[curlybenswife]

I have a question do you guys prefer in meaningless drivel as conversation or something that actually has real meaning?

[alkalineangel]

I like both depending on my mood, but I don't think I count, as I only chime in every so often now a days... lol... I just happened to log on and see your post :)

[startover22]

I like both too... The meaningless drivel tends to get me through my day and the meaningful drivel helps me get back to ground zero with my thoughts and views...

[curlybenswife]

The meaningless crap does my head in to be honest hense why I haven't been saying good morning here every day there's just no flipping need to talk trash all the time lol

[shatteredsoul]

Meaningless conversation distracts me from my daily worries and frustrations. It can be very helpful in keeping my spirits up. Meaningful conversation allows me to process all of my thoughts and emotions in regards to my fears and daily conflicts. It helps me to learn learn and grow intellectually.

[curlybenswife]

I understand what you all mean but don't you find it pretty sad that you need it constantly in your life I've had a lot of time to reflect these last few weeks and I have to say its great occasionally but on a daily basis is just scary it made me see what I was trying to shut out and not actually deal with.

[shatteredsoul]

Yes I think you are right CBW, it is definitely a way of distracting yourself from what's going on in the real world. Sometimes we need that to stay sane, because if we focus on everything all at once, we get overwhelmed.. so I think by talking about random stuff, gives the mind a break. I too, realized that I have gotten caught up on here and I tend to neglect other things going on. I have been trying to be more focused at home and not allow myself to wander off on here. IT is so easy to do, so many interesting people to talk to. BUT, my real life does suffer when I am on constantly. I was away this weekend for my anniversary and so I took a break from here to be devoted to that. We did enjoy ourselves and I am trying to stay on meaningful subjects because there are a lot of issues going on in my family right now. However, talking in here and in P&B allows me to laugh and forget my worries for a little while. I am so glad I have all of you to do that with!!

[startover22]

I understand what you all mean but dont you find it pretty sad that you need it constantly in your life ive had alot of time to reflect these last few weeks and i have to say its great occasionally but on a daily basis is just scary it made me see what i was trying to shut out and not actually deal with.

Yes... I suppose you are right CBW...

[curlybenswife]

Guess I'm having too much reflection time lol

[startover22]

Nah, you really are right, I know myself I had been on too much... Really...
And I only have a few open spots in my day now that I can. It is a good thing that my time is now limited. Youa re right CBW! Really you have refected well! Thanks for the wake up!

[Tuscany]

CBW you have a point. But I have to say that after working all day or even during the day I need a break from the constant thinking. It is nice to just kick back and chat. But, I can see what you mean too.

[curlybenswife]

I understand that Tus and I'm in no way saying oooo you shouldn't do that I'm expressing my thoughts and I'm sorry if I have offended anyone But to be honest I'm actually past giving a dam lol

[Tuscany]

Oh no sweetie you did not offend me! I think you are so right. I was just playing devil's advocate. But I do have to say that what you are saying is 99% of the reason why I take a break on the weekends and come in AMHD fresh every Monday.

[curlybenswife]

Yeah but you aren't here for hours and hours lol it fascinates me that people really have nothing better to do that to sit logged in here talking dribble as I say makes me wonder what the hell there hiding from surely real life can't be all that bad?

[Chery]

I have a question do you guys prefer in meaningless drivel as conversation or something that actually has real meaning??

As has been said, depends on the mood.

Any conversation between friends can be beneficial. Humor is always good, and meaningful conversation has helped me with a serious problem lately - thanks to you guys and gals, I have my scales leveled again and that makes this all worth it. I hope it works for you too, no matter what you have on your plate, you know you can always share it.

So... let's keep on going and enjoying the Garden. I'll look for some more nice flowers to jazz up the place.

