[onang]

My best friend of mine has a very huge problem so she asked me to ask her questions on this site. This is her situation, Her boyfriend of three years went to Malaysia six months ago and my best-friend is in the Philippines so therefore they have the long distance relationship now. After several months of being apart my best friend found out that her boyfriend cheated on her. He has a relationship with a girl who is nearby his workplace in Malaysia. When my best friend knew what happened, her boyfriend admitted the situation and asked for forgiveness form my best friend. My best friend loves the guy so much but her trust has been destroyed already and she doesn't know what to do because although the guy said that they're now over with his other girl, my friend can't attest that because she's too far from her boyfriend. Should she give him a second chance? They're planning to get married after his contract abroad. Please help. Thank you.

[thadevilsadvocate]

In the best interest of your friend, she should NOT give this guy a second chance. Regardless of whether things are over with the girl he cheated with, this needs to be the end for him. Especially considering that they are in different countries. It happened once, what is to keep him from doing it again? Clearly he didn't consider your friends feelings when he cheated the first time, so why should she be considerate of his wants and needs now? I'm sorry fro your friend, but its better that she won't have to waste anymore time on him now.

[mmresd]

Trust is destroyed, without trust there is no relationship (at least not a healthy one), therefore, relationship is destroyed. No second chance, tell her to end things with that cheater. Just curious though how did she find out something like that? Because if she trusted him to begin with she wouldn't be snooping around, so maybe this wasn't meant to be even before the cheating happened.

Good luck,
Javi

[talaniman]

Maybe your friend should wait until her contract is up before she decides to give him another chance, or even plan to marry this cheater.