A better way to ooooooohh!

lazylana88 · Jul 9, 2009, 06:35 PM

So I'm trying to explore my tastes and dislikes as far a sex goes so I can be comfortable with myself because the other day I was with my friend and she stuck a finger inside, it felt okay but wasn't amazing I keep trying to do it to myself but it's a no go. I feel ambarrassed when I do it to her she really likes it. What is wrong with me? Am I not doing it right? Isn't it supposed to feel really good?

jenniepepsi · Jul 9, 2009, 06:54 PM

Change your colorin hon, some people might have a hard time reading it.

You don't say if you are a girl or a boy. Is your friend inserting her finger in your anus? Or if you a girl, your vagina?

However, I cannot answer you better unless you tell us how old you are OK?

lazylana88 · Jul 9, 2009, 07:07 PM

I was trying to get peoples attention.. but uh I'm a girl

jenniepepsi · Jul 9, 2009, 07:10 PM

U got to tell me how old you are hon :P

lazylana88 · Jul 9, 2009, 07:15 PM

Oh yeah, sorry, I'm 21 just turned in fact but yeah I was with my friend the other night and we were messin aroung you know just kissing and touching and she said she wanted to make me orgasm and so she put in a finger but it didn't feel good at all only when she was licking me, but she liked it when I did it to her... is something wrong with me?

jenniepepsi · Jul 9, 2009, 07:27 PM

There is nothing wrong with you hon :)

Vaginal stimulation often doesn't produce an orgasm for a girl. Some girls can orgasm with it, some cant. I know I certainly cant. It takes more than that. Oral sex is great for this. Any type of clitoral stimulation can help. Stimulate the clitoris and THEN do the vaginal sex or fingering.

I would suggest you go to an adult store and get yourself a bullet, and experiment with that. And possibly a dildo if you would like. Self stimulation is an excellent way to help you learn about what you like. :)

Catsmine · Jul 9, 2009, 07:41 PM

In another post the OP stated her age as 19 and now she's 21. I suggest she check her birth certificate before we respond further.

lazylana88 · Jul 9, 2009, 07:43 PM

Hmm... really. That makes me feel a whole lot better. I thought I was I was defective or something. But mm that's good. The thing is... lol.. she's not very good at oral sex either.. idk I'm beginning to think its maybe just her... what do you think.. because I mean she does make me orgasm by oral but I don't know is there a way to do it or anything else that can be done? I really like feeling her and I like when she's touching me but the actual sex part isn't THAT great I want it to be on a mutual level I'm thinking we can try mutual masturbation..? What should I tell her though without hurting her feelings..?

lazylana88 · Jul 9, 2009, 07:45 PM

Originally Posted by Catsmine

In another post the OP stated her age as 19 and now she's 21. I suggest she check her birth certificate before we respond further.

MM so you caught me... well honest to goodness, I feel awkward being 21 and not knowing how to be satisfied... I mean I could have said 13 or 14 but that seems way too young... is it unusual do you think for a woman of my age to experience this?

jenniepepsi · Jul 9, 2009, 08:09 PM

I'm not being judgemental in this in anyway so please don't take it this way, (as I was bi curious when I was younger, and my cousin who is homosexual, lives with us at the moment)

But could it be that, while you care about her, you may not be attracted to women? Have you tried sex with a man? If you have, was it different? Better? If you haven't you could try and see where that leads you.

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