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    #21

    Aug 22, 2008, 08:47 AM
    Work on doing things that interest you.
    If you keep up your interests,this will give you time to grieve over what you've
    Lost :)

    When you are ready, explore the possibility of another relationship.
    When this process is over [for however long it takes] then you will be able to move
    On to a new relationship.
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    #22

    Aug 22, 2008, 08:53 AM
    It is that simple, but it is easier said than done.
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    #23

    Aug 22, 2008, 09:01 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by mojo2982
    It is easier said than done.
    Well,"mojo2982" we've helped you the best way we can. It's now up to YOU to do
    Something with it :)
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    #24

    Aug 22, 2008, 09:07 AM
    I will try... I am still hurt and in shock
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    #25

    Aug 22, 2008, 09:08 AM
    Man, just know you are not alone. You are not the only one that has gone through something like this and YES it is so hard. No one denies the fact that this is all hard. You have to get through the hard times to get back to the good ones.

    Respectfully, I wish you the best during this time.
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    #26

    Aug 22, 2008, 09:14 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Smoked
    man, just know you are not alone. You are not the only one that has gone through something like this and YES it is so hard. No one denies the fact that this is all hard. You have to get through the hard times to get back to the good ones.

    respectfully, I wish you the best during this time.
    Thank you so much... I really appreciate it.
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    #27

    Aug 22, 2008, 09:14 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Smoked
    I wish you the best during this time.
    So do I... Please take care of yourself :)
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    #28

    Aug 22, 2008, 09:41 AM
    Is there anything else I can do to help this process?
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    #29

    Aug 25, 2008, 10:37 AM
    Ok... so today, I come into work and I notice that she sent me a text message telling me that she hopes I have a good day. She then went on to tell me that she had a good weekend and the things she did. What is she trying to do??
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    #30

    Aug 25, 2008, 10:45 AM
    What is she trying to do??
    ... Get her interest in you going again!

    How do you feel about that?
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    #31

    Aug 25, 2008, 10:49 AM
    Well this is easier said than done. What should I do?
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    #32

    Aug 25, 2008, 11:03 AM
    Well it all depends what you would like to do...

    Fall for her TRAP [cos that's all it is]

    Or... the strictly no contact rule?
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    #33

    Aug 25, 2008, 11:13 AM
    I am sorry, but I am a little naïve with this stuff, but what is her trap?
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    #34

    Aug 25, 2008, 11:25 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by mojo2982
    What is her trap?
    Her trap is to be nice to you,so that you'll get back with her!

    If you allow that to happen,when it should be strictly NO CONTACT,she has
    Then got you in the TRAP of GUILT for letting it to be so. :(
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    #35

    Aug 25, 2008, 11:26 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by mojo2982
    Ok...so today, I come into work and I notice that she sent me a text message telling me that she hopes I have a good day. She then went on to tell me that she had a good weekend and the things she did. What is she trying to do????
    Keeping you on the hook as a safety net.
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    #36

    Aug 25, 2008, 11:32 AM
    What I do not get is that she called it off... why would she want to get back now?
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    #37

    Aug 26, 2008, 02:53 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by mojo2982
    What I do not get is that she called it off...why would she want to get back now?
    And you don't want her back... that's why you're SOOO confused!

    DON'T give in by breaking the no contact rule.
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    #38

    Aug 26, 2008, 05:53 AM
    No Contact will clear all your confusion, if your busy with what you enjoy.
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    #39

    Aug 26, 2008, 06:04 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by mojo2982
    What I do not get is that she called it off...why would she want to get back now?
    She doesn't want to get back with you. She wants you in her life as a friend, so you will be available, and she doesn't have to be lonely. She also wants to keep your interests keen, just in case, and she wants to be sure your still thinking of her. That's what makes NC the way to go, as you get to name your own agenda, and path you take, without worrying about what her agenda is, or why she does, what she does.
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