[achampio21]

Ok well we talked and basically he is SERIOUSLY stressed out about his job and the lies he has told me have been (him talking) to protect me from knowing all of his stresses because I have enough of my own.

We have recently been through some MAJOR issues with both sides of our family, I went through a cancer and big surgery, I was out of work but still racking up medical bills.

He comes home everyday after work. He rarely goes out with friends, he spends time with kids, he keeps them for me to go to work or go have "me" time, and he spends A LOT of money on the family since he is the main money source.

We also agreed that we NEVER get any time alone. We don't have any family to babysit, and our work schedules don't allow for a daycare to babysit for us to be together.

He suggested a family vacation this fall.

I feel inadequete(sp?) because I don't own anything, I don't make hardly any money, I can't do repairs on the house or cars, and most of the drama in our lives is because of my family or me needing medical treatment.

He said he knows my insecurities stem from my past but that he doesn't help by being really hurtful when we fight and by keeping things (even if they are stressful) from me. He said he was sorry, that he doesn't want me to feel that way and to remember that no matter what he will always love me and will always be in love with me.

AND WE Didn't"T EVEN HAVE SEX BEFORE OR AFTER THE TALK!!!! So I know it was from his heart not his penis!!!!! lol

Thank you all for advice. Hopefully we can figure out a way to get some "us" time in.


PS Talaniman> thank you for answer! I have to spread it around some! But you are amazing as always!!