[kidsbme3]

I was 14 and he was 23, so I do understand the other side as well. Thank you for your help.

You were 14? He was 23? What? I thought we were talking about your son at 15 and a girl at 9.[/QUOTE]

I was molested. As a child as well, and do understand the other side of the coin.

[Alty]

I was 5 when I was molested by my 12 year old cousin.

OP, you said that you were molested at the age of 14, so can't you understand the perspective of the 9 year old in this case?

I know he's your son, I know you want to protect him, but the man that molested you was someone's son as well. Did you report him? If so, did he pay for his crime? Do you think that what he did to you is okay and that he shouldn't be punished?

Yes, he's your son, he'll always be your son, but you also have to realize that he's a molester. You can still love him, but you do have to accept that he did something bad and he should pay for it.

Being molested changes your entire life, I know that side of the coin as well. If you son gets away with this, who's to say he won't do it again. You can't be certain he won't. Do you want him molesting another innocent child?