[bizygurl]

arcura,

I understand what you mean. But you may have misunderstood me. Im not telling her to put "god aside".. if anything she should ask god for strength. I only meant that in the sense that if she doesn't factor god into it. Meaning if she thought of what is best for her and what's best for her is to get out of this relationship.. and not worry so much what god is going to think of her. That's what I meant.:)

[arcura]

bizygurl,
Thanks for the clarification
Fred

[N0help4u]

I think you should stay as long as you see your spouse is willing to try and change and work on the relationship.
You will know when the time is right that it is not going anywhere and you need to get out.

Unfortunately many Christian women stay too long because they feel divorce is a sin or something because they feel you have to stay and put up with the abuse and all.

From my understanding God said in the Old Testament that he allows for divorce due to hardness of heart. Well if a spouse is abusive, cheating and beating and can't see how rotten they are to you then they have hardness of heart and it will eventually cause you hardness of heart.

[arcura]

N0help4u,
Your points in that post are well made.
Peace and kindness,
Fred

[Kia]

Thanks all for the feedback! Though this situation does not apply to me specifically, I have seen enough of it to ponder the question and ask the board. Thanks again:)

[arcura]

Kia,
You're welcome.
Come here any time you need help.
Peace and kindness,
Fred