[complicatedlife]

Huh? I am not sure what relevance this has to the question...

I think we have gotten a bit off topic here.

So your telling me that's not included? So they should not think of because of course the know each other for years?

My point is being friends with the person before or after doesn't matter! You should think deeper before doing it with someone you just met!

[Klaipeda]

Hi all, the guy I know says he has a girl friend ( he is intimate with her and thinks about her as a part of his life.. ), but not the girlfriend, what is the difference?If another girl starts to like him how many chances does she has to be named THE girlfriend by him?

[manicli6]

Well, if the guy is decent then the new girl won't have a chance, but the good girls normally go for the bad guys, and being one of the "gud" guys let me tell you this, the new girl has a chance, not a very big chance but still has a slight chance, but the old girl will probably still be there for awhile

[Klaipeda]

well, if the guy is decent then the new girl won't hav a chance, but the gud girls normally go for the bad guys, and bein one of the "gud" guys let me tell u this, the new girl has a chance, not a very big chance but still has a slight chance, but the old girl will probably still b there for awhile

Well, the point is the guy wants the new girl to be with him sometimes, if you know what I mean... :p, but the new girl is more decent than him ,and refuses his advances:o

[manicli6]

Like I said the good girls always go for the bad guys because their apparently "sexy", but aslong as the guy dusn't like hug your be like touchy feely with the new girl the old girl sud be okay, by the way could you answer my question about datin?

[Klaipeda]

Hi again, without your answers I would do really bad:):
I had a guy in the past that liked me.He wanted to date me, gave me flowers every morning ( we were housemates), if we used to go out, he used to buy me the things and used to take me to caffees and museums.. He used to advice me on everything and he used to make me lough.. One day in my room we had some drink, and he got excited, put me on the bed and wanted to kiss me and have a sex... I got angry and shouted him out of my room... He appologised all the week by writing long appologising letters to me ( he really was decent men, allways ready to help anyone). I was so angry that moved out of the house and did not want to see him anymore.. 7 years passed by and he every year on the Christmas sends me Christmas card by email... A week ago I wrote him email saying hello. He responded in three hours and I could feel that he was happy to receive my letter. He asked me for us to keep in touch.I sent him another letter, but after receiving his response I feel that the communication is very formal.My question is HOW DO I BREAK THE ICE TO MAKE COMMUNICATION MORE FORMAL? I just feel this person honestly liked me and was at ease with him, I so want to return what I lost-this feeling being cared for..
Thank you guys!

[Klaipeda]

like i said the gud girls always go for the bad guys coz their apparently "sexy", but aslong as the guy dusn't like hug ur be like touchy feely with the new girl the old girl sud b okay, btw could u answer my question about datin?

Thanks for your reply, I will try to answer yor question, go on..

[manicli6]

Well I've been going on with a girl for 4 months, and I was kind of shy because it was my first time, and I was abit pocessive, and what not but lets say I had a very good reason, and then she broke up with me for being a and now she's ignorin me and I'm not sure what 2 do (she only talk to me on msn) I'm not sure wha I'm suppose 2 do, I still love her but she broke my heart and I'm not sure I want her anymore

[kp2171]

So lets focus on the OP'er...

Take back and forth noise to PM's or this thread will be cleaned up by deleting posts that are a distraction.

We can disagree and talk about it... but this is starting to reach past constructive disagreement.

[artlady]

It all depends on what you expect from the relationship.
If you want a one night stand and don't expect a call the next day than go for it.

Its ironic but men will try to get you in the sack in any way possible but when you do you are a *easy* woman.

You ask a guy what kind of a girl he wants to settle down with and rarely will you hear anyone say an *easy woman*.

[jjwoodhull]

7 years is a long time to be out of someone's life. It would be hard to jump back into a friendship under any circumstances. But the fact that there was an "incident" and that you refused to forgive him will make it harder. If you want to break the ice, I think you need to address what happened in the past, appologize for cutting him out of your life and tell him that you miss him.

[artlady]

Be yourself! To do anything else is silly.
Tell him you think that you are too formal.Make a joke out of it.You really are almost like strangers.

Talk about what interests you and eventually you will get to the subject of relationships and there is your opportunity to break the ice.

I thought everyone was so open on line that there was no ice to break.
Wow what do I know.

[Klaipeda]

well i've been goin on with a girl for 4 months, and i was kinda shy coz it was my first time, and i was abit pocessive, and what not but lets jus say i had a very gud reason, and hten she broke up with me for bein a and now she's ignorin me and im not sure what 2 do (she only talk 2 me on msn) im not sure wha im suppose 2 do, i still love her but she broke my heart and im not sure i want her anymore

Well,she broke with you, maybe she didn't like you being so possessive? Though if she still communicates on msn, and you feel that you don't want to loose her it's better msn than nothing,continue to communicate with her,nobody knows where it may lead.. It may later develop into something more serious: you can ask her out for example later on after some time, if you see that you are doing well on msn:) But if you see that you don't really like to talk to her, of course you then stop writing to her. See what happens.All best! :)

[Klaipeda]

A man I like said he will call me on weekend but he didn't, although he is sitting on the chat today and chatting with other girls.. The story:A weak ago he got angry with me for something and said that I want to break up with him ( hence because I said that and that:rolleyes:)... I reassured him that I don't want to break up with him( even though we mostly communicate on the internet). Next day he called me, we talked fpr some time.. and as a proof that I keen to communicate with him, I asked him with a keen voice whether he will call me next time.. So he said "ok, ok I will, I'll call you on a weekend" , but it didn't happed. I know he won't call tomorrow either.. So what this is all about?If he does want to communicate with me, why he does not call. Also, he knows that I won't have sex with him, I told him and although he is keen to it, he also he mentions that he has a girl friend.. So If you have a girlfirend go and have sex with her then.. :p

[nike 1]

It's obvious he's not into you. You seem to know that already. So don't take it personnal if he's not keeping his promises to you.

[Klaipeda]

It's obvious he's not into you. You seem to know that already. So don't take it personnal if he's not keeping his promises to you.

Why I should not take it personally?

[nike 1]

Because you already know he won't call like he said he would. He apparently has no respect or loyalty to you so why bother worrying about it? It's nothing personal, it's just how the guy is.

[rockerchick_682]

If he has a girlfriend and talks to other girls on the internet then he only wants one thing; sex. Since you're not giving it to him then he wants nothing to do with you.

[Klaipeda]

Hi guys, I like the guy for some time now, and we cannot not argue whenerver we communicate with him. I just feel that I cannot talk to him anymore without being accused by him that I constantly nagging him about something... I tired of trying to build up the needed relationship and give it a time to build up... I just tyred.Because he is constantly angry with me... I like him a lot and just was witholding sex for the future... This evening was too much for me, he was angry again with me and I just decided most crazy thing,- to ruin the unseccesfull relationship by having sex with him. It will be the end for him being constantly angry with me as he will leave me after sex..
Does someone has something to say?

Hi guys again, just to let you, my good shepherds know, that I read what you wrote me yeastersay and had a change of my mind.I did not sleep with him as he was not really keen to come, he wanted to go to sleep more than to have a sex:p. Today I went to see another guy as I meet sometimes guys from the friendship site, and this my guy I like also called me today 3 times just for a chat.. I hope I will not need to sleep with him soon, as he becoming much easier to communicate with.Though he mentions that he wants me every time since I suggested it to him yeasterday.. But it will not happen soon, I keep positive;))Thanks to you all, you saved me:). Love you all!

[ScottGem]

What an idiotic thing to do!