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    artlady Posts: 4,208, Reputation: 1477
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    #21

    Apr 11, 2009, 05:41 AM

    When you feel like you are always getting the short end of the stick,you probably are.
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    #22

    Apr 12, 2009, 07:50 PM
    try it again?
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    as I've mentioned in my pevious question, I got dumped..
    he had the new person... blah blah blah.
    Anyway, I planned at trip to Orlando FL. I crossed a problem, ex boyfriend hasn't returned camera. I text him, and in a very nice way (compared to my earlier texts) I ask him again, to return it.. even saying I could come get it if he needed me to.. he replys I'll get it to you tomarrow.
    the next day at work he comes by ironically I was on my break so he sits with me and another friend, and we make small talk.. he causally asks me if I still hate him, I tell him I definitely was mad, but made a gesture that I didn't really care anymore.. although I really do deep down, I'm still hurt.. or I wouldn't be doing this, obviously.. also he makes sure he tells my friends that he is definitely not dating this person that I thought he left me for.
    but anyway, he sticks around my workplace, with a couple of our mutual friends and then he disappears..
    I hadn't seen him in almost 15-20 days, I had mixed emotions. Happy to see him yet sad cause I missed him even though he done me wrong.
    after work I randomly get a text saying again sorry it took so long to get my camera back to me, I know he is using this as an excuse to talk to me because he had already told me this when he gave it to me.. I say you are forgiving he says so are we cool now? I say yes
    he says that's good because I want to be able to talk to you like tonight you know I thought that was going to be really awkward.. he says he's glad that I don't hate him and we continue to talk a little and he suddenly stops talking, I assume he fell asleep it was really late.
    I wonder what he means, does he want to try this again or does he just want to be friends?
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    #23

    Apr 12, 2009, 11:34 PM

    Ask him. He might know what he wants, and he might be figuring himself out.
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    #24

    Apr 13, 2009, 06:13 AM

    This is why we tell you not to talk to your ex so quickly after your break up, it only fuels your confusion.
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    #25

    Apr 13, 2009, 06:42 AM

    You need more time to figure things out for yourself. You are still hurting from his actions. Don't cause more pain for yourself by talking to him.

    NC works by removing the pain an ex can cause through contact from your life, allowing you to even out again emotionally.
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    #26

    Apr 13, 2009, 08:35 AM
    You got your camera, mission accomplished. Now keep your dignity and respect, by cutting the contact to eliminate any more confusion, false hope, and second guessing.

    Enjoy your trip!!

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