[hallyelujah]

Hey everybody. Before you read this, keep in mind that ;
a) I am 14 and he is 16.
b) I have already talked to my parents about us dating, and they approve.
c) He has already talked to his parents about us dating, and they approve.
d) The farthest we have gone is one kiss.

With all that taken into consideration, here is the whole confusing story between him and me;

This summer I met a really great guy(let's call him Daniel for now) who's sixteen and we really hit it off. We hung out together almost everyday, and he told me that he liked me very much, and wanted to date me, but felt it wouldn't work. We were both discouraged by this, but it didn't stop us from liking each other. In July I went to camp for a week, and when I came back, I heard nothing from Daniel. We barley said two words to each other until the day before school started. I was mortified. I had no idea if I had done something wrong, or what. Then out of the blue, he calls me up, and we hang out- like nothing ever went wrong- the day before school started. Then, just like this summer, he deserted me for a while, until on the day of my birthday party, we hung out. Shortly after my birthday, it was his birthday. We hung out then, and started talking more. I still had no idea if he still had the same feelings for me as he did in the summer. Then, in mid November we started hanging out frequently again. After a while, he told me that he still had feelings for me, and that this time, he was going to find a way for us to be able to date. He said he wanted to wait until he got his drivers license until he asked me out, so we decide to wait until then. Everything is going fine and dandy, when one day he tells me that he doesn't think our relationship will work out after all. He says that because I'm younger, he doesn't want me to have to deal with people always giving me flak for dating an older guy, and that when I go to high school, things are going to change so much and there will be a ton of other guys for me. Of course, stupid me, I break down into tears and can't say a darned thing back to him. He finishes by saying that he still wants to be my friend and hang out with me as much as we do now.

I know with all me heart that we can make this relationship work. And I'm going to tell him that, I just need some back up for my argument.
I know that us as friends would sound like a perfect solution to this, but it won't work. If we stay friends, I'll sit here and waste away, wondering about what could've been.

If anyone has been in a situation like this, please give me some insight as to how it worked out for you. Anything would help me.

I just do not want to loose him.

[Hamselv007]

Want argument ? Show him this thread.

[Fr_Chuck]

At 14, you will have dozens of boyfriends that come and go. This is part of dating and growing up.

[NewYork123]

You write very maturely for your age. Just let him go is the advice I have. You can't talk someone into being with you, they should want to be with you no matter what. Once you act like you are no longer interested in him, then like all boys/men he will realize that he really does want to be with you. When he asks to hang out with you, don't always say yes. He will start to wonder why you aren't always available and he will see that he could lose you.

[rebeccastrean22]

I would say that he just wants to get into your pants common your 14 and he's 16

[J_Nannen]

I felt very similarly to you with my first girlfriend. I'm still not over it, but, time heals all wounds. All I can tell you kid is to keep your heart intact. If someone doesn't want to date, you cannot force them to. As for friends, it can work. The key to being friends is to let it go. Don't let yourselves harbor and ill feelings towards each other over this. See it as a growing experience. Sure, it hurts. But no pain, no gain.