[talaniman]

Whatever you decide, handle your home life first. Which ever way you choose to go.

Be aware also of your weakness at this point for anything that looks better than what you have now.

When we are hungry enough, we will eat anything.

In light of your choices so far, some alone time is the best way to decide what you really want, and how is the best way to go about having it.

[thadevilsadvocate]

"Til death do you part". That is what you should be remembering at a time like this. It isn't his fault that you decided to marry thinking that it would change him. He held up his end of the deal, being there for you for better or worse, when you were going through your tough time. You told him to his face when you got married that you would accept him for better or worse. You didn't say that you would only hold up your end of the deal for a certain time, or only in certain situations. You were making a commitment to be with this man for the remainder of your life on earth, and vowing to be there through whatever may come your way. You should be spending your time and effort on working on your relationship with your husband, talking to him about his depression, going to great lengths to help him make progress towards coming out of it.

You had four years, before you got married, in which you were well aware of the person that he was, and you still chose to marry him. Now commitment is staring you right in the face. Commitment is nothing new though. It is the same commitment you were vowing to uphold when you were loving the rock that he put on your finger, and the beautiful white dress you picked out. You are now faced with keeping your word and it should be that simple.

[grindin]

You should think through this clearly. You've been with your husband for 6 years and now you just met a "new guy" and say that you're already in love with him. Why do you love this other person? Does he have something your husband doesn't? Is it because you've been with your husband for too long? You bored? Or have you lost your love for him because you can't love your husband and some other guy at the same time. He's been there for you through your bad times it seems, and it seems that he loves you for who you are if he would be there for you. The question is can you be there for him and fall in love with him again?