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Mar 20, 2010, 11:52 AM
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Yyyyaaaaaaayyyyy!!
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Mar 20, 2010, 11:53 AM
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Umm... not much help WG. Haha
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Mar 20, 2010, 11:56 AM
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I was getting to the advice part, but had to cheer first.
If you're not afraid of his reaction (physical abuse), break with him in person.
Be as detached as you can be. I personally would not allow myself to cry or emote in any way, so the breakup is clean and honest. If you cry and carry on, he'll think you don't really mean it and will try to manipulate you back into his embrace.
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Mar 20, 2010, 11:57 AM
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He isn't manipulative or anything. He's really sweet and nice. Treats me more like a sister than a girlfriend. I want to still be friends, he's a great guy. But I'm not ready to be in a long term relationship again
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Mar 20, 2010, 12:01 PM
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 Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx
he isn't manipulative or anything. he's really sweet and nice. Treats me more like a sister than a girlfriend. I want to still be friends, he's a great guy. but I'm not ready to be in a long term relationship again
Keep it short and sweet and positive. Are you basically friends with benefits now?
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Mar 20, 2010, 12:15 PM
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No, we are very huggy friends... we have minimal physical relationship. We kiss, like Disney G-rated kiss. And hug.
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Mar 20, 2010, 12:29 PM
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 Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx
No, we are very huggy friends... we have minimal physical relationship. We kiss, like Disney G-rated kiss. and hug.
So do you want to "break up" (whatever that means if you aren't really a couple) or just keep the relationship at this level? I don't get it. (I'm old, though.)
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Mar 20, 2010, 12:38 PM
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We are technically an official couple. But he doesn't treat me like a girlfriend. And we act just like friends. Other than he kisses me.
I want to break up with him. He wants to be a serious relationship, I don't
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Mar 20, 2010, 12:47 PM
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 Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx
I want to break up with him.
You said you want to be friends. What does "break up" mean?
He wants to be a serious relationship, I don't
So just tell him no.
Why the drama?
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Mar 20, 2010, 12:50 PM
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I already agreed to be in a serious relationship with him, for what reason I have no idea. And technically we are. But I don't want to be. I don't know how to tell him
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Mar 20, 2010, 12:54 PM
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 Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx
I already agreed to be in a serious relationship with him, for what reason i have no idea. And technically we are. but I don't want to be. I don't know how to tell him
Just tell him that you thought about it and you still don't believe that you are ready for a commitment of this magnitude.
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Mar 20, 2010, 01:02 PM
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 Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx
I already agreed to be in a serious relationship with him, for what reason i have no idea. And technically we are. but I don't want to be. I don't know how to tell him
Well, unagree to a serious relationship. You are a wordsmith. You, of all people, should be able to express yourself concisely and with conviction to this young man. Look him in the eyes and tell him.
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Mar 20, 2010, 01:08 PM
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Thank you both.
I will the next time I see him
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Mar 20, 2010, 01:15 PM
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Please report back. :D
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Mar 20, 2010, 01:21 PM
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I will, I don't see him again until Monday, hopefully
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Mar 20, 2010, 01:34 PM
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Romance was so much simpler when I was your age. Why do you guys make it so complicated?
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Mar 20, 2010, 02:55 PM
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I have no idea WG
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Mar 20, 2010, 03:09 PM
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 Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx
I have no idea WG
I think I know. We used to read comics books -- Uncle Scrooge, Archie, Superman, Little Lotta, Richie Rich -- and storybooks and book after book after book! All the characters had complicated lives in their families and work life and romances. We vicariously ached and cried and exalted with them.
I think that's how we got it out of our systems ("vicariously") and didn't have to go through a lot of it ourselves. When life happened to us, we were ready, because we knew what Nancy Drew had done or how Brenda Starr had handled it or how Uncle Scrooge had failed (and we knew how NOT to).
You guys need to read more.
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Mar 20, 2010, 03:14 PM
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EMOP. I'm thinkiing about my high school days again. Life was simpler back then.
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Mar 20, 2010, 04:25 PM
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I read a lot! And write!
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