[kyshiaj]

My ex of now 6mths is now. Engaged to her rebound of 4mths , I still love her an I'm trying to move on but she still calls me, I don't want to love her anymore but I do , she left me. And why does she still contact me knowing how I feel? I'm so tired of hurting.. please help!

[flowerchildfala]

Hey! I'm in the same boat as you and I know how much it hurts! I don't understand how someone can be in a relaltionship with you one minute then break up with you a minute later and get engaged to someone else! I think the best thing you can do is to stop all contact with her and try to move on with your life because it will just hurt you if you keep her in your life and it will only make moving on harder! That's what I did with my ex when I found out he's getting married 3 months after he broke up with me! Just take it day by day and try to always stay positive, it's hard but don't give up! Good luck!

[JoeSwede]

Ya, I'm in the same boat here except without the engagement part. I previously asked her not to contact me and it really has been working. I am glad I didn't find out right away about their relationship (completely thanks to NC). When I found out about it, it first felt really really terrible. But shortly afterwards it worked a little bit like some form of closure.

Firstly a relationship like that (rebound or whatever that has only taken 4 months to engage in) is really nothing I would sought after, as this is really the time to concentrate on developing yourself. Concentrate all of that energy on yourself and do everything you can. Don't say no to any oppurtunity as you never know where it may lead you or to what people it may lead you to.

Very cliché, but anything that doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. Therefore you need to embrace this oppurtunity. Forget everything about her, go NC, delete any pictures you may still have of her, social site connection etc. I wouldn't change my number, she's not worth the hastle, instead ignore her as much as you possibly can. It is really of the essence that you tell her that you don't want her contacting her and that you would be grateful if she respected this.

Life goes on, and it's too short to waste any more time on someone with that kind of reasoning.
I know it has helped me loads. Am doing everything I want to do and meeting a lot of new people, as well as girls. What's helped besides NC is me being honest about everything to everyone.

Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon.

[kyshiaj]

Thank you both , after reading so much on this site I realize that bbecuz we have so much istory and because she knows how I feel about her she is using this a backup method for her to fall back on when this relationship fails, this is not her first time but it will be her last with me. I told her to have a nice life an that I can't talk to her anymore but it seems like we always end up talking. This time though, feels different onlyh because I will be making sure there is no contact, why should I make her a priority when to her I'm just a back up option? Hell naw, I deserve to be loved an treated right. But most importantly I need to love an treat myself right !

[JoeSwede]

Nobody wants to be a backup, no less a rebound. Keep on concentrating on you all the time. You will have your weak moments, as do most of us, when you can't help but think about her. But this fades the longer into NC you are. Stay strong!

[talaniman]

Your right, so ignore her calls, or texts, and she will eventually get the hint.