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Righthearted · Jun 21, 2007, 08:07 AM

Almost 2 years. Should I call her back at least?

emopunk7 · Jun 21, 2007, 08:09 AM

You had fun moments with her? Made each other laugh and were very happy to see each other at one point?

Jiser · Jun 21, 2007, 10:00 AM

NO CALLS! Stop this!

mckenzie134 · Jun 24, 2007, 06:22 PM

No CALLS. WHY bother

If she calls you goOD!!

Stop THIS RIGHT NOW UNTIL SHE CALLS YOU She's AS GOOD AS DEAD IN YOUR EYES...

Shaunta · Jun 24, 2007, 07:39 PM

Don't Bother Calling Her... she Knows That Your Going To Call Her That's Why She Doesn't Waste Her Time To Call You... just Leave Her Alone... I Bet You If You Don't Call Her She Is Bound To Call You... shes Going To Call You Because She's Going To Want To Know Why Your Not Calling Her..

Righthearted · Jul 4, 2007, 08:19 PM

Hi everyone back here again and need some advice, I'm not going to act until I get a response from someone here. Yesterday my EX and I talk and she tells me that she's dating someone new (that she's in love with him) and that she would really like to still be friends with me. I tell her that I can't do that and I'm not going to contact her anymore. But before I tell her this I ask her if she can truly tell me that she doesn't love me anymore I won't bother her anymore and won't contact her ever again -she pauses and then tells me that she doesn't love me. I say good bye. And that's it. Now today I see that she called me ten times and wants to talk and doesn't like the way our conversation ended. Advice? Suggestions?

trevordog · Jul 4, 2007, 08:22 PM

Dude she's in love with you just go and talk to here nicely and give her a hug whin its over

Shaunta · Jul 4, 2007, 08:27 PM

She Still Loves You! If She Loved The Other Guy Like She Claims She Does, She Wouldn't Be Calling You

mckenzie134 · Jul 4, 2007, 08:42 PM

She definitely still loves you if she loved him she would not even be thinking abouyt you. Trust me on this. When you want someone else you don't call the person you don't want!! You know why because you don't care about them so why the hell calkl.

People must realise the reason the get a call from the ex in most cases is because the ex still has feelings and wants to see if they can get back in. Problem is to many losers jump at the oppiortuinityu when this is the time to builkd the aniety that your ex is feeling. She is bordering on wantinh g you if you jump her leel will drop and you may lose. If you resist her level will definitely rise. Send her a message please stop calling I'm moving on, tell her I care about you but not in that way anymore. Bye. That is a great comment shows you care and gives her some hope but at the same way it creates a challenge that she has to gain you back she will think well he still cares I can change his mmind and she will pursue you. After a bit tell her you told me you were in love with the other guy and you will probably be better off with him anyhow. Ang up act like your past that you don't need it and you klnow what you relaallyy don't bo. You can get her back here but definaetly play very yes VERY hard to get you need to do this cause if you go easy your out of the game anyhow. Cause while you chase or make it too easy this other guy may drop off and become a challenge.

Righthearted · Jul 4, 2007, 08:57 PM

So should I not call her back? I'll see her at a wedding in a couple of days- should I wait to contact her until then.

Thanks again everyone for your advice.

Wondergirl · Jul 4, 2007, 09:04 PM

I say don't contact her. Avoid her at the wedding.

So she didn't like the way the conversation ended. Girls never do when they end that way. A lot of girls, unfortunately, like to keep guys hanging, keep several guys "on the string" so there's at least one around at all times. It has happened that way throughout history; it still happens today.

If you reconnect with her, I bet a dozen donuts that, within two weeks, you will be asking us what to do because she went back to the guy she "really loves".

A coconut · Jul 4, 2007, 09:12 PM

So, while loving you she's seeing some one else instead of trying to get back with you and you only, what would happen if she went back with you and have feelings for some other guy also? Call him too? the problem here is that you can't let her go either, and think that if you get back together with her it will all be the same as it was before the break up.

Righthearted · Jul 4, 2007, 09:15 PM

Not quite sure what you're saying.

A coconut · Jul 4, 2007, 09:26 PM

Ha ha, OK, never mind.

Skrypt · Jul 5, 2007, 01:21 AM

I think you should connect with her and give it 1 more chance. Tell her that you'll either be her lover or nothing. If she loves you she should be with you and if she doesn't don't contact her. It's about her coming to you if she loves you

emopunk7 · Jul 5, 2007, 07:03 AM

I don't see where everyone sees she loves you. She told you she is with someone else and she even said she is in love with him. You asked if she loves you and she said no... It's beyond over. Why can't you see this? I know you will call back either way so just call and say it's me or nothing and I bet she will choose nothing. Then move on! Good luck!

Skrypt · Jul 5, 2007, 07:08 AM

Originally Posted by emopunk7

I dont see where everyone sees she loves you. She told you she is with someone else and she even said she is in love with him. You asked if she loves you and she said no...It's beyond over. Why can't you see this? !

So why did she call him so much after?
Actions speak much more than words and after saying she doesn't love him but still calling is probably a sign? Who knows I may be wrong but you never know. Give it a chance. If nothing then move on because it's just not worth it.

Righthearted · Jul 5, 2007, 07:37 AM

I didn't call her back and she called me twice this morning saying she wanted to talk about how we were such good friends and that she didn't want things to end the way they did. In our previous conversation I specifally said that I don't want friendship if she's dating someone else- period.
She said I was enjoying not calling her back and that the wedding tomorrow will be really awkward. It won't be for me, she told me everything she had to say the other day - so I have no freakin' clue why she's calling me now.

emopunk7 · Jul 5, 2007, 07:49 AM

Find out and then let us know. Call her back now!

huno · Jul 5, 2007, 08:24 AM

Originally Posted by Wondergirl

So she didn't like the way the conversation ended. Girls never do when they end that way. A lot of girls, unfortunately, like to keep guys hanging, keep several guys "on the string" so there's at least one around at all times. It has happened that way throughout history; it still happens today.

This advice is key, because it gets to the heart of what she's thinking.

Also, I think she just wants to see what you do; will you cave in and call her? Can she have you eating out of her hand? Will she dominate your thoughts day in and day out? She wants to (indirectly) control you and make sure you're still thinking about her. It's a game, don't play it.

I think Wondergirl's observation is good. Very good. This should be tattooed on girl's backs, instead of those stupid calligraphic lines everyone's into.