[smoothy]

SOME women (not all) can start lactating with enough of the correct type of stimulation but that takes time and has to be maintained. No I don't remember where I got that info and it is possible its innacurate.

Question is unless you both have some sort of fetish, then why?

Contrary to what your Boyfriend seems to think Lactation or having babies does not equal bigger boobs. Some get a temporary boost only to lose it and more afterwards... some get not boost at all... and a relatively few might get a boost that sticks around.

A bigger question is what's wrong with what you got now, and why is it so impportant to someone to change that?

[liz28]

Yes, it is possible depending on the females horomones. Some females can produce milk if they aren't pregnant due to, I believe it is called, hyperprolactinemia. Prolactin is the hormone that stimulates milk production.

I tried to find a site with more information on this issue but couldn't but I will continue looking and provide a link once I find one.

[this8384]

I'm beginning to question everything, just as Synnen did a page or 2 back.

First she's with a guy, then she's with a girl.

First she has NO health insurance whatsoever, then she has health insurance that won't pay for a therapist.

The issue here is that many people here are trying to help others by offering their advice and their time. Some people find it funny to make up stories and see what others have to say. My sister is one of those people; while I don't know if she frequents sites such as these, she has a major problem with compulsively lying and creates scenarios which never occurred. When you correct her on it, she gets angry and defensive and tells you that you're arguing with her. Her latest story is that she overheard my husband and I arguing in the next room... when we weren't even in the building.

So yes, it's frustrating to us when someone's stories seem cobbled together. It's not a nice feeling to extend a helping hand to someone just to find out they're laughing at you.

[JudyKayTee]

SOME women (not all) can start lactating with enough of the correct type of stimulation but that takes time and has to be maintained. No I don't remember where I got that info and it is possible its innacurate.

Yes, it's possible - Lactation - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

[starbuck8]

i live in Canada...and i have no health insurance or any insurance what so ever.

This is NOT correct at all! I live in Canada, so you are not going to pull the wool over my eyes on this one. You go to your family Dr. which costs you nothing. You get a referral to a phychiatrist, phychologist, or whatever he recommends. It IS covered, so don't even try and tell me it's not. Also, you can go to Canadian Mental Health, and all counselling there is free. You can also go to the woman's shelter, where they have programs you can look into, and they will refer you. It's not only for abused women. This is also a free service. You are making excuses, because there are many resources and programs available to you.

[Alty]

Good call Starby, I didn't see that.

Health care in Canada is paid by the Government, so you, you do have health insurance, just like every Canadian has health insurance, not matter what!

Did you think that there weren't any other Canadians here? Well, you guessed wrong.

[Caroljj90]

I didn't think I had health insurance but I went and asked my mom and she told me we did I have no idea what it covers but when I talked to my doctor about it she said she didn't think it would cover a therapist... thats why I'm going to this group therapy the doctor sent me to because its free.

[Caroljj90]

I'm beginning to question everything, just as Synnen did a page or 2 back.

First she's with a guy, then she's with a girl.

First she has NO health insurance whatsoever, then she has health insurance that won't pay for a therapist.

The issue here is that many people here are trying to help others by offering their advice and their time. Some people find it funny to make up stories and see what others have to say. My sister is one of those people; while I don't know if she frequents sites such as these, she has a major problem with compulsively lying and creates scenarios which never occurred. When you correct her on it, she gets angry and defensive and tells you that you're arguing with her. Her latest story is that she overheard my husband and I arguing in the next room....when we weren't even in the building.

So yes, it's frustrating to us when someone's stories seem cobbled together. It's not a nice feeling to extend a helping hand to someone just to find out they're laughing at you.

I don't get why you people think I'm making up stories? I am dating a guy OK! I didn't say I was with a girl I said one time I was doing stuff with my girl friend and my mom walked in then I tried to clear every ones confusion because every one seemed to think I was with a girl because I failed to specify that this story happened a while ago and I am no longer dating that girl...

[Caroljj90]

This is NOT correct at all! I live in Canada, so you are not going to pull the wool over my eyes on this one. You go to your family Dr., which costs you nothing. You get a referral to a phychiatrist, phychologist, or whatever he recommends. It IS covered, so don't even try and tell me it's not. Also, you can go to Canadian Mental Health, and all counselling there is free. You can also go to the woman's shelter, where they have programs you can look into, and they will refer you. It's not only for abused women. This is also a free service. You are making excuses, because there are many resources and programs available to you.

