[BlondieRain]

Im a Chinese girl, 24, virgin. And its kind of common thing in China, girls in my age are still virgin. And I've spent almost 3 years in Aus, and met lots of pure white guys (dont know any asian culture, only educated through media),and found something really different.

I think I had a kind of relationship with a chinese guy before when I'm 20, we had 1 year relation,we broke up because I left for Australia. But we didn't have a sex, because most chinese guys respect the virgin and rarely ask for a sex, I don't want to talk this a lot.hehe...

And most Aussie guys are diifferent from chinese guys, they are so straight when they are interested in you and ask you hangout with them. For me, its kind of nomal things for guy friends to ask you to hangout (chinese culture), but lately I found different things that if you hangout with him which means you want to a relation with him. So that's why a little bit freak me out. Cause I know most Aussie want to have a sex ASAP, so that's why I don't want have any relation with them, Am I right?

[Fr_Chuck]

You are 24, while I believe you can wait till you are married, but you are a adult and can have sex with who you want.

[smoothy]

While its common, not everyone has sex ASAP. Its your body, YOU decide when you will have sex, and who you have it with.

As far as hanging out with guys. There are different types of hanging out. You can just be friends (of the opposite sex) or you can have a closer relationship (such as is called dating).

Virgins might be far less common here but there still is a lot of them.

I'm not Australian, but American, but there are some cutural aspects that aren't that much different.

[chrissymarie]

Do what makes You happy. No one else has to live your life. Forget about what's normal in your culture and trying to follow all these rules made up by your society. If you want to go out with an Aussie... do it. You will not be forced to have sex with him. That's up to you. You decide when it's the right time to have sex. You an adult now, 24 is not too young. Start living the life you want to live before its too late.

Hanging out just means hanging out... what you make of hanging out is your choice whether it be a relationship or sex. It's up to you.

[simoneaugie]

White guys are more forward verbally and may grab your body parts even when just hanging out. Be just as forward back. Tell them, "NO" and remove their hands, give them a look, "what do you think you're doing?"

They will/should respect your directness. If they continue to be pushy, get away from them. A guy who continues to do things you have made it clear you do not want is disrespectful, no matter what his race.

[shyfoxie]

I'm pretty sure the Chinese guys want to, but it's not culturally appropriate.

It's accepted, even expected, for western guys to be forward. But that doesn't mean they'll demand sex, heck if they really like you they might be almost impressed.

And if he thinks that you have a "problem" he can "fix" for you, that's just because that guy is not worth your time.

Don't jump to conclusions, and be reasonable and willing to explain your situation and personal feelings. A good man anywhere in the world should understand.

[oopsmj]

Im from asian culture who living in western now. I think the reason why you want to keep your virginity. That's the most important part. Because, sex can be the big part of relationship. I think in asia culture sex is more banned, westerners are more open minded and want to have fun. You can choose a guy who you want to sleep with. As a girl, first guy can be important !

Plus, don't you want to test the guy how good they are in bed before get married? It would sux, if you married sized a pinky figure.

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