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N0help4u · Jul 21, 2008, 01:06 PM

IF you do see her make it a farewell until you prove to me you ARE getting help and don't let her sucker you in until she is doing far better.
If she can cheat on you and not be honest with you you are doing nothing but living a lie with her.

sickbro91 · Jul 21, 2008, 02:52 PM

Yup yup I'm seeing her and I'm telling her straight up that if she's going to be messed up on drugs I'm done with her

fjsmith81 · Jul 21, 2008, 03:08 PM

Well I know that you love this girl, but do you think she really loves you? The reason that I ask that is because in my experience people that are drug addicts don't love themselves. Furthermore how can you expect someone to love you if they don't love themselves?

I know that people have told you to leave her, but you really do need to leave her. And I mean leave her. If you love her the best thing that you can do for help is distance yourself. If she is going to kick a drug habit she is going to have to hit rock bottom and that only happens alone. You have already given her the reason for the break up. Now it is time for the hard part. Break-up. That means not seeing her and not talking to her. And I mean stop answering her phone calls avoid and accidentally running into her on the streets. It's going to be hard, but this is something that you have to do and there is no alternative.

Good luck

N0help4u · Jul 21, 2008, 03:19 PM

Also not only do they not love themselves but the love they THINK they have for others is usually a messed up kind of love that is not really love in the first place. It is just their understanding of love and VERY dysfunctional.

fjsmith81 · Jul 21, 2008, 03:26 PM

Originally Posted by N0help4u

Also not only do they not love themselves but the love they THINK they have for others is usually a messed up kind of love that is not really love in the first place. It is just their understanding of love and VERY dysfunctional.

I'm so glad you understand that. I tell people that drug addicts don't love themselves and have very low self esteem and we go into debate about it. How can you put something in your body that is essentially destroying you and everything around you? How you can do the things that you do when you are on drugs and actually think that you have self esteem and love for yourself. It's really sad

hjpan · Jul 21, 2008, 07:25 PM

Watch these videos:

YouTube - A&E Intervention - Antwahn & Billy Pt. 1

YouTube - A&E Intervention - Antwahn & Billy Pt. 2

YouTube - A&E Intervention - Antwahn & Billy Pt. 3

YouTube - A&E Intervention - Antwahn & Billy Pt. 4

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sickbro91 · Jul 21, 2008, 11:12 PM

So I hung out with her today she was balling because I gave her a hug and said " you still accept me for what i've done to you" and then later that day I was like well if you quit your drigs and everything we can see each other but until then I can't see you anymore. And she said she willl try her hardest to stop and be with me. I donno if I should be with her still though?

fjsmith81 · Jul 22, 2008, 08:46 AM

Originally Posted by sickbro91

so i hung out with her today she was balling because i gave her a hug and said " you still accept me for what i've done to you" and then later that day i was like well if you quit your drigs and everything we can see eachother but untill then i can't see you anymore. and she said she willl try her hardest to stop and be with me. i donno if i should be iwth her still tho?

Are you even reading the past posts that everyone submitted??

hjpan · Jul 22, 2008, 11:06 AM

Originally Posted by sickbro91

so i hung out with her today she was balling because i gave her a hug and said " you still accept me for what i've done to you" and then later that day i was like well if you quit your drigs and everything we can see eachother but untill then i can't see you anymore. and she said she willl try her hardest to stop and be with me. i donno if i should be iwth her still tho?

I agree

SweetDee · Jul 22, 2008, 11:25 AM

I understand that you feel like she's the only person right now that understands you. She feels good for you. She makes you happy. Honestly, you HAVE to let her go and consider that you owe yourself more than a druggy girlfriend no matter how wonderful you have been telling yourself that she is. She IS NOT. If you don't let this girl go you will find that months turn into years and years turn into multiple years... time will slip by and then what will you have in the end, other than a drug addicted girlfriend. She needs to quit, but she can only quit for herself, she's incapable of doing it for you. She's an addict. NO ONE ON THIS GREEN EARTH is able to do meth w/out getting addicted... it's like a cheap version of Heroin. The girl is an addict... don't you want a girl that loves you and can enjoy you without drugs? At some point in your life you need to be selfish enough to put your needs first. After all, who else will? Think about it...

