[designer135]

Me and she are from different casts... and of same age.. 24.. she has a good job and I am planning to go for higher studies for 1 year in abroad... she is ready to wait till next year... but I'm afraid our parents will never accept our relation because they never accepted my brothers relation and tried to break it in every possible way...
No one in my family ever had a love marriage and the only person who had is outcast now...
I'm study and work almost 20 hrs a day to get better earning and to get settled soon.. even after this they won't accept us because of our cast...
Please help

[Kahani Punjab]

Designer 135,

Welcome to this beautiful site!

Your problem is really so complicated, but hope sustains life and every relation has some hope and never lose it. About your inter-caste relationship, which you want to translate into marriage, I would first suggest you to talk to your parents. But, there are certain concerns. To which extent do you hope to convinse your parents? And, if they agree, will not there by any problem? I mean, parents, society etc. Which country and which community are you from? Is not it INDIA?

You are also saying that you want to go abroad (to UK or USA, or Australia or Canada, I suppose) and for that time, you must take care of your girl friend, as this is an age of quick-wants and she may shift her love to someone else, as her physical needs will surely require quenching. So, you have plenty of homework to do, before you set free. I would only say GOOD LUCK!

[JudyKayTee]

"... she may shift her love to someone else, as her physical needs will SURELY REQUIRE QUENCHING." This is an insult to every woman who ever waited for her boyfriend/fiance/husband for any reason - and that includes the military. It would be no less offensive if you substituted any other word for "she."

And to the OP - I see you've applied to a College in Canada - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/workin...ad-669863.html

Discuss how she feels directly with her - if she says she will wait for you, if you both believe you will have a future together, then I would trust her when you are gone.

A one year absence does NOT mean she is going to find someone else.

[designer135]

"... she may shift her love to someone else, as her physical needs will SURELY REQUIRE QUENCHING." This is an insult to every woman who ever waited for her boyfriend/fiance/husband for any reason - and that includes the military. It would be no less offensive if you substituted any other word for "she."

And to the OP - I see you've applied to a College in Canada - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/workin...ad-669863.html

Discuss how she feels directly with her - if she says she will wait for you, if you both believe you will have a future together, then I would trust her when you are gone.

A one year absence does NOT mean she is going to find someone else.

We love each other very much and can't live without each other.. and we are loyal to each other and can't even think of anybody else... also she is happy that I'm going to canada... she is ready to wait for one year without any deviation in love... but our parents should agree to our relation... and the major problem is caste...

[JudyKayTee]

we love each other very much and can't live without each other.. and we are loyal to each other and can't even think of anybody else .....also she is happy that i'm going to canada...she is ready to wait for one year without any deviation in love....but our parents should agree to our relation.....and the major problem is caste......

- And this is why I disagreed with the "advice" that she will find someone else while you are gone.

Your parents? I see no solutions. Either defy your parents and suffer whatever follows that OR break up with her.

I don't see a middle road.