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Wildcat21 · Jan 6, 2006, 09:23 AM

Good for you man. Just have your barriers up this time AND show you've changed - show you are your hip to it.

Have fun with her... make sure to tease her, and make fun of her once in a while. Women crave that - seriously. Amp it up. Just be the fun guy - no pressure - don't ask ANY 'where do we stand questions', that's a woman's job and beprepared with a funny come back.

That guy seems like a massive loose canoon. He deserved to be fired.

And for the love of GOD!! - please give her space. Don't contact her 5 times a day!! Make her contact you. REMEMBER to do your own thing - hang with your friends, family, etc.

Be busy once a while. Have a hobby.

Learn to SAY NO to her.

She is not your life. She is only part of your life. Don't put as much importance into this early on or you will be back where you were before.

I BET she has learned something as well.

talaniman · Jan 6, 2006, 10:06 AM

Having read your entire post plus the comments the only thing that I worry about is you work in the same place. Not many that I have seen handle it very well ,but I wish you luck and I hope you and your lady happiness!:cool:

Chery · Jan 6, 2006, 11:15 AM

Originally Posted by one_life

The guy beens fired from work. He's been terminated.

Well, what can I say. The ex and I are talking now. I took her to the movies the other night. We spend more time together at work. I guess she truly sees that even after all she did to me, I still stood up for her. At this point I'm enjoying her company. I don't know what the future holds. Maybe there is a chance for us. Only time will tell.

Any suggestions?

After all the trials and tribulations you both have gone through, maybe there is a chance for you to make it. You both are aware of what you are capable of and she just might know, understand, and appreciate you more now, I certainly hope so. You're right, no one knows what the future holds, but we can always try and grab that bit of happiness which we all deserve. Good luck dear, and keep us posted.

M2

one_life · Jan 6, 2006, 11:15 PM

Thanks for the advises boys and girls lol.

I'll keep you all posted.

Wildcat21 · Jan 7, 2006, 10:58 AM

I bet she may have a new appreciation for you.

JUST REMEMBER what pushed her away I nthe first place and do the opposite.

one_life · Jan 8, 2006, 02:20 AM

I think I'm getting too comfortable and close with my ex. From what I can tell she looks likes she is interested. I believe I should back off a bit. We spend too much time together at work and I drop her off at home these days. When I'm with her I tend to slip and call her honey or baby. I do a lot of touching too and she does too. Sometime It feels like we are like a couple again, but without the kissing and love making. Other times it feels like we best friends. I'm afraid it is too soon to get serious. I don't want to rush things. Any suggestions on how take this slow?

This might sound selfish, but this time around I'm looking out for my own feelings. I don't want to get hurt.

Yes I do go on dates. And yes I do go out with my friends. I'm very busy with my life outside work. The problem is when I'm at work I'm spending too much time with her. And no I don't call her.

Wildcat21 · Jan 8, 2006, 12:32 PM

"I believe I should back off a bit". - That would be wise. Don't fall into the friend zone.

"around I'm looking out for my own feelings" - you have to always - build barriers.

talaniman · Jan 8, 2006, 01:08 PM

There are no fast or fixed rules for dating and relationships because everyone is so different.Where you may be experienced that doesn't mean that my advice would work for you.We all have to ue our best instincts to work our way through the web of life and no one can predict the outcome.Sometimes you must weigh the risk of your actions against what you want as the final outcome.Just because you take the risk is no guarantee you will get what you want ,but if you don't take a risk you will seldom get what you want,So if you've fiqured out what it is you want, I say go for it!If your not so sure I would hold back and give myself time to think about what it is I really wanted and come up with a plan to get it.Please find out how YOU really feel before you tamper with the feelings of another!:cool:

Chery · Jan 9, 2006, 02:34 PM

Assess your 'friendship' again and read the thread from the beginning, if need be to refresh your memory of what you went through. Please do not go so far as to seek revenge of any type as this would only hurt you inside. If you do care about this woman, you have to heal and learn to forgive, only when you can do that, then you can take it further. You've been the 'knight in shining armor' now and have had many other roles in her life so far - what role does she have in yours?
I'm sure you'll know what to do - no matter what you decide. Again, keep us posted.

one_life · Jan 16, 2006, 02:32 PM

Are there succuss stories of people getting back together and it working out?Is it a good idea or bad?