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liz28 · May 19, 2009, 01:54 PM

She sounds spoiled! It was even her way or no way and maybe she got used to people doing the things SHE wanted how SHE wanted. She has that me, myself, and just I attitude about everything. She forgot about "WE".

Count your lucky stars it is over and she is in the past.

I don't know how you dealt with her for 4 months because I would have been long gone before that.

sprayingballs · May 20, 2009, 01:57 PM

That happened to me once, I even had to start using a knife and fork afterwards! ;)
Seriously though, the others are bang on the money I always think of the comment 'walking on egg shells' I have been there before and I think that's what you were treading on, just remember never let others tread on you!

Good luck mate

N0help4u · May 20, 2009, 02:47 PM

If she asked you to quit slurping, gulping or whatever with your food I would say maybe it is a habit that she is annoyed by. With everything you have said she sounds like she is more concerned about what others say and think so she knit picks.
Yeah she is a control freak.

ChihuahuaMomma · May 20, 2009, 02:51 PM

I had an ex that was the same way. He even scoffed when I sneezed cause he said that he was rude. It was hell. I'm glad he's my ex now. Thank your lucky stars, move on, and notice the warning signs next time!

markerman · May 20, 2009, 06:29 PM

Originally Posted by ChihuahuaMomma

I had an ex that was the same way. He even scoffed when I sneezed cause he said that he was rude. It was hell. I'm glad he's my ex now. Thank your lucky stars, move on, and notice the warning signs next time!

Hey, thanks for the Info. Is this a personality they will have for life?

markerman · May 20, 2009, 06:31 PM

Originally Posted by artlady

There are ways to suggest things to people but she sounded like a nag.
Could you imagine a lifetime of that? Yikes!

You dodged a bullet,oh without a doubt,you probably dodged high blood pressure,anxiety attacks and chronic headaches !

Hey, thanks for the Info. Is this a personality they will have for life?

mum45 · May 20, 2009, 06:34 PM

If she were a young teen, I would say she could outgrow, but obviously you are quite older since you can afford restaurants where silverware is required!! So, that in mind, I would hazard a guess she is not of an age where change in personality won't come until a lot of life experience happens. Like when the grandchildren come.

I wish · May 20, 2009, 06:39 PM

You're better off staying away from her.

BlackVY · May 20, 2009, 06:46 PM

Sounds like she was mothering u a little too much...

Also, she was under pressure from her family I guess to try to impress them with you, but that's still no excuse for the way she was.

Maybe in the end, you didn't live up to her or her family's expectations, so yeah, don't worry about it, if she doesn't think you were good enough, then she isn't good enough for you.

liz28 · May 20, 2009, 07:01 PM

Originally Posted by markerman

Hey, thanks for the Info. Is this a personality they will have for life?

I am beginning to think your not over her.

I wish · May 20, 2009, 07:18 PM

Originally Posted by liz28

I am begining to think your not over her.

Have to spread rep.

It's not just think, for sure he's not over her.

Just stay away from her, she's just trouble for you.

basketballlover · May 20, 2009, 07:20 PM

Yes. It sounds like she was very controlling. It isn't very normal to be saying things like that 2 months into the relationship.

markerman · May 20, 2009, 09:55 PM

Originally Posted by liz28

I am begining to think your not over her.

No, it just hurts because I put up with her controlling ways hoping it would get better, then she was the one that ended it. I think because I wasn't easy to change. She told me she wants to be friends but I told her not even a friend would treat me like that. The whole thing makes me mad because I treated her so good..

markerman · May 20, 2009, 09:59 PM

Originally Posted by mum45

If she were a young teen, I would say she could outgrow, but obviously you are quite older since you can afford restaurants where silverware is required!!! So, that in mind, I would hazard a guess she is not of an age where change in personality won't come until a lot of life experience happens. Like when the grandchildren come.

The girl is 23, I think it is just her personality. It just hurts because I put up with her controlling ways hoping it would get better, then she was the one that ended it. I think because I wasn't easy to change. She told me she wants to be friends but I told her not even a friend would treat me like that. The whole thing makes me mad because I treated her so good.. I realize that it would probably get worse and worse if I would have stayed with her.. Why do people try and control others?

ChihuahuaMomma · May 20, 2009, 10:11 PM

With some people it's personality. With my ex it was the way that he was raised. He wasn't born in America so a lot of the things that seemed so normal and appropriate in a relationship he did not, and vice versa.

You're just not compatible. You can do better. Move on. Good luck.

HuggyKat · May 20, 2009, 10:25 PM

Total control freak. The way I look at relationships may be prehistoric, but I believe that each counterpart in a relationship should be each other's cheering section. Criticising how you eat and commenting on your shoes and feeling it necessary to tell you that you are being judged by ANYONE is just plain hurtful and wrong and grossly immature on her part. Be glad it's over. Someone will come along who will love you for who you are - not for what they want you, or expect you to be. This was about her... not you! ;)

SunnyDaize22 · May 20, 2009, 11:28 PM

I think that this girl has some problems of her own that she needs to deal with. I think every girl can be controlling at times, but maybe she just needs to learn (from that relationship especially) that you can't change a person...

markerman · May 21, 2009, 12:01 AM

Originally Posted by HuggyKat

Total control freak. The way I look at relationships may be prehistoric, but I believe that each counterpart in a relationship should be each other's cheering section. Criticising how you eat and commenting on your shoes and feeling it necessary to tell you that you are being judged by ANYONE is just plain hurtful and wrong and grossly immature on her part. Be glad it's over. Someone will come along who will love you for who you are - not for what they want you, or expect you to be. This was about her....not you! ;)

Hey, thanks for the great feedback! It made me feel a lot better... :)

joysjrny · May 21, 2009, 12:44 AM

To be honest with you that is very obvious... who is she looking for? Sure we want our families to get along with the love of our lives, but to tell you that they are still checking you out so to say. For me I don't want to be with a man unless there was qualities I already foresaw that I appreciated. For example I recently got together with my first true love from back in high school and I can't even remember what shoes he wore when I visited him. I know he wore jeans and t-shirts. We went out to a play and a nice dinner and he dressed up... for me (his decision). If he had wanted to have worn a nice aloha shirt and casual pants or whatever. I want the man for who he is mentally, physically, and spiritually. YES, she is a CONTROL FREAK because in order for her to be happy she thinks she has to have everything a certain way. If I were you the next time you run into a woman like that tell her then why did you go out to dinner with me?

kay84 · May 21, 2009, 01:08 AM

Originally Posted by kctiger

All of the issues you spoke of sound like signs of a typical nagging female, if you ask me...:cool:

Hey not all of us r like that thank u lol xx