[talaniman]

Do you really need to be slapped in the head to know he does as he pleases, without regard for you, or how you feel? Stop having sex, and he is out. Good riddance I say, and you will be free to find a real person to share happiness with. Not invited to his birthday celebration?? Rather obvious, that he doesn't care. You're his friend with benefits.

[Klaipeda]

Do you really need to be slapped in the head to know he does as he pleases, without regard for you, or how you feel?? Stop having sex, and he is out. Good riddance I say, and you will be free to find a real person to share happiness with. Not invited to his birthday celebration??? Rather obvious, that he doesn't care. Your his friend with benefits.

Talaniman,

I wanted to break up with him already, at the very beginning but he did not want to and was calling me , sending sms asking what's up, what was wrong? I saw that he was a cheepskate and doesn't care about me from the beginning.But I satyed and suggested we meet only for sex,( hoping he will not like that)but as we slept together I notticed that he is slightly changing-becoming more caring.He was let down by his ex wife of 14 years and told me about her and how difficult it was for him when she left him, and now he cannot easily trust any woman now.He helped me when I had some problems with some documents, as he works in the law.
But I think you are right, even though he had bad life experience, I cannot let myself to be neglected. I just really like this guy as I couldn't see any badness in him apart from that he doesn't feel the same way I do.

[Klaipeda]

I have a sex partner and we've been seeing each other for nearly 3 months now. We had sex after two weeks after we first met. We have sex each time we meet-once per week. He is divorced and me too.
This is the sexual relationship between us, but can he fell in love with me? He acts wery atentivelly towards me-fixes things in my flat, cooks food, started to take me out ( earlier he didn't), introduced me to his friend, and we are good friends with his brother now too...
A bit confusing to me, he says he is not serious, though..

Thank you, any advice will do!:confused:

[brookeleigh]

Well talk to him about it. Obviously it's killing you.. you do not want to feel used by him. Who would? I would lay off the sex for a while and learn to connect with him on a different level.

Hope that helped a little.

[Klaipeda]

Well talk to him about it. Obviously it's killing you..you do not want to feel used by him. Who would? I would lay off the sex for a while and learn to connect with him on a different level.

Hope that helped a little.

Thank you, u helped me a lot!!

[Klaipeda]

Hi,
We known each other for 4 months only but had slept together already many times.. I constantly call my friend (guy) and ask him for us to meet. ( He calls me just to chat or sends sms).He rarely ask me out. But when I ask him he never hesitates and agrees even sometimes when it is difficult for him due to work. I feel uneasy for initiating meeting ( but if I ask to meet, I let him to choose the time and place). A few times I asked him why he doesn't initiates the meetings , he says, he is fine if I do that. Should in the long run he just will get tired of my constant asking and leave me and should I stop doing that?

( He is depressed because of his divorce and because of the huge workload and I think that is the reason why he is not very reluctant to ask me out or call me more often than before( or should I think there are other reasons).OR SHOULD I THINK THAT OUR FRIENDSHIP IS SIMPLY FADING?

Thank you. Klai

[Chery]

The guy has a lot on his mind, and with the divorce, he probably is tired of spending too much time with women altogether. So,, I think he agrees to meet you just for the sex and that it is not good for you to catch him on the rebound..

Give him time, wait until he contacts you once he has a clearer head. If he is serious about you he will, but it might take more time than you are willing to wait for.

Until then, just continue living your life, be safe, and don't worry too much.

He is going through a rough phase in his life right now, don't apply pressure where he cannot think and get his life in order.

Good luck and keep us posted.

[Klaipeda]

The guy has a lot on his mind, and with the divorce, he probably is tired of spending too much time with women altogether. So,,, I think he agrees to meet you just for the sex and that it is not good for you to catch him on the rebound..

Give him time, wait until he contacts you once he has a clearer head. If he is serious about you he will, but it might take more time than you are willing to wait for.

Until then, just continue living your life, be safe, and don't worry too much.

He is going through a rough phase in his life right now, don't apply pressure where he cannot think and get his life in order.

Good luck and keep us posted.

Thank you Cherry,
He really got lots on his mind at the time and I use your suggestions to wait.

[Chery]

Good girl. Sometimes you just have to wear his shoes for a while and you'll figure it out.

Good luck.