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Sikativ · Jun 2, 2008, 12:41 PM

Is it a bad thing that I would like things to work out?

-Sik

damaged · Jun 2, 2008, 12:57 PM

No, it's not a bad thing but you have been dating for +1 month... had an argument and she left... It's not a good sign..

talaniman · Jun 2, 2008, 01:17 PM

Originally Posted by Sikativ

Is it a bad thing that I would like things to work out?

-Sik

Yes it's a bad thing. Its like trying to catch a ship that's sailed, your too late.

That means catch the next one.

Sikativ · Jun 2, 2008, 01:20 PM

Should I break no contact and try to reach her to tell her we are done?

Talking to my mom earlier and she says that I don't talk about her the same way I used to.

Maybe that's a sign I should end it. I feel like I have had enough maybe I should start acting like it
-Sik

Romefalls19 · Jun 2, 2008, 01:22 PM

I agree to with Tal, it's a month relationship... If I chased every girl that walked away after a month I would be so screwed and miss out on great girls

damaged · Jun 2, 2008, 01:24 PM

No, you should not break NC.. wait till she gets back, and when she does give her S*** back and move on with your life

Sikativ · Jun 2, 2008, 10:28 PM

All right...
Ive decided that this is my plan of action:

-Remove her from Facebook
-Remove her from myspace
-Remove her as a friend on the forums

But without saying a word to her.
I feel good about this plan because I don't break NC with her and at the same time, I remove myself from her social networks that she can find me on.

What do you guys think?
-Sik

NorthernNiceGuy · Jun 2, 2008, 11:02 PM

Hey Sik,

Pretty crazy story. Glad as I read through the thread that you have decided to get rid of this dead weight. I mean, I am sure I don't have to repeat that this was a pretty fast relationship... but if she is that bad after that long than can you imagine how much worse she will be if you try and stay with her. You and your family opened your hearts and your home to her and she has done nothing but on all of you. Have any of your family mentioned what they think of her? I think my family would have kicked her out a long time ago.

I think deleting her from all those things is a good way to get your message across. She will know you are fed up without saying anything. Let her come crawling back to you, only to find out that you want nothing to do with her.

I can't wait to see how this plays out. Good luck

Sikativ · Jun 2, 2008, 11:08 PM

Oh its playing out NNG, Ive removed her from everything.

As for my family, I talked to both of my parents while we watched the hockey game together (was a lot of fun and just reinforces how much they care for me even though they could care less about each other.. )

My dad thinks I should take the lead, and just make contact with her to tell her how I've had enough crap from her and she needs out. My mom agreed. Because when she gets back and I tell her, she will have to stay here while she arranges plans to get her and her sh** out of my house.

Like I said earlier in the thread, ASK QUESTIONS, I may be clear to myself when I'm typing something but it may not read right for any of you.

-Sik

NorthernNiceGuy · Jun 2, 2008, 11:18 PM

Originally Posted by Sikativ

My dad thinks I should take the lead, and just make contact with her to tell her how i've had enough crap from her and she needs out. My mom agreed. Because when she gets back and I tell her, she will have to stay here while she arranges plans to get her and her sh** out of my house.

Yea I might have to agree with that. I think breaking contact is a lot better than having to deal with that mess. Just call her (leave a voice mail because it sounds like she isn't going to answer). Just say that you are not feeling this relationship any longer and would like to arrange a time that she can come and pick up her stuff at.

There is a part of me that wants you to put it in a box at the curb though...

Sikativ · Jun 2, 2008, 11:29 PM

This is just messed up...

It makes me so angry that she doesn't want to work for anything

All while my family and I provided her with food shelter and love!

I don't understand it, its like putting a mouse in a maze and all the walls are actually just lines on the floor of the board and it just scurries across to get the cheese. How can you not succeed??

She sure managed to...

-Sik

p.s. - I like cheese. :)

NorthernNiceGuy · Jun 2, 2008, 11:43 PM

She's just not the girl you thought she was. She's definitely a user, and extremely selfish. I think you found this out a lot faster than you would have because she moved in with you so quickly. Just be thankful you won't be wasting anymore time with this one.

I know you have that feeling of it wanting to work out because you did share some really good times. Just tell yourself over and over that this is the very best thing for you in the long run. You will find another girl who won't do this to you, and you will be so happy you ended it.

That's what I am looking forward to with my situation, can't wait till it happens.

Sikativ · Jun 3, 2008, 12:00 AM

You know what I am afraid of... the time in between...

I had finally found someone in march after what seemed like the longest drought of being single and its now June 3rd... wow... 4 months... on the dot we've been together... talk about awkward days that don't help at all..

She's only lived with me since around April 21st give or take a day...

So 4 months and I already have a relationship slipping through my hands.

Now I just need to tell her to get out... still unsure about how or when I should do it.

-Sik

talaniman · Jun 3, 2008, 05:43 AM

As soon as possible would be nice.

talaniman · Jun 3, 2008, 05:51 AM

My dad thinks I should take the lead, and just make contact with her to tell her how I've had enough crap from her and she needs out. My mom agreed.

I think your parents are right. I think she should have fair warning, but would like to add a deadline date to get her stuff, or lose it, just to make sure she gets it, and doesn't leave it until she is good and ready, or keep coming back in your lives. She is a user all right, and will take advantage of you any way she can.

Sikativ · Jun 3, 2008, 08:57 AM

June 16th is my brothers graduation... is setting the deadline for the 15th too soon?
That's about 2 weeks.

-Sik

starlite1 · Jun 3, 2008, 09:35 AM

Hi Sik,

Honestly, I think the sooner the better. Perhaps as soon as this weekend? I don't know if you want to be around or not for when she picks her stuff up, I would think that you probably don't. If not, tell her to come pick up her stuff when you aren't there (you don't have to necessarily tell her that you aren't going to be there), and let your parents know the date, and she can get it, and be done.

I don't think you should wait any longer. The sooner the better, and then your healing can really begin.

Romefalls19 · Jun 3, 2008, 09:56 AM

I'd say give her a week, she's already had one to sort her stuff out. Now give her another week to sort her stuff off the curb

talaniman · Jun 3, 2008, 04:42 PM

Rome you are cold but right. The sooner the better. If she should be home this week, another week is all she deserves.

Sikativ · Jun 3, 2008, 07:55 PM

"its been a week now and you still haven't said a word to me. this isn't helping at all really so I've decided that I can't wait here forever for you and that this isn't going to work. Your stuff is here and you need to do something about it within the next two weeks. You know how to reach me, bye"

Give or take a word or two, that is an approximate quote of what I left on her voice mail.

I guess now I wait for the response :P

-Sik