[Sikativ]

Wiggy, trust me and everyone else when we say that keeping no contact is for the best.

I had to break it today and call her dad (if you want to count that) Hes the only damn one of the lot up there that will actually talk to me because he's a respectable man. Like I said in my thread, he's coming fathers day weekend (next saturday) to come get HER crap out of my house. How messed up is that?

Now I just need to figure out what I want to "not make it into the box" to make up for packing all her crap up.

-Sik

[classicrocker]

Starlite, you'll be OK! Tomorrow is a new day with a chance for new oportunities!

[ajhastings88]

Tonight was awsome I went to club europe and had a blast, almost ever girl was on me, ( the guys did not like that at all). I feel a lot better now that I told her we can't be friends, and also went to the club and had girls all over me, it makes you feel like you haven't really lost anything, ( well for me). I love you guys, you guys are awsome. Without you guys I would be lost , and sitting at home thinking of ways to get my ex back, ex#1 begging. Hang in there guys, get out there, have fun. Most of us on here with problems are young, live life. You partner made the mistake of hurting you, and losing you, they will figure it out later in life, and regret losing you. Hopefully you will be moved on by then if not, you will be a totally different person, ready for whatever they bring to the table. Remember I love you guys. Ok it 5 in the morning and I am tired. PEACE OUT.

[jpm247]

Great post AJ, that made me smile!

[starlite1]

starlite, you'll be ok! tomorrow is a new day with a chance for new oportunities!

Thank you Rocker,

Well It's morning now, and of course I deamt of him last night. God this is so hard. I am going to get my hair colored today see if that boosts my spirits. That's a good 3 hour process so I be somewhat occupied.

I just wish I can know what he is thinking; if he would ever take me back again... :( I feel so badly for what I did... I feel like buying a plane ticket, flying to Georgia, taking him into my arms, looking into his eyes, and asking him to forgive me, and to please let us work this out together... I didn't really mean what I said..

[hjpan]

Thank you Rocker,

Well It's morning now, and of course I deamt of him last night. God this is so hard. I am going to get my hair colored today see if that boosts my spirits. Thats a good 3 hour process so I be somewhat occupied.

I just wish I can know what he is thinking; if he would ever take me back again....:( I feel so badly for what I did...I feel like buying a plane ticket, flying to georgia, taking him into my arms, looking into his eyes, and asking him to forgive me, and to please let us work this out together...I didn't really mean what I said..

Same here except my ex lives in FL...

[starlite1]

Hi HJ,

From a man's point of view, do you think I still have a chance of him forgiving me, letting me back in, reconciling?

[George_1950]

Thank you Rocker,

Well It's morning now, and of course I deamt of him last night. God this is so hard. I am going to get my hair colored today see if that boosts my spirits. Thats a good 3 hour process so I be somewhat occupied.

What about the nails (hands and feet)? That could be therapeutic.

[spion_kop]

Question for you guys and gals! What would you do if your ex wanted you back today? Would you say yes or no? just curious... remember when doing NC it is also great rule of thumb to know where you stand if infact they do come back into your life... start preparation for that mental meltdown incase it happens.

If my ex came back to me I don't know what I would do. My friends/family would really give it to me because of what she did to me. I know people can fall out of love but the way she handled the situation and her immature behavior would throw me off. I would have to warn her that I wouldn't put up with her selfish, ego filled, emotionally manipulated behavior. She will have to stop treating me like I was second best to her and stop 'winning' thr fights

Plus I think the major reason I woulldnt take her back is because she is immature. You don't want to be with someone who has no consideration of your feelings and just looks satsify her needs. She is very insecure even though I'm the one that should have been (considering that she was a model). I wouldn't take her back now because I promised my friend I would make a deision after 1 year ii she were to come back. So if she really loved me she would have to wait

[talaniman]

Hi HJ,

From a man's point of view, do you think I still have a chance of him forgiving me, letting me back in, reconciling?

The only reconciling he will do is if he gets what he wants, and you do what he says. I care a lot, and want you happy, but you really need to get the stars from your eyes, and move forward. Stop speculating on him and deal with what YOU want.

[damaged]

Im with you TAL!!

[damaged]

Not feeling so good today!. as a matter of fact I cried.. haven't done it in some time.. but I feel like crying today... I hate mornings... omg what's wrong with me?. I want to erase him from my mind completely.. like if he never existed!. this is hard!

[ajhastings88]

Hang in there damage, if you need to talk to somebody, you can talk to me. or text me. Your doing great, your just going up a hump right now. I am here for you!

[Sikativ]

Just remember, you'll be stronger than ever when you're done with all this crap. Hang in there and rough it out like a grizzled mountaineer stuck in the wilderness with a machete and a can of baked beans.

-Sik

[damaged]

THX...
How you doing BTW?

[hav0k]

All right what's going on here...

You guys can look back maybe 10 pages or so on this thread for my story but basically I told my ex a little over a week ago that we should go NC. A couple days ago I basically got suckered into her giving me a ride home from campus (my car is broke). We ended up hanging out a little and whatever.

Now today I get a text from her. It was nothing important, just about how she met someone that knew me yesterday at a party. I figured she knew, despite her driving me home the other day, that nothing changed and I still don't want to talk to her at this point

How should I handle this? I don't want to just blatantly ignore her by not texting back so I figure I'll let her squirm a little (she hates when people don't text back), and answer her later.

[Sikativ]

Reply with a short answer if you're going to reply at all.

Give her no time of day.

Damaged: I'm doing okay, I've posted updates both here and in my thread... things are coming to closure and I'm feeling better than ever now. You get what you deserve and she's getting exactly that right about now for completely using me. (her myspace mood is irritated, lol)

-Sik

[bigbird213]

How should I handle this? I don't want to just blatantly ignore her by not texting back so I figure I'll let her squirm a little (she hates when people don't text back), and answer her later.

Havok,

The problem is, your not letting her squirm. Its quite the opposite. Your sitting there, squirming, because you don't know what to do. I think its best that you don't respond. As long as you keep this line of communication open, she will continue to use it. If you look back and see the line of actions that have occurred, you will see that she is trying to keep a line of communication open with you. As long as that exists, so will thoughts of her in your mind.

[dollarman]

Day 9. Looking forward to 30. How's everyone doing today??

[hav0k]

I ended up texting her back and we talk for a little then she wants to hang out AGAIN (what is she thinking?). So I told her straight up... if she wants to get back with me we can talk but we can't do this hanging out friends crap right now.