[Wondergirl]

IGNORE HIM and get your hair cut if that's what YOU want to do.

Why oh why are you talking to him??

[beth911]

Cuz he thinks I hate him when I don't talk to him and he complains about how neither of us have anything to say to each other so we should just quit talking.
Do you really think he''ll come to me if I ignore him?
I hate talking about this whjole thing and thinking about it. I just want to hurry and get past this part.

[Wondergirl]

Well, you've pleaded for help but haven't done a thing I or anyone else has suggested. I'm losing interest fast. Do what you feel like doing.

[beth911]

Also, When he sees that I'm not doing those things he will think that I decided not to talk to him so he won't talk to me... I know how it goes. Then he will just say its too late and if I wanted him I would have done all that.

[beth911]

I want to make sure that whatever I do works and its damn near impossible but I feel like its right their in front of me and I just can't see it.
Whether I talk to him or don't talk to him, it will turn out the same.

[Delow84]

He really said all that to you? I am in awe if so. Why oh why are you wanting to be with this guy? He obviously cares only about himself, not you. He thinks you hate him if you ignore him, but if you don't he ignores you or treats you bad? He would say something cruel like he's thinking of leaving you for another girl, and then when you retaliate act like he doesn't know what it's like to say something you don't mean?

Honestly if you want him back, don't talk to him, ignore him. Don't hear him out. If you have to tell him how he was wrong. Stand up for yourself because you deserve better. Tell him so. Act like it doesn't bother you. Hold your head up.
One of two things will happen... he will realize how much of a jerk he's been and 'try' to come to you, at which point you can decide if you'd want to give this guy a chance he probably doesn't deserve, or drop him and hopefully find someone who will respect you for you.
Or Two he will think you hate him and might even contact you to find out what's up, or not talk to you ever again, at which point you will still be standing up up for yourself, and those guys who respect that in a woman will see it and see you for who you are, not who they demand you be.

I'm sorry if I seem a little harsh.

[Wondergirl]

Wether i talk to him or dont talk to him, it will turn out the same.

Well, then. There's your answer. Ignore him and get on with your life. For your mental health's sake, ignore him.

[beth911]

But how do you know he isn't being seious? How do you know if he really wants to leave or if he's just mesiing around?

[Wondergirl]

I don't know. You don't know. Maybe he doesn't know either.

Ignore him.

[flossie]

Beth911,

There's a book called "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. It's a very easy read.

I bought it for my daughter who used to sound like you. She's in her 20's now and has a number of good male friends. She says now after reading this book that she'll know when the right guy comes along.

She's much happier and not as stressed now that she's not driving herself nuts wondering why a certain guy won't call, pay attention to her, ask her out or make a commitment to her.

You're young with a whole life ahead of you. You will come across many wonderful young men in your life and look back and ask yourself what you ever saw in this guy.;)

[beth911]

I don't know what I see in him now.. but that don't change that I want him and always will. And I'll make that sure

[Clough]

Time to move onto other interests that you might have as far as boyfriends, Beth. He's not really interested in you. If he was, then he would be acting that way. He's not acting that way. Time to move on. If you want to make sure that you will "have" him, then you are wasting your time.

[Clough]

No doubt, you will continue to ask about "what if" and "I don't know" with your questions and remarks here. I dare you to prove us wrong about that! Please prove us wrong concerning that!

[Clough]

You can't have what you can't have! Some things are not meant to be.

[beth911]

There HAS to be a way. When what I want is right there in front of me... I know if I don't give up and try all I can that I will eventually have what I want.

[flossie]

Do you really want to be with someone who isn't ready to be with you?
Are you listening to ANYONE in here? You seem to have made your mind up.

[beth911]

Im not here to be talked out of wanting him.
I'm here for help to make things better with me and him.
Actually, that's the only reason why I'm still living too... just in case one day he changes his mind.
But its funny... the more he does all this to me... The more I don't like him. But also, the more I want him.
And I can't stand to even think of him anymore after all he's put me through... but maybe sooner or later he'll change and make up for it all.
Its just now, when I see him... After all he's put me through, I can't really be glad to see him. I don't know how to explain it. I just see him differently now and I don't think I could ever feel loved by him no matter how much he tried to show it. But I really do love him and he thinks that I'm the one who hates him/

[Wondergirl]

I'm here for help to make things better with me and him.

Several of us (voices of experience) have told you how to do this, but you won't do it.

[beth911]

I've tried and its like he knows what I'm doing and always finds away to outsmart me.
I'm just way too stressed out from it all right now. The past 2 months I haven't been able to feel a whole lot of pain or cry or anything... and I wasn't able to thing either.
Now all I can do is cry but I can't even walk or anything.

[beth911]

I mean imgaine not even being able to feel when your tired. And you don't know you are tired until your up for a few days and end up falling asleep out of no where. That's what its like.