[romatique]

You are messing with bad KARMA

Nah

[Silverfoxkit]

This is not necessary true in my opinion. I know this from my own experinces. I've been in this relationship for about 5 years now and been trying to make things go better with any pozitive resault. So I'm now tired of trying and ready to give up.This doesn't have anything to do with my coworker. I don't see my boyfriend changing himself soon and I know it's hard. We are 2 different people who every time when we try to do something, nothing good comes out from it. We argue every day, many times about the same things. I see many "bad" things in him and less good things.

While these may be your circumstances this may not be the case for your co-worker. He may be able to salvage his relationship with support, not temptation to waver. If you are truly unhappy in your own circumstances and you feel you are past the point or repair then perhaps you should end the relationship and let both of you move on with your lives.

[liz28]

Listen, you need to read all the other threads from woman in your situation.

If he is having problems in his marriage, like the rumor you heard, don't you think your just be adding to it? And if anything just would be his ecape goat?

Are you really telling me that you want to sit around and wait for him? If so, this is really sad.

Of course he is wrong but so are you and he isn't on here asking this question but you are. People are just trying to talk some common sense into you, which is something you should have.

You knowing is thinking about getting involve with married man. So what if he flirts with you. He wouldn't continue to flirt with you if he know you didn't want his attention. It takes 2 to flirt and all your doing is giving an opening which is something you shouldn't have did.

Two wrongs don't make it right and if your really considering a future with this then that tells me a lot about you and don't even know you.

What's make you think that if he can do this to his wife he won't do it to you? Wake up! What is wrong with some women today?

[ccdoll38]

First and foremost, HE IS MARRIED!! Do not be a homewrecker. You only like him because of the attention he's giving you and that makes you feel special. Think about his wife and maybe children. Put yourself in the wife's shoes and the children. Do you really think that worth it?

[talaniman]

Many red flags are waving here, and the first one is your seeing things through the eyes of someone frustrated with there own partner, and THINK, because you have heard RUMORS of his marriage, and gives you some very ordinary attention, he may have feelings for you. That's wishful thinking at best, with hardly any facts behind it.

True its natural to have feelings, and be attracted to others, especially seeing them every day, but even that is based on feelings, as you still only know him from work, and not how he is the rest of the time.

Tell you what, end the relationship your in, and be single, and then see what options, and opportunities, there are that can be healthy, and rewarding, before just jumping into something that's a figment of your imagination at this point.

From what you have written, his interest is nothing more than as a co worker, in a friendly way, that your blowing up into some hope of future happiness. Or he is using your feelings against you, to see if you are side sex material, and if you will accept his being married, and allow him to cheat on his wife.

Both cases should be a caution to your actions, and thinking, to be aware of the facts, and not just the feelings. Then you won't have to regret, being made a fool of, by not seeing what's really going on.

That's something you owe to yourself, so take care of home first, before you mess up at work.

[Fuzzball_Kara]

I'd stick to this advice that everyone is giving you. It's a bad move. She's married and if you did care at all for him, you would let him go and have a future with his own wife. He married her and as all people have temptations of some sorts, you're not being a very good friend if you're making it harder for them to resist the temptation. Yes, it is a rush. And you will truly regret it if you get into this mess. Trust me.

[JudyKayTee]

If he IS interested in you, why would you do this to another woman?

Aen't there any single, eligible men in your town?