[JBeaucaire]

I think EVERYTHING you do that puts you in positions to jump-start things for YOU again... I say go for it. Travel, hobbies, community organizations, girlfriends, group events, social clubs... do it all.

[tiamokiss]

I think EVERYTHING you do that puts you in positions to jump-start things for YOU again...I say go for it. Travel, hobbies, community organizations, girlfriends, group events, social clubs...do it all.

Always doing this.. I'm a social animal :D, but the traveling I was talking about is leaving my beloved country, I have an opportunity to live and work abroad, and forget about all this pain, bad memories and run away :)

[JBeaucaire]

That's not running away. That's embracing a wonderfully diverse future with hope and anticipation. Only YOU can make the trip a runaway event. That doesn't have to be what it is at all.

[mrchef1110]

I would see this opportunity as a way to start over fresh in a new environment where there is nothing tying you down. Don't let the past haunt you embrace it for all the lessons it has taught you and move forward in a new environment where anything and everything is possible.

[ylaira]

No matter what we say here, you will still feel whatever you're feeling. We appreciate your sharing. As of now, take your time to feel the pain but try to be productive: be busy. Joing clubs, meet people, discover new hobby.
Some of us shared the same experience one way or another and the only things that can heal a broken heart are TIME and NEW LOVE.

[Chery]

You were not straight-forward with him in the first place. You thought your talent for business would get you the reward you wanted - this backfired, maybe because you worked too hard and did not take time for sharing personality and entertainment.

You worked your rear-end off and sacrificed your time and energy on him, but apparently did not send the right signals for fear that he might think you a slut... Well, you lost.

Now, financially, you are still tied to him - you can always sell out your share of the company and move on. He will think what he wants to think - you have no control over that. But if you want him to think something else, tell him you need a new challenge and want to try your business talents elsewhere.

You could take a holiday where girls of your 'culture' can go and perhaps find someone else to share a good time with someone who respects you for your looks and personality and not just your talent for business. Some men don't care about how good you are at a job, they might actually want to be the 'bread-winner' - no matter what culture they are from. So, try a holiday and meet some new people, just to make friends first, and if the right one is there - he will make himself know to you. All you have to do is be receptive and not live in a 'Bollywood' type world.

Join some other single girls and go out for fun, even if you feel lost, it's a start in the right direction.

If you want to be happy in the future, staying at home and waiting for 'Mr Right' is not going to work. You have to go out and do that job yourself.

Apparently, the fiancée knew how to get her man - it's time you went out there and learned how to get the right one for you. He does not have to move heaven and earth at first, he just has to get to know you and you need to give him the chance without acting snobbish. All of us women have to go out and get noticed, no matter what country or culture we are from.

Good luck.
By the way, just because I live in Germany does not mean I am german, so don't ask what country unless you are willing to tell me what country you are from. Tiamo means I love you in Italian - are you italian? If so, stop being such a 'prude' and travel to a wonderful island on holiday and get to know your worth as a simply beautiful girl first, then as a woman later - without shopping for that right one - just have some fun in the sun!

[ylaira]

By the way, just because Tiamo means I love you in Italian - are you italian? [/QUOTE]



It's spanish and spells as TE AMO.

[Chery]

By the way, just because Tiamo means I love you in Italian - are you italian?

It's spanish and spells as TE AMO.

[/QUOTE]

Semantics in this case, I have many italian friends, one is even an adopted son.. so Ti'amo... same, same... no matter what country or what language.

[tiamokiss]

You were not straight-forward with him in the first place. You thought your talent for business would get you the reward you wanted - this backfired, maybe because you worked too hard and did not take time for sharing personality and entertainment.

You worked your rear-end off and sacrificed your time and energy on him, but apparently did not send the right signals for fear that he might think you a slut... Well, you lost.

Now, financially, you are still tied to him - you can always sell out your share of the company and move on. He will think what he wants to think - you have no control over that. But if you want him to think something else, tell him you need a new challenge and want to try your business talents elsewhere.

You could take a holiday where girls of your 'culture' can go and perhaps find someone else to share a good time with someone who respects you for your looks and personality and not just your talent for business. Some men don't care about how good you are at a job, they might actually want to be the 'bread-winner' - no matter what culture they are from. So, try a holiday and meet some new people, just to make friends first, and if the right one is there - he will make himself know to you. All you have to do is be receptive and not live in a 'Bollywood' type world.

