[jenniepepsi]

i know i am going to catch hell for this but he works..it is 2009 is he a ceo, vice president, president of some corporate company? no sounds like a regular guy be thankful.

I think he/she only read the first post. But either way that still doest make sense to me, as my first post was about him spending money we don't have and then complaining about not having any. Not ME complaining about not having money.

[artlady]

i think he/she only read the first post. but either way that still doest make sence to me, as my first post was about him spending money we dont have and then complaining about not having any. not ME complaining about not having money.

When a thread goes over 16 pages ,it's a good idea to keep up with the thread or the post just comes off as questionable!
Also ,it is of no real benefit to the O.P. as what applied then clearly does not apply now!

[Just Dahlia]

When I first started on this site, WAY back when I was 26:D I read the instructions, but still had no idea that there were more than one page of posts.:eek:
I think I was blind, until Starby yelled at some one else for doing the same thing and then I caught on:rolleyes:

[asking]

There are INSTRUCTIONS? :eek:

I never read any... :o

[HelpinHere]

All I have to add, Jennie, is if he hit you, for ANY reason, I don't blame you.

All I have to add, everyone else, is who reads instructions? I just skimmed them, and link them for the ppl hoo tlk n txt spk, kuz itz anoyng!!!!!111

[Unknown008]

Actually HH, I didn't read the instructions... :o But I have the habit to learn as I use, so... I never liked chat speak neither, because that may ruin my english, which is tested every year, so yeah. As for the rules, I learned when the others tell to the newbies to read the rules, that ---- is not permitted, etc, etc.

[jenniepepsi]

Hey everyone. Those of you who do, can you pray for my grandma? And those who don't, keep her in your thoughts?

She is better. Much healthier. On antibiotics, no more fever, and is eating well again and getting her strength back. Thankfully I think the MS attack is gone too.

But one of her bed sores, got SO bad during her MS attack and infection, it is now a gaping whole on her bottom :( literally. I'm not kidding. It looks like the doctor cut her open down to the muscle and fatty tissue and took a circle of skin away.
She had 'escar' ? Is how it SOUNDS when the doctor told us. I think its spelled non phonetically though.

Here is the closest picture I could find (graphic, if your sensitive please don't click, this is mostly for the ladies with medical backgrounds who may want to see, or anyone who is curious)

http://www.silvermedicine.org/beforepackwound1c.jpg

Now, this isn't her, I didn't want to subject her to a picture of her butt :(
But her wound is about the same size, but deeper.

They used a wound vac to get the escar cleared away, and its finally starting to heal with the 'wet to dry' we got from the doctor until we can get a portable wound vac to use (my aunt is a licensed RN and my mom has been trained to care for her wounds)

But please pray for a speedy recovery for her.


I never thought I would say this, but I am SO thankfull for the MS making her a paraplegic 5 years ago, because if she was able to FEEL this, it would be TERRIBLE for her...

[asking]

Ow! (I looked.) I will think good thoughts for your granny.

Take care, Jennie

[proudmom2]

I have been through and abusive relationship and I can say this... If you can't make it work through a councilor, then you need to go while you can. He can still be a dad you can still be a mom, separately. The one thing I have seen no one focus on is the child. My goodness, how do you think she will view a relationship when she is older. Do you really believe that this is a healthy life for her? To show her that buying cigarettes is more important than her school supplies? To have to listen yelling and cussing? I know this little girl loves both her mom and her dad, but remember what your teaching her with this life. You don't have to take her away to take yourself away. NEVER NEVER stay in a bad or abusive relationship for the sake of a child, all its does is cause more damage and continue the cycle. Children who have witnessed abuse are far more likely to grow up and get in an abusive relationship themselves or become an abuser. Give yourself a break. Go to your moms for awhile. Take some time to breath and focus on what YOU want out of your life. Don't be a financial or emotional hostage.

Do the math, if he is over drawing your account that much, it is costing you a lot of money all by itself. Go to your local Dept of Human services and ask for some help. Go to a councilor BY Yourself. And make a choice that is right for you and your daughter. If you chose to stay... put your foot down and stick to your ultimatum. He will either come around and prove he can change or prove to you its time to go.

Good luck girl.

