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    Romefalls19 Posts: 4,739, Reputation: 1130
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    #21

    Jan 15, 2009, 05:50 PM

    Liz, I hope you didn't misunderstand my post. I wasn't implying that every time a girl is in a bad mood that it is PMS, I just did not like how the one post said that as a reason.

    PS Tell him I said "fly eagles fly!"
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    #22

    Jan 15, 2009, 06:08 PM

    Buddy, you need to pull back and give her some space. If she's acting like this then something's up. Nothing you can do about it though---Whatever is going on inside her only she can sort it out--especially if you've done nothing wrong in your view. Whatever you say or do might just make things worse.

    For now, you need to focus on yourself and let her come to you. Do not intervene, if she wants it to work then let her put some effort into it also, otherwise, it's not fair to you to have to pour your heart into a one-way relationship. Keep your dignity and realise that if she doesn't appreciate you then someone else will.
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    #23

    Jan 15, 2009, 06:08 PM

    No, I understood your post but I just question the PMS thing. I'll tell my fiancé what you said even though I don't know what it means.lol
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    #24

    Jan 17, 2009, 08:01 PM

    How long has she been ignoring you, and is this the first time?
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    #25

    Jan 17, 2009, 08:16 PM

    Hi bmc-imr4380,

    It looks like the girl is avoiding you as she is not into you- for some reason, it sounds like it is her way of calling t all off without actually saying the words? I am sorry but if that is the case, that is a v poor, disrepectful way of tell someone they don't want to be with them.

    I find this behaviour all rather 'fishy' if you ask me. I think they may be more to whatever reason she has told you. You will need to judge the situation with how she behaves, rather than what comes out of her mouth.
    For now,
    Do NOTHING.
    Keep yourself busy
    SHow her nothing
    Let her have all the space she wants.
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    #26

    Jan 19, 2009, 11:09 AM
    All right the answer to Talaniman's question is about 3 weeks and yes this is the first time.

    Zeeniee, the only way I knew something was up was because one of my best friends is dating her best friend. So I only found out through them. Yea I have made an attempt to talk to her but she won't take it and when we happen to be in the same place at the same time she doesn't even acknowledge Im there.
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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    #27

    Jan 19, 2009, 12:32 PM

    You have tried, and based on her behavior, I leave her alone, as this will giver her time to think without your influence, and let your emotional dust settle.

    Don't you think it's a red flag when someone treats someone, like she is treating you?

    Of course something is up, and it can't be good. So no pie in the sky, hope for the best, attitude here.

    Distance yourself as you prepare, for whatever, or confront her with your fears, and wash your hands of someone who refuses to communicate.
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    #28

    Jan 19, 2009, 12:45 PM

    This girl obviously feels something is wrong, and most likely it is not something you did. I would give her one more chance to tell you if something is wrong and if she doesn't answer then just leave it alone. If she wants to, eventually she will come to you. Most likely this situation is not worth you're time long term anyway since this girl obviously can be immature sometimes and has trouble communicating. Besides, your best chance at getting her back is by just living and having a good time without her. I know I had a similar situation happen to me and I kept pushing her to tell me what was wrong and it didn't help. Sometimes people don't know what is wrong but just need time to figure stuff out. Fair enough, but it's your time to so don't waste too much of it worrying about it.

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