I am going to assume that your parents have split, otherwise with your mother knowing as you said, likely your dad would too, if they were together.
I don't see how you can do anything other than just sit him down, and calmly tell him. If you are apprehensive about facing him alone, ask a family member, maybe a sister, or an aunt, to sit with you while you break the news.
If you are certain that his reaction is going to be complete surprise and shock, try not to overwhelm him, his reaction may not be what you expect. There is always another day to talk again when the dust settles.
If you are a high school, college, or university student, seek out guidance through the school with organizations that support the gay population in their schools. They can better advise you how to proceed, or answer questions, or offer advice from the vantage point of having done this themselves. Support will be important for you.
I wish you well.
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