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BlackVY · Dec 9, 2008, 08:49 PM

Thanks... yeah... I know it's a red flag... and talking to her ex and going to a bar and kissing him is a huge red flag... and her reason is because she was lonely... and this was like 30min after I left her house... so not good there.. but yeah, I've always told her words are words... but actions mean more... so show me... right now wit this "leaving the country" thing, she is not showing me she is stable or dependable or that she even loves me, if she thinks she can just leave and go start a new life somewhere else and be happy... but either way, the choice is hers... we'll see what she says...

BlackVY · Dec 9, 2008, 09:37 PM

Hmmm yeah I guess that's right... she does know that her family will never be OK with her decision to be with me, but she doesn't know what to do. They are saying things to her about me, and even some of her friends, not that she has very many, are saying things to her... nobody understands that I want to marry her because I love her and she loves me... they all think I have other motives or intentions... LIKE WHAT?

N0help4u · Dec 9, 2008, 09:42 PM

She needs time and space to clear her head before she or you can move on -at least move on together.

BlackVY · Dec 9, 2008, 09:50 PM

Thanks... yeah... she needs time and that's what I'm going to give her... not going to push her into anything or away... not going to rush her...

talaniman · Dec 11, 2008, 07:18 PM

She has a lot of issues to resolve herself, before she can be ready for anything.

Dude she needs help, and a doctor is who she needs to see, not you, not her family, and certainly not a preacher.

Sorry!

BlackVY · Dec 11, 2008, 08:42 PM

Thanks man... but no need to worry about all that stuff anymore... its all gone... she can go deal with whateva she wants...

Romefalls19 · Dec 12, 2008, 06:23 AM

Drinking is no excuse to be going kissing around with guys. She wasn't drunk when she left and went to the bar with him, wasn't drunk after the first drink and surely could tell when she's had too much to drink. If you can't handle your alcohol then stay away from it. It's kind of like swimming, if you don't know how to do it stay out of the pool!

Tell her that her flight leaves at 8:00pm... And that flight is the one out of your life

kctiger · Dec 12, 2008, 07:58 AM

So... I am too lazy to read through this entire thread. Did she end up leaving?

LifeChangesMan · Dec 12, 2008, 10:18 AM

Hey BlackVY,

Sorry, I have not been around I just can't keep the ladies off me now-a-days. :D no but really back to your situation.

I think you got to let her go, I've spoke to you a lot over the past month and you're a great person and deserve the same greatness in return my friend. If she's threatening you by leaving let her go man. You can't make some one stay, I feel like by her making these threats she's counteracting what she did to try and get you to make her stay instead of you throwing her out for what she did! Come on ex's do not need to be involved in your new relationships, that's just dumb and to go to the bar and kiss him and etc, and if that is where it stopped... you know? :(

BlackVY! Come on dude, do me a favor and yourself go write down all the + / - about your relationship and see which list is longer dude, just because you've been with some one for so long doesn't mean she/he is the one!

I thought two months ago my girlfriend leaving me was the WORST thing in the entire world, the most hurtful thing, something you wouldn't wish on your worst enemy but, now... jeez, I could NOT be any happier, I got great friends, and met a bunch of great new girls who I never thought I could have a connection to like my ex, but they are out there man. I promise you!

I hope this helps you!

Take Care,

LCM