[jenniepepsi]

Hey hon.
You got to read everything. But thanks for all that. I left him for good because he punched me in the face over a stupid phone call because I wouldn't put the call on hold to tell him what was for dinner (it was a call about my grandma who was sick)

But thanks *hugs* I do see a counselor of my own.

I have been through and abusive relationship and I can say this....If you can't make it work through a councilor, then you need to go while you can. He can still be a dad you can still be a mom, separately. The one thing I have seen no one focus on is the child. My goodness, how do you think she will view a relationship when she is older. Do you really believe that this is a healthy life for her? To show her that buying cigarettes is more important than her school supplies? to have to listen yelling and cussing? I know this little girl loves both her mom and her dad, but remember what your teaching her with this life. You don't have to take her away to take yourself away. NEVER NEVER stay in a bad or abusive relationship for the sake of a child, all its does is cause more damage and continue the cycle. Children who have witnessed abuse are far more likely to grow up and get in an abusive relationship themselves or become an abuser. Give yourself a break. Go to your moms for awhile. Take some time to breath and focus on what YOU want out of your life. Don't be a financial or emotional hostage.

Do the math, if he is over drawing your account that much, it is costing you a lot of money all by itself. Go to your local Dept of Human services and ask for some help. Go to a councilor BY YOUR SELF. and make a choice that is right for you and your daughter. If you chose to stay...put your foot down and stick to your ultimatum. He will either come around and prove he can change or prove to you its time to go.

Good luck girl.

[proudmom2]

Holy cow... I didn't see how long this thing was. I only got through the first page or two. So guess Im totally lost. Glad you left.

[Cat1864]

Jennie, your grandmother is in my thoughts and prayers. So are you and Ayla.

[Unknown008]

I second that Cat... Eww, that seems really awful that hole :( Your grandmother is in my prayers :)

[jenniepepsi]

He is in jail!

Don't ask me WHY it took so long for them to arrest him. Maybe they were investigating or something. I hope so because they would also see that all my life I have lived without being admitted to the mental wing of the hosptial. But as soon as I was with him, I was in and out several times a year. And then I'm sure they got my record from the urgent care clinic for my jaw. My family says no one talked to them though.

But he is in jail for 90 days. And the restraining order went through so he isn't allowed around either me or my daughter, and that also means, I get off the rent and electric bills.

[Unknown008]

Well, I take it as good news for you Jennie! :) I hope once he's out, he won't be looking for you :eek: That would be the worst thing that can happen which I can think of. Better for you and him that he forgets you.

[Cat1864]

All I can say is "wow!" :eek:

I hope this means that things are working out for you.

How are you and Ayla holding up? :)

[88sunflower]

Ugh I agree, I hope he doesn't sit in jail and stew on this awhile. Then get out even more ticked off. Sure there is a restraining order but that doesn't stop everybody.

I am so happy for you and your daughter. Are you still at your moms? Are you working and its going OK? How is your grandmother?

[jenniepepsi]

Grandma is getting much better. She has an appointment with a surgeon to look at the wound and decide to surgecly close it or not. And she is physically well aside from the wound its self.

I agree. I hope he doesn't get out of jail and come looking for us. But the bonus is I am still at my moms house, and my uncle lives here. And issac KNOWS my uncle lives here. As well as my father who is retired military and a war vet. I don't think he would risk that. And the school knows he is not allowed anywhere NEAR ayla and if he were to go to the school they would call the police and have him arrested again.

All is going well. I am in a GED prep course. I looked at all the local schools and couldn't find a college that would allow me to start school before getting the GED. I knew that a college in WA state had one like that because my mom went to it, but none here that I could find.

I do some online surveys here at home at night before bed. I haven't earned any money like they promised yet lol but at least they aren't charging me anything lol.

I also have a friend now, who lives next door, and on days I don't go to the GED class, me and her take the girls to school (her daughter is in aylas class) we hang out at the coffee shop to relax. Its nice. I never got to do that when married to issac for some reason. He never said no. but something always stopped me from asking if I could.

And now that I think about it... I really didn't need his permission in the first place. I'm slowly working through my co-dependant submissive issues. I doubt I will ever stop being submissive as that is just who I am. But at least I can have some more self confidance and be more independent

[Cat1864]

I am very glad that your grandmother is doing better. I hope she has a speedy recovery.

Have fun studying and spending time with your new friend. :)

[justcurious55]

I'm glad to here things are going well for you :)