[Wildcat21]

Women have this radar... they know thinsg guys don't. I rarely heard a women's gut instanct be wrong.

[J_9]

I distinctively knew when my ex was cheating. He always came home late, truly was his job as a manager of a pizza delivery place. I just felt it deep inside my being.

[Wildcat21]

Always... for ever.

[talaniman]

I'm still not ready to go that far and say a guy is cheating with so little to go on. You've got to admit there aren't a lot of facts to support a cheating partner here and from what the poster said ,well she sounds more insecure than anything! But it is hard to bet against a woman's gut feeling. MORE FACTS PLEASE before we hang an innocent man.

[coco]

Trust your instincts/intuition. That's a pathetic excuse to say "sorry im really stressed at work" even if he was people do not fly off the handle like that over something so silly. His reaction is a classic response to be caught out for something. This is NOT a healthy relationship & before you get yourself into severe depression etc you need to GET OUT.

I agree with Chery you need to talk to someone who can find out what is really going on inside you. I was in the same situation for a few years: very successful business woman but with very low self-esteem when it came to my relationships which caused huge problems then over a year ago I sought the help a great Life coach who was also trained in counselling & after a lot of hard work am now back on track & the person I was before the event that triggered this low self-esteem. So I am talking from experience & do feel that a relationship is not the place for you yet as you have more important things to do: sort out what's going on inside. Whilst you are like this you will continue to attract all the wrong people, once I had sorted myself out I met a great guy & am in a happy relationship with him, yes we have ups & downs - that is life but NOTHING like what it used to be like. I feel secure in the relationship but more importantly know that if it doesn't work out I am comfortable being on my own until the next person comes along.

Please seek help - it will be the best thing you have ever done.

[valinors_sorrow]

MORE FACTS PLEASE before we hang an innocent man.

BINGO!

These are mostly signs of someone not handling intuition well. Its one thing to have a hunch, its quite another to be either driving yourself crazy with it or acting on it with NO substantiating proof. I see, hear and feel lots of things. I am sincere in this. I have learned to not react as much, to look for confirmation from at least several independent sources and try to discern what is best for everyone before acting on such "insider" information.

I do not get bogged down in the minute and mostly meaningless details of it, ever! And I am really careful not to label something a problem until I am very sure it is. And there seems to be a whole lot of that going on here in this thread. The BIG picture, your gut instincts and proof is what I advise.

If you don't acquire a similar viewpoint, you'll end up paranoid which won't benefit anyone, including you. I hope that helps!

[s_cianci]

I wouldn't call back. It was pretty rude of him to just drop his conversation with you to take the other call from "McDonald's" on his personal mob. As it was, he didn't even call you back, you had to call him. Unitl he starts showing some respect for your time and making you a priority I'd stay away from him.

[Chery]

could it be this :- sometimes i feel he is too good to be true?

Dear flower. You are getting close to the 'real picture' through the words you posted here...

Please work on yourself to get your self-esteem and self-confidence! Stop putting yourself down so low, because you can't expect anyone to pick you up but yourself.

Good luck.

Just in case you do email me, use the word 'PEANUT' in the title, as I don't open mail if I don't know who sends it.

[flower81]

Thanks u guys thanks :)

[Chery]

thanks u guys thanks :)

We are here for you. Don't give up on yourself and keep us posted.

[[crh]]

Yes, a lack of security maybe, but if your boyfriend is going to do things to MAKE you even more insecure...

Has your boyfriend done things in the past that have pushed your trust? Is this the first type of thing? In my experience, all people would go "that was strange, he hung up on me" after something like that, but only if you suspected something before might you think what you did. So are there other signs?

It might be very well people telling you that your insecure. But, if at the end of the day your boyfriend is cheating your insecurity would haveworked to your advantage.

It's the wost feeling in the world having to try get over something when you feel your partner may still be lying. Makes you feel as if you have been kept in the dark, and I think that's a terable thing, when you don't, and might not ever know the truth. The only thing you can do is talk to him about it, and ask him to be honest. After that, there isn't much more you can do, except wait, and just be causious, and see if anything else materialises in the next few months.

If not, then you are pritty safe. If it does then you know your answer. One thing though, don't do Too much worrying in between. Will effect your bladder in the long run, and women already go to the toilet way too much! ;)

- chris - :eek:

[lee t]

In a cheating situation. I would rather be blind to it than suspect my love and be wrong.I would like to be the one in Love and not know.If the relationship comes to an end Then you have done nothing wrong. And the failure was on his part.Since you are not happy tell him to make you happy or someone else will.There can not be love without trust.

[Wildcat21]

That's ridiuclous... you will always be lead on, played, used. No one wants that

[sassypea]

. The fact that he phoned to say sorry, to me that means something good.

ha!

Have you ever seen cheaters? Those people had suspiscions. Your boyfriend called to say sorry because he realized he screwed up and needed to cover.

[Wildcat21]

This is from August.

[sassypea]

Yeah, so?

[Skell]

The question has been asked and the original poster has been answered. All as wildcat was trying to say wa that it might be best if you answered some threads that were more recent. It would be much more helpful.

Chances are that this poster has gone and will not get your answer.

Look for questions that have been asked in the last few days.