[AntJon82]

We all are trying to help you but it does not seem like you want to hear the truth, does not sound like you want to actually receive our help. You know why. You have been given good advice. Yet, you have not listened to any of it.

You NEED TO LEAVE HER ALONE RIGHT NOW. Calling her and being overbearing and smoothering her to do what you want, like Janine has said will only make your situation worst. It does sound like you are way over top emotionally and that the way your behaving the way your acting towards her will make her more determined to stay away from you.

Please read everything that was written by J9, alkalineangel and myself and look at your part in this relationship failing also know when to cut your losses. Right now is a good time. That means get back to work, that means contact her doctors, that means get ready to get paternity testing done after she has the baby.

Now you need to sit back, relax, and learn how to become patient. If you do not do this you will not be good to anybody. Take care of yourself right now and only focus on getting yourself well.

Now because of all of the back and forth and your emotional state. I think it is time that you see a doctor, and counsel. There is no shame in asking for help. You need to realise that most of the pain your feeling is being afflicted on yourself by your own thoughts and feelings. Once you realize this you will be able to make decisions that actually make a better future instead of being the opposite.

Best wishes.

Joe

No matter what I do I can't shake this I'm going to get help wed to see a consuler I told my babymother that was going to get help cause or fighting has destroyed me mentally.? She acts like she didn't care but I will try OK but its hurts so bad to be alone I just want what's best for why child if he's mine I don't want to stress or freak her out.

[J_9]

Okay, look. LEAVER HER ALONE!! Stop stressing at the moment, you don't even know if this baby is yours or not.

No contact dude, no MySpace, no text, no phone calls, NOTHING!!

Make her miss you.

Deal with it when the baby is born. There isn't a damm thing you can do about it now. NOTHING.

Now, like Joe has said, you have been given some wonderful advice. It is up to you to use it or lose it. And I too am unsubscribing from this thread as there is nothing more I can say that I haven't already said.

Good luck to you.

[AntJon82]

Thk you all I can do is tell her how I feel and leave it alone till sept 4th she is not going to her docters appt or taken her med like she is supposed too. Well thks you all for you davice I'm going save this thread

[AntJon82]

Well I started conseling the other day and they told I can get them free and they even offered me to bring her for couples conseling but I asked her and she got mad. Her mother told me she is so stressed that might have the baby early

[babieface85]

I hate to tell you this but it sounds like she has no feelings for you. You will just get hurt if you continue to communicate with people who have no feelings for you. Just relax! You will find a girl who loves you. First you need to learn to love yourself.

[AntJon82]

I hate to tell you this but it sounds like she has no feelings for you. You will just get hurt if you continue to communicate with people who have no feelings for you. Just relax! You will find a girl who loves you. First you need to learn to love yourself.

Well last night my life is completely over she told me that the baby she is carrying is not mine im so hurt now i mean is it that she wants to get away from me that much that she would say n do anything!!

She told me she was messing with her ex too while we were having sex. I think i just really lost my life now

[don8]

Okay first of all I think you need to take a long hard look at your life and realize this is not the girl for you. She doesn't care for you the way you do her and acting like a stalker will only make things worse. And make you feel worse. Keep going to the counciling and start dating other girls and NEVER HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX again until you find the right girl and are ready to start a life with her. You will be okay but you need to slow down and take a deep breath. Be glad this child is not yours because she was planning to make your life hell. This is not as bad as it seems right now and you will find the right girl when the time is right, but don't act like a stalker and scare her away take it slow and have some fun.

[AntJon82]

Okay first of all I think you need to take a long hard look at your life and realize this is not the girl for you. She doesn't care for you the way you do her and acting like a stalker will only make things worse. And make you feel worse. Keep going to the counciling and start dating other girls and NEVER HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX again until you find the right girl and are ready to start a life with her. You will be okay but you need to slow down and take a deep breath. Be glad this child is not yours because she was planning to make your life hell. This is not as bad as it seems right now and you will find the right girl when the time is right, but don't act like a stalker and scare her away take it slow and have some fun.

HER MOTHER SAID SHE WOULD CONTACT ME N GET A DNA TEST FOR THAT BABY N LET ME KNW IM JUST SO DESTROYED ITS HARD FOR ME TO FIND WOMEN THAT ARE INTERESTED IN ME IM JUST SO DOWN IN OUT. I FEEL MY LIFE IS OVER HONESTLY THIS THE LONGEST RELATIONSHIP I HAD I MET N SEPT 06


----->Well My Ex Girl Friend Told Me That Her Baby That She Is Carrying It Not My Son. Im So Confused N Destroyed Now. I Mean We Had Such Good Relations But Everything Went Bad When She Got Pregnant I Met Her Back In Sept 06. I Mean I Feel Like Such A Loser Right Now. Im Very Angry I Want To Beat Up Her Ex For Talking Crap Too. I Just Feel That I Have Nothing To Offer Any Woman Anywhere What Can I Do. Maybe I Should Just End It All And Disappear??

I Was So Happy To Be A Relationship Sex,dating And All That Came With It When I Met Her I Wasn't A Virgin But It Was Hard For Me To Meet Women. And Now I Have Nothing To Hold On Too No Girl No Baby To Look Forward I Just Have The Worst Luck Ever And Im Tired Of Living Everyday Its More Heartache To Keep Going Its Just A Waste??

I Need To Heal Or At Least Feel Better N Try N Get Rid Of This Pain. Nobody Seems To Like Me Or Want To Be Around Me And Its Taken Its Toll. Nobody Cares About My Problems I Have Nobody To Talk Too About Anything Not My Mom Or Dad I Mean I Got To Counseling But It Not Helping Me Feel Better

[AntJon82]

Well yesterday my ex girl told me the baby she had is not mine her and her mother where fed up with lying to me for nearly a year when I went to methodist hospital in brooklyn to see her and the baby she shooed me out as I was leaving her ex was coming in my gust told me he was taken her home so I left and called her mom her mom said she wasnr aware of him going there. The baby was born Sunday on 7/1/07 2 months premature the told me that her ex lived there with her from nov 06- feb 07 from word of mouth right now I'm confused I just want to know if he's my son I met geneva in sept 06 but during around nov- jan I wasn't messing with her a lot I mean I live in nj and I went to bk ny to family court for petition of paternity test she has told me she will not show up. My family urges me to press on cuase you just want to make sure and can't go by word of mouth even if the time she was sleeping with him and me are nearly around the same time. Her family expected me to be there when he was born but from her mom and grandmother I wasn't wanted at the birth even though her dad expected me there and ask why I wasn't there. Now I have a whole house hating me I just want a dna test just to make sure they been telling me truth cause I have been lied to for long time IS THERE A PROBLEM WITH ME Going TO COURT AND IS THE A PROBLEM THAT BEEN LIED TO SINCE SHE WAS Pregnant AND About HER PAST RELATIONS.

As of last night she told me the her ex that came there to hospital when I was leaving did not take her home or is the father what should I believe