that I have no control over their actions, that's true, this situation is a bit tricky though,

[I wish]

It's obvious that they want to be left alone. So why not leave them alone and go about your business?

Why force the issue?

Quit torturing yourself and find happiness elsewhere.

[nithin1982]

Ok I think I should give you a broad picture now. Yes I was going about my own business. Even at the time she helped him to come to that country I only wished him and left them alone right. Like you guys told me I even blocked my male friend who knew what happened between me and her. And I was living happily here not thinking about any BS. THEN, this guy repeatedly sends me mails asking me why the hell I am not in touch with him, and asking me if it is because he is living in the place where she is. He also says that why we can't be like good old friends? And I felt actually sorry. Because we used to be real thick friends right? Then I talked to him and this girls name was somehow mentioned and he asked me if I still feel for her and if I do as a good friend he could try to help each other out to resolve the matter. If I do not feel for her still he would be the same friend to both of us.
As you guys can see, this is not something I am dragging. He is the one who wants to talk and says things like this. If they hang out and live together and if this girl tortures him to marry her why the hell is he asking me these ridiculous questions from me?
I am not torturing myself. I do not want this problem. But this whole situation is confusing. I mean see, they live together(well I do not know if its nothing more than just living in a shared house as friends right?)
If they want to be left alone then then why does he want to talk to me this way? If he is in love with her, then why does he want to know my feeling and try to help me? If you guys can analyse the whole thing, you would see that the whole thing is very strange.
If they want their freedom they already have it. Because they are not in my life anymore. They do not even live in my country.
I am not torturing myself.

[I wish]

In that case, if you are the one who wants to be left alone, then ignore his attempts at contacting you. He will eventually get the hint.

[nithin1982]

Ok guys, I'll try again, I have now bloked him out again, but I do not know if he would send e mails from other e mail addresses asking me if I have blocked him? You see, anybody would feel sad if someone sends mails of this nature, anyway, I will just keep him at my arm's length, I told him clearly not to pass any info of me to her or not to bring any news of her to me again when the last time I talked to him and he agreed,
Yes its true that not them but me the one who wants to be left alone so that I do not get caught in their BS.
Will see like Talisman says best use of anger is to ignore them, this is what all of you say too,

[amicon]

Whatever he does,keep ignoring him and stay no contact.

Good luck.