I am not making excuses I didn't know any of that stuff! My mom usually pays for all my appointments and makes them to because I can't drive and we live a ways from town.

[Caroljj90]

I am beginning to realize when some one like me starts to ask such questions it confuses other people, but I swear I'm not making any of this up I don't find this amusing! This is serious I have issues and I need help... I don't even know what all my issues are and I don't even know what kind of help to get or where to get it from I want to get help and deal with my problems and get better but I'm afraid.. what if there is something seriously wrong with me and they want to take me away from home and put me in some strange building full of crazy people and the only way I can see my loved ones is if they come visit me in a little white room! Would you guys want that? Would you want to be taken away from every thing your use to and love? I don't I'm afraid of myself and how deep my issues may go but I'm afraid to get help to...

[Alty]

i am not making excuses i didn't know any of that stuff! my mom usually pays for all my appointments and makes them to because i can't drive and we live a ways from town.

How old are you? How long have you lived in Canada? Are you still in school?

Unless you just arrived in Canada a few weeks ago, you should know that health care in Canada is free. You do in fact have an health care card that all Canadians have. Your mother does not pay for doctors appointments as they are free, as are hospital visits, testing, everything.

You need to see a therapist, someone that can do testing and figure out what's going on. We can only talk to you, we cannot give you what you need most and that is professional help.

Please, go to your doctor, tell him/her what's going on and get help.

Good luck.

[Caroljj90]

How old are you? How long have you lived in Canada? Are you still in school?

Unless you just arrived in Canada a few weeks ago, you should know that health care in Canada is free. You do in fact have an health care card that all Canadians have. Your mother does not pay for doctors appointments as they are free, as are hospital visits, testing, everything.

You need to see a therapist, someone that can do testing and figure out what's going on. We can only talk to you, we cannot give you what you need most and that is professional help.

Please, go to your doctor, tell him/her what's going on and get help.

Good luck.

I am not in school I've lived in Canada my hole life I don't usually pay attention to that kind of stuff I'm busy dealing with myself and my family which is no easy task.

[liz28]

Carol, you seem like a lost soul and this is no way to go through life but I hope you find a way to face and deal with your problems and overcome them. It seems like you been through a lot and your really confusion right now but your mental health is very important.

If you can start counseling before October that will do a lot of justice for you. Try what Starbuck suggest by going to a shelter for help because they do offer a lot of free programs or Google free counselors/therapists in your area.

Best of Luck!

[starbuck8]

i don't get why you people think i'm making up stories? i am dating a guy ok!? i didn't say i was with a girl i said one time i was doing stuff with my girl friend and my mom walked in then i tried to clear every ones confusion because every one seemed to think i was with a girl because i failed to specify that this story happened a while ago and i am no longer dating that girl...

You have to realise why we are questioning some of the things that you have written. You did say that you are a lesbian, and that you are not attracted to men, but you have settled for your boyfriend. You talked about "Tranny's," and about how there are no gay or Tranny bars in your small town, and no gay people, which is likely improbable. You didn't write these things very long ago. This is just one of the reasons we need to respond like we do.

I believe you said you are 22. It's really time to start learning on your own about our health care system, and the resources that are at your disposal. Don't you want to be independent and do things instead of having your mother take care of everything? You are old enough to no longer be dependent on your mom. If you are old enough to be worrying about all of these relationship and sexual issues, you are old enough to be living on your own, and taking care of your own life. You are focusing too much on sexual issues. It sounds like you don't even have a drivers license, since you said that your Mom has to drive you to the next town to get to your Dr. Do you have a job? Are you doing anything to further your education?

I have a hard time believing that any qualified medical Dr. would make you wait until May, and then Oct. to get you some help with your issues. A Dr. just wouldn't do that unless you aren't telling your Dr. what you've told us, and if you haven't, you clearly need to. Also, if you don't have your health care card in your wallet, then you need to get it from your mother. You are required to carry that with you at all times, just like a drivers license. What do you use for ID?

