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tboy22 · Jun 23, 2009, 01:00 PM

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Any advice from anyone would be great.

Me n my ex girlfriend split up 2 months ago now, it was all hot headed now I look back and we both agreed leaving each other alone for a while would be good. Then when its all chilled we should meet up.

We haven't spoken much at all, the last month not once. Ive started my new job & I know she was going forward with her career just now.

I'd really like too meet up for a chat. There's no pressure anymore, I feel too just hang with her would be great. Just wondering how to go about it.

I see now how we were full-on always planning and arranging which clearly wasn't good for a relationship still really young itself. Bit too much. I think it would be good to see each other relaxed! :) I'm curious what it would be like to see each other now, I do miss her.

Just wondering what would be best to say

Justwantfair · Jun 23, 2009, 01:07 PM

After two months, I don't honestly believe that you are ready to return to a friendship with this person.

I think you believe that you are ready, but a premature attempt at contact can be disastrous.

talaniman · Jun 23, 2009, 01:15 PM

Didn't you ask this question last month?? What has changed besides your curiosity?

tboy22 · Jun 23, 2009, 01:50 PM

Having a relationship should be a bonus in life. We were happy, I believe breaking up was because we BOTH we massively involved. We were full on from the off. That's because it made us both happy. I believe we split because of a few small agurments in a short space, due to us both agreeing we were hot headed.

Its was great, I think we have learnt our lesson, and I just wonder what to say next? You don't just walk around from something great when you believe its not over yet.

talaniman · Jun 23, 2009, 01:58 PM

You say we, but you haven't talked to her, so you can't speak for her.

Justwantfair · Jun 23, 2009, 02:02 PM

Originally Posted by tboy22

having a relationship should be a bonus in life. we were happy, i believe breaking up was because we BOTH we massively involved. we were full on from the off. thats because it made us both happy. i believe we split because of a few small agurments in a short space, due to us both agreeing we were hot headed.

its was great, i think we have learnt our lesson, and i just wonder what to say next? you dont just walk around from something great when you believe its not over yet.

You are not ready for a friendship.
I say leave her alone, when she is ready she will contact you.
Better yet wait for fate.

kctiger · Jun 23, 2009, 02:03 PM

Riddle me this: if you are ready for a friendship, then are you ready to see her being intimate with another guy? If the answer is NO, then don't try to work out a friendship with her...

tboy22 · Jun 23, 2009, 02:44 PM

I agree, I want her back.

We didn't end on a bad note & agreed to chill it, I've been stuburn and didn't get in touch back after messages if I'm OK, just felt I had to think of myself. I feel I have had enough time and I would like to see her again

I miss her

talaniman · Jun 23, 2009, 05:44 PM

KC asks a good question, what if she has a romantic interest, or boyfriend?? Are you waiting for us to tell you to go for it?? Its about healing enough to make good decisions for YOURSELF, not getting an ex back.