[stevetcg]

Just out of curiosity... how old are you?

[JudyKayTee]

I can't drive to her house. I can't see her. Its not stalking. if she asks me to stop i will, because i love her. but i know that she loves me back, thats where the persistans is comes from

Do I have this right? You were in a long distance relationship, maybe internet, who knows. She broke up with you. She is visiting her sister. Your relationship was so shallow that you don't know her maiden name. She has not contacted you. She is not responding to whatever means you used to use to contact her.

You love her and you "know" she loves you back.

Apparently permanently breaking up with you is her way of proving her love.

I see the Police in your future - stalking isn't just driving past a house.

I think - and I'm not being flippant - that you need to talk to someone in a mental health care capacity to see why you aren't letting this go.

And I assume you mean persistence. How old are you? How old is she?

And, no, flowers from a long distance when I didn't provide you with delivery information would most definitely NOT be romantic in my eyes and, in fact, would freak me out.

[Jake2008]

I agree that you are unable, and/or unwilling to know when something is over, and you are not accepting that your relationship with this girl IS over.

The problem now is not that you are unable to satisfy yourself in finding her, the problem is you are obsessing about it, not being reasonable or logical, and I presume if you are over 18, this is not the first time you've been in this predicament with women.

It is important for you to learn what a relationship is. It is about balance and respect. When the relationship fails for whatever reason, there is a terrible imbalance in how you perceive yourself to still be active in her life, when she obviously does not wish you in hers.

Respect comes in when you cross that boundary too, and are in fact, being disrespectful and not regarding 'no means no'. She is entitled to do as she pleases, and you are not respecting her right to privacy by trying to find ways to invade it.

Realtionships fail. They don't sort of fail, or not quite fail, or fail according to how you perceive things to be. The relationship is over. O-V-E-R!!

There is nothing left. No friendship, no contact, nothing. For you to perceive that there is something there because you can't get over it, indicates you likely need help before you go too far, and find yourself at the receiving end of a stalking charge, or restraining order.

Please go and talk to somebody about this. You need to learn the basic dynamics of a healthy relationship, how to accept that it is over, and how to go on with your life with your feelings intact. Your view of a relationship is not healthy.

[jddaman23]

We are only sixteen. She has no maiden name, I don't know her mothers maiden name. We text every day, talk on the phone at night, see each other every couple of weeks. She says when she is with them everyhting is perfect she says I am perfect. She loves me. She just thinks she isn't strong enough to do a long distance. I know she is, she is stronger then me. Anyway please no one else respond to this, my heart is terrible pain and I really don't want everyone telling me I'm a stalking freak. Or I'm to young, so no one respond to this, I really just don't think anyone is helping me right now. I'll suffer in silence next time.

[JudyKayTee]

If you don't want answers and opinions, don't post on a public board.

If you want to hear from people who agree with you, talk to your relatives.

Otherwise - advice given and you should take it.

[Alty]

We are only sixteen. She has no maiden name, i don't know her mothers maiden name. We text every day, talk on the phone at night, see each other every couple of weeks. She says when she is with em everyhting is perfect she says i am perfect. she loves me. She just thinks she isn't strong enough to do a long distance. I know she is, she is stronger then me. Anyways please no one else respond to this, my heart is terrible pain and i really don't want everyone telling me im a stalking freak. Or i'm to young, so no one respond to this, i really just don't think anyone is helping me right now. I'll suffer in silence next time.

You don't have the right to ask that we stop responding. You posted on a public board, now it's public domain.

Why didn't she give you the information if she still wants to talk to you?

Don't you see it?

She's doing no contact, you just aren't willing to accept it.

Your posts are alarming, You aren't willing to listen to reason. I understand, I was 16 once too, but still, when something makes sense, maybe it's time to listen.

You're not a freak, but you are acting like a stalker.

I call them like I see them. If I'm wrong then tell me why.

[jddaman23]

I... know I'm not like all the other guys... I don't like sports... I don't wear baggy pants... I believe in being a gentlemen... I cry when I am upset... I care about people... I like to listen... she loved me for that... she said it was to hard to stop talking to me... I can still fell the warmth of her skin against my arms. She was perfect. She was mine. I know she loved me. I know she loves me. I have given her her privacy I don't text her twenty-four seven, I haven't text her for a week or so. When I first text her seven months ago a day hasn't gone by that we haven't text. When I first met her things we so easy with her, they came natural. I have never been that way with a girl. Even. Most guys thought she was just OK looking, I thought she was beautiful... I'm sorry. I couldn't type this without tears in my eyes... I had a dream before I met her. It was me and a dark haired girl. And I was holding her and she was sad because we lived far away. Looking back, my Elisabeth was that girl. She is truly the girl of my dream...

[stevetcg]

Get over it man... its over. Welcome to the first of life's many tough lessons...

Sometimes people don't feel the same way you do. No... she doesn't. If she wanted to be with you, she would be with you. It's that simple and that's all there is to it.

First loves are the worst. I was about your age when my first love dumped me. I was sad and whiney and whistful and all that emo crap. Then you know what? My second love came along.