[Takodaroo]

To be honest there are a number of ways to help a 2 year old get to sleep. We have tried everyone with varried success and failure. We have tried singing to her, allowing her to fall asleep with us, her mom and her in the same bed dad on the couch. Having her puppy (stuffed animal) and blanket always. She hasent slept in her room crib in 2 months or more... an we try usually she ends up in our bed. Even before we get there and normally there is only room for one of us my baby loves to sprawl! Tonight I have been trying the let her cry it out method... so I am sitting here letting her cry it out, this method sucks but it sometimes works, at least as much of other advice seen here... it all works and doesent all the time... good luck... gotta go I don't think the crying it out will work tonight. Got to try something else

[jenniepepsi]

Hon, are you totally and completely against cosleeping/sharesleeping? (simply letting him sleep in your bed)
Many parents (myself included) don't see any problems, short term or long term, of simply letting him be with you in your bed.

Obviously if this doesn't work for you that's fine :) I'm not saying you NEED to do this. This is just what worked for me and my daughter. It doesn't work for everyone. Just thought I would throw it out there.

[Melissarayner81]

I totally disagree with putting her bed in your room. She needs to learn to fall asleep in her own bed in her own room without mommy or daddy. Trust me my two year old daughter never had a problem going to bed and in her own room but after her dad and I separated and he moved out suddenly she only wanted to be with me in my bed. I gave in mostly because I wanted her to be with me and that was it she was hooked. I tried everything then someone told me about bringing her bed into my room so I did that and with all honesty that just made it worse when I tried to get her to go to bed in her own room it was hell all she wanted was to be with me in my room. So I enlisted the help of my mother so I wouldn't give in and just put her in her bed in her room alone and let her cry it out. And she is stubborn she would cry for almost an hour. So every 15mins I would go in calm her down and start again this went on for 3 or 4 nights until finally she realized I wasn't giving in and it would just be easier to go to bed without me. Now I can put her to bed at 8 read her a story and sing her a lullabye and she'd be out like a light and finally after months of her sleeping with me I finally had some peace and much needed time alone. So please Im begging you don't allow her to sleep in your room no matter what. Even if you have to lay on the floor beside her bed just do it in HER room. She needs to feel comfortable in her own room first then without you. Good luck and don't give up whatever you choose to do.
Melissa

[Melissarayner81]

Sorry but about cosleeping/sharesleeping that of course works if you don't want to make love to your husband or if your single good luck bringing home your date for his first sleep over. Lol Ya its fine to have them in your bed but then when you NEED them out there's no chance in hell. They will never understand that Mommy and Daddy NEED their special alone time. Hey it's a known fact sex is only a problem when someone isn't having it. A key to any healthy relationship and there are many keys I know but sex and just plain alone time with your other half is just as important as time together with your child so keep in mind what your sacrificing. Plus I knew a girl in middle school who slept in her parents bed her whole life but even at 14 she couldn't go to sleep overs or even stay in her back yard.. she had to be with one or both or her parents to fall asleep. Of course that's not everyone but something else to think about. You don't really know how it will effect them until its ALMOST too late.

[jenniepepsi]

Mellissa, its all a matter of preferance, not plain simple fact. My daughter slept in my bed until she was 5. because I wanted her to. She is now going to be 7 in October, and never had any problems sleepingin her own bed after I moved her out of mine. Some kids its not good for, some kids its fine. Its all about finding what works for your child.

I know many parents put a lot of stock in the cry it out method, and just letting them get used to it, and letting them go to sleep on their own. But it doesn't work for some parents.

[Melissarayner81]

Wow that's funny because I think I say of course that's not everyone and good luck whatever you choose. Of course we will have diff opinions that's what this is for to hear diff ideas that may help. I wasn't trying to personally insult you and sorry if I did. I said my peace hope it all worked out for you since its been 2yrs since original post. Hope everyone is sleeping well whatever bed your in. Im personally happy being able to roll over and either going back to sleep or make love to my husband without having to disturb my baby from her slumber and I don't know about anyone else but I def don't want my child in the same room when that's going on. Good night and good luck.

[jenniepepsi]

Why is it funny? I'm confused now. I know you said that.