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May 17, 2009, 10:24 AM
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What to do when my mates come back
Recap: my boyfriend of 3 years/high school sweet heart/first love went away for college, left me in November and became boyfriend girlfriend with a girl practically 2 weeks later. I went on this site (thank god) and started nc and healing and it was the most painful experience ever (as I'm sure many of you know).
I did FANTASTIC up until a month ago when he comes back says he's breaking up with the new girlfriend and that he still has feelings for me. We started talking again but I would always let him text me first. He would text me like once a day asking how I am. We had some good convos.
My problem is. My ex is coming back to me. But is it just for the summer? (idk) is it for real? (hope so!) is it worth it to go through the pain again? (I did it once I can do it again!) should I wait for him to come back and see what he has to say? I've been singlish/dating for 7 months for myself and both of us have grown a lot but should I tell him to be single for a while too? But if I say that I might loose him. Help?
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Ultra Member
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May 17, 2009, 11:44 AM
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It's not for real. You are a back up plan and he wants someone for sex for the summer.
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Junior Member
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May 17, 2009, 02:33 PM
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Thank you that's one part of what I think to. But at there other thoughts that anyone has?
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May 17, 2009, 03:34 PM
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Don't you think it's coincidental that right as he's breaking up with his current girlfriend, he confesses his feelings for you? It seems as if you were just on the back burner until he was finished with this new girl. I bet you remember like it was yesterday how painful it was when he left you for another girl 2 weeks after you broke up. How would you be able to trust him in a relationship after that?
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Expert
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May 17, 2009, 06:28 PM
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He leaves you gets another on, leaves her, now he wants you.
If your crazy enough to let him do it, then be smart enough to let go, when the summer fling is over, and he gets someone else.
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Ultra Member
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May 17, 2009, 06:46 PM
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Warning! Warning!. flashing red lights...
He's no good at being alone.
He was with someone 2 weeks after you broke up, now he's breaking up with her and needs a replacement.. . "I can't stand being alone. Who to ask? Oh I know! The Ex"...
Hell, he's lining you up before he even finishes with her! And, guess what? He'll hang around until he finds a new one and ditch you again.
You will never be comfortable in a relationship with him because you will not be able to trust him after what happened last time. Do you really want to go through that pain again?
Let him be. Say you're happy being single and dating. And just watch him. He'll have some one new in no time. Be thankful it's not you.
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Ultra Member
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May 17, 2009, 08:29 PM
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"Gemini54 agrees: Yep. Got it in one sentence."
A AMHD.com first for me! :D
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Ultra Member
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May 18, 2009, 05:39 AM
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It's summer, you're a fling, once September comes, you won't mean a thing
Sorry, but it's the truth
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