Love,

Chery

[Chery]

Yes I think you are right CBW, it is definitely a way of distracting yourself from what's going on in the real world. Sometimes we need that to stay sane, because if we focus on everything all at once, we get overwhelmed.. so I think by talking about random stuff, gives the mind a break. I too, realized that I have gotten caught up on here and I tend to neglect other things going on. I have been trying to be more focused at home and not allow myself to wander off on here. IT is so easy to do, so many interesting people to talk to. BUT, my real life does suffer when I am on constantly. I was away this weekend for my anniversary and so I took a break from here to be devoted to that. We did enjoy ourselves and I am trying to stay on meaningful subjects because there are a lot of issues going on in my family right now. However, talking in here and in P&B allows me to laugh and forget my worries for a little while. I am so glad I have all of you to do that with!!!

Just agreeing with you here. Sometimes we really need an 'escape' or refuge. And sometimes we need someone to talk to.. I live alone now, and if I did not have this place, I'd go totally nuts..

CBW... Honey, your pregnant, and your hormones will do what they do, and this is the place for you to let them out and react without feeling guilty, so stay on and just be yourself.

There are some addicts, but I doubt we fall into that category.

[shatteredsoul]

MON CHERY!! I have missed you soooo! I am so glad to hear that you have been doing better. I was worried about you. You seem very positive and upbeat and it seems you have had some time to enjoy that family, that is always a great thing. Yes, I too need to seek refuge here from time to time. I don't want to become too dependent on the people here. I know for awhile I was getting too clingy or something. Now I try to balance things a little better. However, I consider a lot of people here my friends, so when I don't come on I feel like I am neglecting them and I miss them too. IT's hard. I never even had come into a website like this, or any chatroom before I joined here. At least most of the people here are well intentioned and helpful... LIKE YOU CHERY and CBW.. xoxoxoxoxo

[Chery]

Shattered... I missed you too. I don't look at all the threads as much as I used to but I will continue to visit the garden no matter how ill I get.

My family comes first now, and I still consider AMHD my 'cyberfamily' so you will see me on here until the last days...

I too just found this place while having a computer problem, discovered a lot more here and stayed. But I have not bothered with other forums because that's just not me. This is a unique place to be and I'm darned proud to be a member!

Start... whether you do the dishes and laundry an hour or two later, or let someone else do them is a choice you can make without feeling guilty. This place is not a gambling joint, nor a gossip corner (not really), so instead of taking your free time to read a book, you come here... there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. We all have a right to have a special place to go. And, I'm glad you're here.

<<<< it's better than what 'he' is doing.

We might not read too many books > they usually tell about the past, and are still interesting>> but this is more real, we get a lot of information here, and also share a lot, meaningful or not.. it's the present.

[curlybenswife]

Ah but chery that's just it I don't want to share that kind of thing with utter strangers I've never been one to let anyone completely in unless there stood smack bang in front of me the internet to me is and always will be full of people hiding behind a computer there are very few genuine people out there and I've certainly questioned that a lot more since the bloody sarai thing stupid girl.
I will also say I'm pretty much the same temperament wise I've always been a hot head I was before I was pregnant just a lot more honest and I really don't actually care about what others think I never have had for the pure fact that if you can't deal with your own life why the hell should you try and deal with others yeah I listen and make that I do care because it makes others feel better for sounding out when in reality there are legitimately very few here I believe a word they say way to many cry wolf for attention and that can be from the extreme of lies like death as we have all seen that one possed not long back to the woe is me stuff.
Ive never been a sympathetic person I believe we are given our way of life for a reason and we are meant to deal with what's thrown at us because that's what makes us people in our own rights character building id call it makes you stronger and better people.
Im going to shut up before I really let rip lol And I'm not saying we don't need a special place to go as I've already said up there it just makes me wonder about there lives as to why the heck they feel the need to spend hours talking about nothing and its not just here I see it either.

[Chery]

You're right, computers can be used to hide,lie, and do a lot of damage. That depends on the user. The users are all diverse individuals with different values and morals too.

The reason I use a computer is due to being alone and needing to communicate with the world, finding out information and just plain sharing my thoughts and feelings because I thought there was nobody physically around me interested enough in what I have to say. I guess it all depends in the mental make-up of us all on how we interpret internet conversations.

All in all, it does continue to be interesting enough for all to give it a try. Just like everything else in life.

Different strokes for different folks, as someone said...

I still hope you like interacting with us as much as I do with you.