So now it's up to you to make a Dr.'s appt. You have now got the info. Enough of talking about sexual issues and boyfriends and girlfriends, and lactating. You have more important things to focus on, so you can have a more productive life.

[Caroljj90]

You have to realise why we are questioning some of the things that you have written. You did say that you are a lesbian, and that you are not attracted to men, but you have settled for your boyfriend. You talked about "Tranny's," and about how there are no gay or Tranny bars in your small town, and no gay people, which is likely improbable. You didn't write these things very long ago. This is just one of the reasons we need to respond like we do.

I believe you said you are 22. It's really time to start learning on your own about our health care system, and the resources that are at your disposal. Don't you want to be independent and do things instead of having your mother take care of everything? You are old enough to no longer be dependent on your mom. If you are old enough to be worrying about all of these relationship and sexual issues, you are old enough to be living on your own, and taking care of your own life. You are focusing too much on sexual issues. It sounds like you don't even have a drivers license, since you said that your Mom has to drive you to the next town to get to your Dr. Do you have a job? Are you doing anything to further your education?

I have a hard time believing that any qualified medical Dr. would make you wait until May, and then Oct. to get you some help with your issues. A Dr. just wouldn't do that unless you aren't telling your Dr. what you've told us, and if you haven't, you clearly need to. Also, if you don't have your health care card in your wallet, then you need to get it from your mother. You are required to carry that with you at all times, just like a drivers license. What do you use for ID?

So now it's up to you to make a Dr.'s appt. You have now got the info. Enough of talking about sexual issues and boyfriends and girlfriends, and lactating. You have more important things to focus on, so you can have a more productive life.

I'm not 22 I'm going on 19. I didn't say I was a lesbian I asked if I might be! But I cleared that issue up. I don't drive driving scares me. And I did go see a therapist he we talked he said its not a good idea for me to work until I get some issues sorted! So no I have no job yet. And I do have a care card. I am currently talking to a counselor and planning out what to do with myself.

[lilmaninsc]

It's not uncommon for guys to be attracted by this, but it's not my cup of tea!

[starbuck8]

It's not uncommon for guys to be attracted by this, but it's not my cup of tea!

Have you read any other posts on this thread? If you have useful advice then post it. If not, please refrain. Please get to know this site before answering questions.

[starbuck8]

i'm not 22 i'm going on 19. i didn't say i was a lesbian i asked if i might be! but i cleared that issue up. i don't drive driving scares me. and i did go see a therapist he we talked he said its not a good idea for me to work until i get some issues sorted! so no i have no job yet. and i do have a care card. i am currently talking to a counselor and planning out what to do with myself.

Carol, we would like to help you, but please get your stories straight. You mentioned being disgusted by men and their body parts, you said flat out that you were at least bi, and thought you were a lesbian. You've said you have had more than one female partner. Then you mention being pregnant, but there was no baby. You didn't know what an ectopic pregnancy was, but that the ultrasound tech told you that the baby died. Then you said you had an abortion. Then you talk about your boyfriend having weird sexual fetishes such as "knife play,"... having sex with "pregnant women,"... this lactating fantasy, etc. and that you are going to have sex with him on this camping trip you are going on.

I have read everything you have written, so don't play with us. How are you all of a sudden seeing a counselor? You weren't earlier today. Do you remember we spoke about this? You also said you didn't have your health card, and that your mother took care of those things, and you didn't know anything about it. You said you didn't know that you could see one for free, and you didn't know about coverage at all. I doubt very much that you've seen a counselor in the past few hrs. You've been on the computer talking to us most of the day! The last you told us, you were enrolled in some therapy classes. One that is in May, and one in October!

If you are not going to tell us the truth, then we are all wasting our time here. Tell us the truth, and then maybe we can talk.

[JudyKayTee]

It's not uncommon for guys to be attracted by this, but it's not my cup of tea!

I note your other post refers to your math class. How old are you? This is an ADULT sexuality board.

[Ren6]

i don't drive driving scares me. and i did go see a therapist he we talked he said its not a good idea for me to work until i get some issues sorted! so no i have no job yet. and i do have a care card. i am currently talking to a counselor and planning out what to do with myself.

I can only assume that "sorting" out your issues would involve counseling, rather than posting about sex on the computer all day. When did you see this therapist?