[sasha_1]

Agrees: Excellent answer!

[nine_golf]

I'd like to be a bit of an encouragement to you, if you do decide to go through with it that is. I was married in 2005 at age 18 to my 19 year old high school sweetheart. We'd been together since grade 9 and marriage just seemed like the next step. It was a beautiful wedding and we had a cute little 1 bedroom house that was just perfect, but then the honeymoon ended... I got pregnant 3 months into our marriage and we were surprised but very excited. We immediately had to start looking for a bigger house, which was all right, but put us on a VERY tight budget. I had a job for only 3 months after college and I had to quit because the baby was causing a lot of physical discomfort for me, so we only had the income of a 2nd year apprentice.
When the baby came things seemed great, but we gradually found we had less and less money to spend and with me out of work and my husband going back to school for 2 months things were SO tight, we had to sell our new tent-trailer which we only used once just to pay off our credit cards!
We've really had to make life adjustments both financially and relationally (friend-wise). We basically lost all our friends because we're at such a different stage in our life. I'm now 7 months pregnant with our second child (another little surprise... trust me, no birth control is 100% effective) and my husband is finishing his last year of college and will be a journeyman, plus he got a great job offer working for a big company in town with a big pay raise, so we really are starting to see the "light" at the end of the tunnel. But we still have virtually no friends, and spend most of our time watching the TV turned quiet after our daughter has gone to bed.

Really truly though, if you have any sort of doubts at all, do NOT go through with it! Marriage just adds more stress to a relatively young relationship, wait a few years, if you're still happy together and in love then GO HARD!

[shawnna89]

Hun,
I cannot ANSWER your question but I CAN help, hopefully. Let me start by saying I am 18 and I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. I am a senior and he is a sophomore in college. We thought we wanted to get married after 1 year and obviously we couldn't, but that's a great thing you see, after 4 years we are STILL learning about each other. Your still in the new phase of love, you see no wrong. I have a promise ring (pre-engagement ring) and we promised that ONE DAY when we are mature enough we WILL get married.

Its not wrong to be 100% in love someone and you can be committed to someone without marriage. If he loves you enough to marry you, he loves you enough to marry you in a few more years. Money isn't the issue you have to worry about.

Also, do you want to marry someone you have never lived with? You Don't. Trust me you don't see peoples bad habits until you live with them.

If you are unsure about it then I would say put it off. It may cause resentment in your relationship and cause feelings of hurt if you endup feeling like your stuck between a rock and a hard place.

I understand you love him so very much, I know because I feel the same way for my boyfriend but, you can still love him with all your heart without his last name and the government budding in. You also have to ask yourself is losing my family worth it? What will we do about a car, school, house? What if things Don't work between us and I Don't have a family to run to? Hun, think it over.

Best of luck.

-Shawnna

[love_pup_321]

Personal Experience I was 18 when I got married we had been together for 5 years before we were married. Now it has been 8 years. We have 1 child and I will admit that we have our problems but we also have some good times. I love my hubby however because we were so young I believe that things would be much different if we just waited a few more years. I recommend to you if you have even the slightest doubt about getting married, call off the wedding but NOT the relationship find a place to live together without parents because believe me when you live with one of the parents it causes problems right from the start. So find a place to live together stay engaged, you continue with your schooling because that is your future and the money maker when you get a job. And take some time to get to know each other a little better work through the problems that will occur because there will be problems. And when you both feel like it is the right time, and you are not second guessing your decision to get married then that would be the right time. Just because you are not married does not mean that you do not love each other.

Another thing to point out if you are older than him or he is older than you there might be some conflict between you two on the 21st birthday if you plan on going to a bar. My hubby and I had that problem he was older than me and he would go to the bar and I had to stay at home now that I am over 21 he no longer wants to go to the bar even to just listen to the music and dance without drinking.

Whatever you decide is your decision, but I have been there and even though I love him and our baby sometimes I wish we would have waited. That way I could have been able to move to advance in my career instead of holding myself back so he could follow his career. Good Luck and Best Wishes on your wedding day.

[Eleashea]

Hi my boyfriend and I are wanting to get married as well but here is the big problem he is about to be 18 and I am only 16. We have been best friends for 3 inhalf years we have been dateing for almost a year in a half. He loves me so much and would do anything for me and I love him more than words could ever explain. We have been living together for about 7 months and things are great but people keep telling us we are to young and stuff but I know in my heart that he is the one. I think you should listen to your heart and then everything will go into place and that if its meant to be it will happen and to me I say true love is hard to find so I think if you think you have found it hold on to it tight and don't let anyone stop you. How about some advice to me lol!