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    #21

    Oct 14, 2009, 08:38 AM

    For whatever reason, you two were not compatible so it just not working for you.

    Get out of each others lives, and heal, and regroup.
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    Oct 16, 2009, 10:56 AM
    @destiny09

    Yes. Unfortunately it was the second "OR" scenario I think I experienced. It felt very unhealthy to be with someone who spoke that way. I hope to be more alert for signs with this tendency, it ended up be a royal waste of my heart and time.
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    Oct 17, 2009, 06:49 AM

    Even though they are that way you always live in hope they will follow it up but they never do or rarely do. It's a shame because I am still hung up on my guy even though he is no good for me in so many ways, you can't help who you love, faults and all but eventually you have to realise loving yourself is more important
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    Oct 17, 2009, 07:24 AM
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    God, do I know it... I hoped he was just trying to figure things out, but I later understood that he "had" figured things out... What he figured out was how to get as much love from me as possible, without giving me any feeling of stability in the relationship. He had great tactics to manipulate my mind and my heart, but I'm seriously glad I didn't stay with him any longer than I had... My mantra is a Dalai Lama quote: “Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.”
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    #25

    Oct 17, 2009, 08:12 AM

    But can you stay away from him and go NC or does your heart tell you soemthing different... thats where the problem starts
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    #26

    Oct 17, 2009, 09:20 AM
    I think the best thing to do is "processing".

    Yes, you're correct in that, when you don't follow your heart, something within you feels ill and wrong... But, drugs can cause the same effect. And we all know where I'm going with that scenario, but the problem is loving someone who doesn't love you...

    So, wanting who wants me, might be a good perspective to moving onward. I decided to try to love someone else...
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    Oct 17, 2009, 09:31 AM

    A good place to be coming from- love yourself first.
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