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liz28 · May 14, 2009, 05:21 PM

To the OP your not over your ex. Didn't you state you and your ex break-up was mutal? If so, what is this about closure, after a year?

UntilTheEnd · May 14, 2009, 06:07 PM

Originally Posted by liz28

To the OP your not over your ex. Didn't you state you and your ex break-up was mutal? If so, what is this about closure, after a year?

Nope it wasn't mutual, she broke up with me for another guy but I'm all over it now and I disappeared from her life without a single word, I just thought it would be good to leave things on good terms and start our life without each other.

chuff · May 14, 2009, 06:12 PM

Originally Posted by UntilTheEnd

nope it wasnt mutual, she broke up with me for another guy but im all over it now and i disappeared from her life without a single word, i just thought it would be good to leave things on good terms and start our life without each other.

She left on good terms a year ago. Her life continued or started or whatever you want to call it. She's fine. It's your turn to be fine now. She care about you anymore and she doesn't need you to start her life so start your own life without her.

jenniepepsi · May 14, 2009, 06:16 PM

Chuff, instead of stealing this thread I made a post here. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/lounge...ml#post1735864

I tried to put it on a comment but I had already given you rep and it wouldn't let me give you more LOL

UntilTheEnd · May 14, 2009, 06:25 PM

Originally Posted by chuff

She left on good terms a year ago. Her life continued or started or whatever you want to call it. She's fine. It's your turn to be fine now. She care about you anymore and she doesn't need you to start her life so start your own life without her.

Okay Chuff, that was all I needed to hear. I ll do exactly that.

UntilTheEnd · May 19, 2009, 02:13 PM

Lol okay guys. Here's the situation, I got a summer job at this company. Been working there for a few weeks and just a few days ago, my boss's daughter started to working there. I think she looks cute but I'm shy to talk to her and also I don't think my boss would appreciate it if I hit on her. We're about the same age, plus there's not many young people that work there. Whenever, she walks by, I get all nervous lol. Anyway, what do you guys think? How do I overcome my shyness to talk to her? Do you think it's a good idea hitting on the boss's daughter?

Justwantfair · May 19, 2009, 02:16 PM

I think it's a horrible idea to hit on the boss's daughter.

Work on your shyness by becoming friends with females. Often when you are friends with female, you will find out there isn't that much to be afraid of... they are the same as you, just different. :D

I wish · May 19, 2009, 02:27 PM

Well if you're only working during the summer, then you can start hitting on her when you go back to school. That way, there won't be a conflict of interest.

BlackVY · May 19, 2009, 03:50 PM

Yup, I agree with the above 2 posts.

Work on your shyness and be friends with her. Her father (your boss) can't say no to you guys being friends. Hang out... talk... get to know her.

Then once you are done working there, be friends with her for a little while more, then eventually ask her out. Don't ask her out as soon as you stop working there though..

UntilTheEnd · May 29, 2009, 09:36 PM

Hi everyone.

Just in case you guys don't know, I have recently broke up with my ex. She was my first love and first girlfriend and everything. Im still healing although I think I'm getting better now its been almost 2 months since I last talked to her, I disappeared from her life.

Anyway, recently I've been regretting I lost my viriginity to her because I wanted my first to be with someone special and someone who I was going to be with for the rest of my life, I thought it was her. I guess its my fault, I thought me and her were going to be together forever but she left me for some other guy. I just don't feel so good. I regret losing my virginity to her and its something I can't take back. Anyway I'm not sure what my question is, I guess I wanted to know what you guys think about this.

Justwantfair · May 29, 2009, 09:46 PM

A good 90% of men and women polled would admit that the regret losing their virginity, when they lost their virginity, to whom they lost their virginity.

Everyone has an ideal and sometimes life doesn't work out the way we had planned. I was going to be married at 23, have four children, Frankie, Freddie, Fergie, and Francis, before I was 28.

Life will change you, learn from it and grow as an individual, it's the best you can do. You can't change your past, it's behind you.

taoplr · May 29, 2009, 10:36 PM

You will find that what you bring to your romantic life determines the meaning of it more than anything historic. Pretty much everybody does it the way it happens, rather than the way they would have planned. You have already found that out. If it's important to you, just know that plenty of guys feel the same, and keep in mind that you loved the woman who was your first.

Tao

Fr_Chuck · May 30, 2009, 05:26 AM

What has happened has happened, keep it as a fond memory ( and hopefully over the years it becomes one) I still remember and have keep a specail place in my heart for well over 30 years.

I wish · May 30, 2009, 06:47 AM

That's why so many religions beileve in sex after marriage.

Think about it this way, let's say you regret not going to be a different high school or university, but you had a great prom and graduation. Those events kind of made the whole educational experience worth it. A little bit different but...

She may have hurt you now, but she was really special to you at one point in your life. So instead of having a horrible memory of her, add this to the good times that you once had and move forward with that.

chuff · May 30, 2009, 07:29 AM

I understand that was something of value that you felt like you could have offered someone. But on the flip side if that was something of value that she could not appreciate, you are better off letting her have the virginity and giving the love to someone who will appreciate it.

Lonelyandbroken · May 30, 2009, 08:44 AM

I too wanted that fairy tale of being with just one person forever. And I thought I had found it. But it didn't work out. And like you I had those feelings about giving myself to her. But I decided to look at it a different way.

I said to myself. You truly loved her at the time. And you wanted to be with her. There's nothing wrong with that. And at least you gave it to someone you really loved. Not some random drunk fling. And after that I never regretted what had happened. It was just a different fairy tale.