[bigben857]

Hi, I have a problem in my life that I need help fixing. When I was a junior in high school there was this girl that I always saw in the hallways but I never found the courage to talk to her because she was always with a guy one year older than me. Well before senior year of high school started we started talking. We talked for a solid 3-4 months and I felt like I had known her for years. We just connected instantly and every time I was with her we were both always smiling. Well she ended up dating that older guy and he has treated her poorly. She used to text and call me about it and complain but never did anything until a month ago. She told me she wants to try the single life and that I felt that was my opportunity to finally ask her out and have her be mine. Well she said no to me and I was OK with that but a couple weeks later she's dating that older guy again. Everyday I think about this girl and how she smiles when we are together, I feel like I'm in love that I might never feel again about anybody else. Does anybody have advice to help me out?

[ajGambino]

Don't hold her so close to your heart.

First of all, when she broke up with that guy, you should never jump at the opportunity to be with her, she will not be ready. Even if she does try something with you, you're considered the rebound. That will never last and she won't be in it 100% like you would.

She has left the guy and has gotten with another. Even though she showed interest in you, she's not interested enough to be with you. You should back away and give her space.

What you need to do is try to avoid her. Don't talk to her unless you intend on being there as a friend. Right now you need to do what's healthy for you, which is avoid contact with her and move on.