Join some other single girls and go out for fun, even if you feel lost, it's a start in the right direction.

If you want to be happy in the future, staying at home and waiting for 'Mr Right' is not going to work. You have to go out and do that job yourself.

Apparently, the fiancee knew how to get her man - it's time you went out there and learned how to get the right one for you. He does not have to move heaven and earth at first, he just has to get to know you and you need to give him the chance without acting snobbish. All of us women have to go out and get noticed, no matter what country or culture we are from.

Good luck.
By the way, just because I live in Germany does not mean I am german, so don't ask what country unless you are willing to tell me what country you are from. Tiamo means I love you in Italian - are you italian? If so, stop being such a 'prude' and travel to a wonderful island on holiday and get to know your worth as a simply beautiful girl first, then as a woman later - without shopping for that right one - just have some fun in the sun!

Well first of all thank you very much! Now that's what I call a REAL Expert reply.. woowww loved the way u analyzed my personality, and the way u summarized the whole situation.. Thank u sooo very very much! Many thanks... and No I'm not Italian, I love Italians thou! I think there language is the most romantic ever, so when I chose my nick name was looking for something Italian and romantic at the same time, so though of Tiamo = I love you in Italian and then thought of something Intimate and passionate so I came out with Kiss lol :) But I'm Egyptian!
So now can you tell me where are you from :p?

[Chery]

I'm Global. What one calls an 'Army Brat'. My father was from the U.S.A, mother from Germany, my brothers were born in Japan, and we've traveled to many states in the U.S.A. and European countries. Then I became an Army Wife and mother - stationed mostly in Georgia and California. After my divorce I moved to Germany to take care of a sick mother and worked for the major U.S. Army Hospital here until my medical retirement. Now I am stuck here in Germany due to illness and can no longer travel. But my daughter and grandson of two years are also here until 2011, so I have a chance to be with them for a while. So, my home is where my heart is - the U.S.A. My culture - global, as I have had the privilege of learning a few first-hand through my travels and the schools that I was in had multi-national children.

So, my dear, first I want to thank you for your compliment. Second, what about the idea of taking a holiday and then the idea of a job change because you need a new challenge. At least that 'excuse' would help you save face and get you out of that self-made prison you are in now...
This just might give you a whole new perspective on life and a chance for your own happiness.

Anything is better than what you are putting yourself through at the moment.

Let me know what you think..

[tiamokiss]

I'm Global. What one calls an 'Army Brat'. My father was from the U.S.A, mother from Germany, my brothers were born in Japan, and we've traveled to many states in the U.S.A. and European countries. Then I became an Army Wife and mother - stationed mostly in Georgia and California. After my divorce I moved to Germany to take care of a sick mother and worked for the major U.S. Army Hospital here until my medical retirement. Now I am stuck here in Germany due to illness and can no longer travel. But my daughter and grandson of two years are also here until 2011, so I have a chance to be with them for a while. So, my home is where my heart is - the U.S.A. My culture - global, as I have had the privilege of learning a few first-hand through my travels and the schools that I was in had multi-national children.

So, my dear, first I want to thank you for your compliment. Second, what about the idea of taking a holiday and then the idea of a job change because you need a new challenge. At least that 'excuse' would help you save face and get you out of that self-made prison you are in now...
This just might give you a whole new perspective on life and a chance for your own happiness.

Anything is better than what you are putting yourself through at the moment.

Let me know what you think..

My god you are a wonderful women! I'm amazed, and sorry for your illness hope its not something serious! Your daughter and grandson must be very Lucky to have you in their lives, and thank you for appearing in mine too, I will work on having a holiday ASAP, Hugyyz :)

[talaniman]

I think its okay to love yourself enough to make yourself happy, and rebuild your life, whether you go or stay.

[tiamokiss]

I think its okay to love yourself enough to make yourself happy, and rebuild your life, whether you go or stay.

Thanks Tal Guess I do love myself, maybe a bit too much that's why it was very painful :)

[Angelaangel]

I know exactly how you feel there was a guy who was my firnd and I really loved him and it was like my heart was set on him. I know he doesn't like me like that because his heart is set on another girl and it really kills me because she doesn't love him. I wished he could see how I feel but I'm moving on because if he doesn't want me that's too bad for him but I will still love him but just as a friend.