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GettingLedOn · May 17, 2012, 07:20 AM

My ex girlfriend moved on after 2 months of our break up. She was my first girlfriend and we went out for 7 months before she broke it off with me. Even though we both had a talk and it was a "mutual" break up, I only agreed with her because she needed time to think everything over. Despite our break up, she wanted to continue being friends like we always have, so I agreed to that. I don't know if it was me reading into every single little thing, but I felt that she was pulling me along during our break up. Every little thing she did made me feel like she still loved me and wanted to get back together. She bought me presents all the time, and was always the first/last person I talked to everyday. Just yesterday a bombshell was dropped on me when I looked on Facebook and saw that she was in a relationship. The worst part is her new anniversary with her new boyfriend is our old anniversary date. What do I do? I can't help but feel that I was never really anything to her and that I was just a place holder for this new guy.

Homegirl 50 · May 17, 2012, 07:58 AM

You leave her alone. You two are no longer dating. Go NC (no contact) until you are over her.

GettingLedOn · May 17, 2012, 08:59 AM

I've been in NC for a couple of days right now, and I have to say that it is one of the hardest things to do. I can't help but think about how she was able to move on so easily, it maybe a rebound, but regardless its painful to know. :p

Homegirl 50 · May 17, 2012, 03:08 PM

I would imagine it is painful, but you'll get there.

GettingLedOn · May 17, 2012, 07:13 PM

I caved, I just talked to her and confessed all of my feelings that I held back before the first time I decided to go NC. I messed up, all she said was that I was a good kid and that I would find someone else. I now know that I'm completely gone from her eyes 100%. She told me about her new boyfriend and how she's happy with him. I have weak resolve and now I reap what I sow

Homegirl 50 · May 17, 2012, 07:49 PM

Well now you know where you stand. You'll get there, it does get better

GettingLedOn · May 17, 2012, 08:53 PM

Thanks, I don't know how long it'll take but I know that ill be able to happy again someday. Hopefully I don't ever relapse again!

Homegirl 50 · May 17, 2012, 09:03 PM

Well if you do and need to vent, we are here.
Good luck

GettingLedOn · May 19, 2012, 02:48 PM

So my ex-girlfriend just texted me, and told me that tomorrow she will be going to the same party that I am going to. She said that she wanted something's back, should I go?

andrewjg · May 19, 2012, 02:53 PM

No! Don't mate it will just be to awkward on your part. The best thing you can do is change your phone number and forget about her, delete her from Facebook and block her , hard to do granted. However as hard as it may seem now but Time truly does heal all.

Andy

GettingLedOn · May 19, 2012, 03:02 PM

I already did delete her from Facebook, and I can't change my phone number. I'm on my family phone plan. Also she wanted some of the things she gave me back, should I just go and return them then leave?

andrewjg · May 19, 2012, 03:10 PM

I did with my ex and it broke my heart, as childish as it may seem but I wish I had just left them at her doorstep and text her to tell her they were there.

GettingLedOn · May 19, 2012, 03:13 PM

Thanks for the advice Andy, I appreciate it :]. But I think I'm going to just give it to her and leave. If she crushes my heart it'll be easier for me to understand that there is no longer a place for me in her heart!

andrewjg · May 19, 2012, 03:17 PM

No worries buddy, good luck in the future, you will meet someone :)

GettingLedOn · May 19, 2012, 03:19 PM

Ill probably be back here tomorrow, if I need to vent. And thanks :] I hope all goes well for you too

Homegirl 50 · May 19, 2012, 05:40 PM

Why do you have to give the things to her. Does she live with her parents, or have a friend that can give them to her. Why put yourself through this after you have decided to go NC?

GettingLedOn · May 20, 2012, 09:09 PM

Yeah maybe I shouldn't have gone today. At first every time I made eye contact she would look away, and when I would try to talk she gave me the cold shoulder. You're right homegirl 50 I ed up with my NC.
In the end I regretted going today, and she gave me back a bracelet I bought her from when I asked her out, a jewelry box, and an engraved christmas ornament with our names :P

Homegirl 50 · May 21, 2012, 06:47 AM

Get back on the NC train my friend.

GettingLedOn · May 21, 2012, 09:38 AM

If she can move on, so can I!! And I will hop back on the NC train :]

Homegirl 50 · May 21, 2012, 09:42 AM

Good for you.