[cdad]

califdadof3 i am sure you speak from experience. i do not offer legal advice (i am no attorney) i just offer common sense. mommy is very nervous and wants support monetarily and i'm sure emotionaly. he has the opportunity to do the right thing. telling him to do nothing is not honerable. leaving a preg. woman to pay for everything, is selfish. especialy since his own behaviour caused him to be in the position he is in now.

As far as experience goes I have seen questions like this many times. And also I didn't say to do nothing. I said to set the money aside in an account until OP is the confirmed father. That's still being responsible.. and honorable. To give her money under the expectation that he is the dad then later to find he isn't and expect it to be paid back is unreal. The OP will have obligations to be met once the baby is born and it is proven his. I hate to keep having to put it into question but because they weren't married then his rights are also limited and he will have to fight for paternity unless its given to him by the mother. Such is the world we live in and must deal with it. In no way am I advising him to renig on his support for HIS child.

[JudyKayTee]

because she is frightend. i'm sure you can make a contract with her stating that you are paying all medical bills and upon birth a paternity test will be done, if you are not daddy you will be repaid.

You are giving very bad legal advice - there is absolutely no system which automatically refunds prenatal medical bills if the person is not adjudicated the father.

Stinawords is right - put the money in the bank - if OP is the father, then turn it over.

If you are aware of some provision somewhere, please post it. As far as I know the Courts have taken the position that there is NO father, NO legal responsibility until DNA testing is done so anything given, paid, whatever, is a gift in the eyes of the law.

I realize you say you are posting common sense, not legal advice, but this a legal board.