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    Romefalls19 Posts: 4,739, Reputation: 1130
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    #21

    Sep 5, 2008, 09:35 AM
    I agree with you to a certain extent Tab but also

    2 types of people... Those who accept their condition and move forward, and those who cry about their situation and wait around for them to come back.
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    #22

    Sep 5, 2008, 11:33 AM
    Crying? Who's crying? I am giving space and moving on... going out without her, not calling/texting her.. in fact, she called me first

    What about your quote: "its better to die on ur feet than to live on ur knees"
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    #23

    Sep 7, 2008, 02:21 AM
    Man its just been over a week she's tried to contact me several times but I've remained to stay NC, this is the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life. I can't tell what she's thinking, or doing, or feeling. Time feels like its going so slow...
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    #24

    Sep 9, 2008, 08:55 AM
    Ho for show! Keep up the good work man! Too many out there!
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    #25

    Sep 9, 2008, 09:01 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by tabbarat
    crying? who's crying? i am giving space and moving on...going out without her, not calling/texting her..in fact, she called me first

    what about ur quote: "its better to die on ur feet than to live on ur knees"

    My quote? I'm not sure if your trying to prove my point or what, but the quote means that it's better to die without begging or crawling than it is to do all of that crap.

    Why should any person have to sit around and wait for someone? I would much rather stay on my feet and walk away rather than sit around waiting for someone to come back around.
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    #26

    Sep 9, 2008, 06:58 PM
    I broke NC lasnite after she kept pestering on msn and calling me and starting 2 get abusive and it was starting to get to a point where it was too much for me as I wanted to hear her voice and here her side of things... (prob a bad move on my part) anyway so I asked her what she wants and she said she wanted that we do our own thing for now.. so she says that after she's been heckling at me and trying to contact me? I don't get it I thought that's what we were doing anyway, but anyway we mutually agreed... I played it cool and wished her luck.. but shortly after agreeing she said she still wants to meet up if we are in each others area and hang out, and I said well see what happens when that time comes, and that was it... we left at that.

    So what should I do now? Should I remain NC? If she wants to do her own thing and probably do her own thing with this other guy but still wants to meet up with me and contact each other.. (HOWEVER JUST TO ADD, SHE STILL DENYS THE OTHER GUY IS MORE THEN A Friend, Actually SHE DENYS THAT There's ANOTHER GUY ALTOGATHER! ) why won't she tell me about this other guy? Has she still got feelings for me and still wants me in the picture? Or is she confused and wants to test the waters with this other guy first? My friend asked her "so when are you going public with this new guy" she said there is nothing going on with him and he's nothing, its just fun apparently.

    So right now I'm confused as to WHAT I SHOULD DO, what do you guys think? Go for a longer NC period? The 2 weeks seemed to have sunken into her head that she was missing me and didn't want me out of the picture.. seriously she kept calling me ALMOST everyday day but I ignored it for obvious reasons(NC). But atm I don't know if she just wants me in the picture as a friend or not. I still love her but I don't know what to do. Sorry I wrote a essay but you really need to get down the whole story so you guys get the jist of it to understand the scenario and complications involved, and what the outcome may be. So what you think?
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    #27

    Sep 9, 2008, 07:57 PM
    She dragging you back in, man. Don't let her. Be good to YOURSELF. Do you really want to be with someone who keep giving you false hope, especially when she is with another guy? You DESERVE someone better. Someone who isn't going to break up with you just to "test the waters" or "get a fling out of my system."

    Continue and STICK to NC.
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    #28

    Sep 9, 2008, 08:03 PM
    Look at what you've done so far and the results you've had. I guarantee you that if you had been calling her everyday asking her to change her mind instead of doing the NC, she wouldn't have given you the time of day, and now you're driving her crazy because you're making her see that she can't have her cake and eat it too. She's having to deal with that reality. At this point, I think NC is necessary for you to be able to determine what YOU want without her interfering with your thoughts. Keep up no contact. Figure out if you're not better off this way even though you know it will still take time to get over her or keep up NC until both of you are more level headed and can have a constructive conversation about things.
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    #29

    Sep 10, 2008, 02:16 AM
    U have her where you want her.. u had the NC and now she contacts you... first, do you want her back? If no, keep doing what your doing.. she'll get the point... if you want her back, then once in a while be a player... friendly but flirtatious... when you do talk, flirt, then cut it short... show her your having a good time and moving on, but sometimes remind her of the good old days... that will play with her head so much that she will end it with the other guy and come back to u

    Read my situation/question for further details
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    #30

    Oct 7, 2008, 05:47 PM

    Update, sorry its been a while but going through all the drama's of getting back breaking up and getting back 2gather has paid a toll on my sanity.

    Long story short, we got back 2gather, she cut the other guy loose, said to me I was the one & the 1 month of no contact made her realize this, anyhow now since last week she's talking to the other guy again and put him back in her myspace top friends, In front OF ME, and I used to be first spot on her myspace, now he is first spot and I am second.
    Now what the hell do I do? We are still togather and acting like nothing is happening but it still doesn't feel right, she says she is just friends with him and ever since we got back 2gather we been talking everyday and seeing each other on weekends, so I know what she's doing all the time etc, which means I know she hasn't been meeting up with him, but I have grown distant on her in the last couple of days/week because it hurts too much to speak to her knowing that she's sharing feelings with him the "other guy" and I know she calls, txt's speaks to him on msn, and might have met up with him this last week. But Since I've become distant in the last week she has been trying to call and txt'ing me abusing me wondering why I aren't talking to her, WHEN SHE OBVIOUSLY KNOWS WHY, I just don't understand why she is doing this, she told me she was never going to speak to him again and that he meant nothing to her, and now she's speaking to him again! Like should I just cut her off permanently? I don't care if she speaks to him or whatever, WHAT I CARE ABOUT IS THE LIES and BULL coming from her mouth, if she told me she was talking to him again and she might have feelings for him then I wouldn't be so upset, id rather know what's going on then have to find out some other way. Anyway I was suppose to meet her sometime this week but I'm don't know if I want too anymore. What do you think I should do @#$%!!
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    #31

    Oct 7, 2008, 06:00 PM

    Well if that is not a slap in the face, then I don't know what is! Clearly she is not over the guy because she would not have added him on his myspace list. Sure, OK, Myspace should not be the end of the world but it is still a form a communication... an IN YOUR FACE FORM OF COMMUNICATION! I think you should spend some time for yourself and just figure out if she is even worth your time.
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    #32

    Oct 7, 2008, 06:48 PM

    I'm no mathematical genius by any stretch of the imagination but according to my calculator you started to 'date' her when you were 18 and she 13 almost 14? And 4 years later you wonder why she is different? She is a kid and she is playing this game as such. Am I correct in assuming that this was an 'internet' relationship?

    Either way you have to put a whole lot of gone between you and that girl.
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    #33

    Oct 7, 2008, 06:52 PM

    Yeah I am starting to agree with the commenter above... :/ Especially with the age thing... seeing how she is a young buck. I think she is at the point where she wants something new and fresh.
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    #34

    Oct 8, 2008, 02:06 AM
    Hi, AmExp.. how u doin'? ;)

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