sickbro91 · Jul 23, 2008, 12:42 AM

She's only done crystal meth twice in 1 night that I know of she's is done with that I hope. I'm not going to see her for a very long time me and her are separated now. If she's chooses drugs so be it I'm not going to wait around and give her another chance just to up and put me through the same stuff. But if she really quits and really stops just for me I can assure her a friendship but not a relationship of any kind. What in anyone's right mind would go back out with a girl who cheated me them? That's just cruel dumb and stupid. If that's the way she wants to learn I'm not going to be here holding her hand and helping her the whole way there. Thanks everyone for the support reading all your messages really made me understand what I really have to do and what she really is. Thanks for all the different comments you guys are great.

erin7799 · Jul 23, 2008, 06:44 AM

How can she make you so happy if you're so sad all of the time? You need to tell her it's time to clean up or ship out. It's not healthy or fair for her to be bringing you down. You already know it's not OK. Do what you know is right.

SweetDee · Jul 23, 2008, 09:30 AM

I can't imagine why you want to encourage this relationship w/ this girl who has an addiction. Don't you care about yourself more than the need to have a relationship w/ someone whom is HALF there? You are valuable and deserving of love w/ a girl that is not broken, (by addiction). Give yourself a relationship worthy of your love. You can trust that you have as much right to an awesome woman than anyone who already has the wonderful woman in his life. Why should YOU be the one dating an addict? BE THE ONE dating the fabulous women who loves themselves...

sickbro91 · Jul 23, 2008, 11:14 AM

Well when we first met we fell in love because she didn't do any of that stuff. It was just recently like in march to now. And I found out just few days ago. I feel used and abused hahhahah well I'm moving on now I figured out that's she's not that great to me anymore. I've lost all trust in her can beileve anything she says and just can't really do anything about it. She screws up its her fault now I'm not going to stop her from anything or make her do anything .

hjpan · Jul 23, 2008, 11:23 AM

Originally Posted by sickbro91

well when we first met we fell in love because she didnt do any of that stuff. it was just recently like in march to now. and i found out just few days ago. i feel used and abused hahhahah well im moving on now i figured out thats shes not that great to me anymore. i've lost all trust in her can beileve anything she says and just can't really do anything about it. she screws up its her fault now im not going to stop her from anything or make her do anything .

You understand what the consequences are, but she doesn't.

yuyachan · Jul 23, 2008, 12:41 PM

Ahhh... this seems like a hard time for you... well the thing is that she is going to have a hard time getting off it.. she may hate you for doing this but you should tell her parents immediately I know it will break her heart- tell her this

"look-i know that you have been going on drugs for break and i dont want you to do this! i will take action if you continue to use drugs- but i will stay with u thro this" or "and until u stop i dont want to be a part of this"

It may be hard for you. But she needs to learn that she is living in reality- there are profits and loosing-ask her what she is gaining-

I know this is very hard for you but wich do you choose.. her health? Or never see her again?
I would tell and ask for help ASAP all she needs is help, and your thatperson to give her the push into doing so. Give her the confidence- let her know that you are there for her.

twinkiedooter · Jul 23, 2008, 02:24 PM

Sick - You are starting to grow up. She is not growing up at all and it sounds like she won't grow up for a long time. All she does is play the excuses game with you. She is a true game player and you are letting her play these mind games on you. Tears are a great way to get guys to do anything a girl wants and you fell for this hook, line and sinker. She is not going to stop drugs for you or anyone else. She will only stop doing drugs for her.

sickbro91 · Jul 23, 2008, 07:54 PM

I've asked many people that I would call her parents and tell them everything becsue they are so clueless but they have all said not to because its messed up but I really don't know why. If I found out she's doing it again I'm going to wait for like a month then send her parents an e-mail so she can have me out of her mind with all her drugs then there parents find out and she gets way better. I hope. But until she tells me she's doing it again I'm just going to sit here and chill wait for her answer.

hjpan · Jul 23, 2008, 08:38 PM

Originally Posted by sickbro91

i've asked many people that i would call her parents and tell them everything becsue they are so clueless but they have all said not to because its messed up but i really dont know why. if i found out shes doing it again im going to wait for like a month then send her parents an e-mail so she can have me out of her mind with all her drugs then there parents find out and she gets way better. i hope. but untill she tells me shes doing it again im just going to sit here and jus chill wait for her answer.

No. Tell them now before it's too late.

You WILL NEVER KNOW IF SHE WILL O.D ON METH USE.

sickbro91 · Jul 23, 2008, 10:11 PM

She will never do meth or coke ever again I knoiw for sure