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suicideal-gal · Nov 3, 2008, 10:39 AM

Hi I'm lara and I have problem I have loved this boy for like 4 weeks now but 3 weeks ago he started going out with someone else :(and I new I loved him even more now... I only told him I liked him 1 week ago on Saturday and he said he has like me for 2 weeks and I a so confused he said he was going to dump her for me bt still he hasent I don't no what to do he says he loves me but I don't no if he really does or if he is lying to me

I need HELP if some one can tell me or explain to me what they think he is doing and playing at I love him so much!! If boys can help me even better please :(:(:(:(

450donn · Nov 3, 2008, 11:29 AM

First you sound awfully young. That aside it is impossible for you to love someone after only four weeks. You might really like him and that is the extent of it. Love comes after many weeks or months of courtship and after a long time of getting to know a person, then you could love them. He likes you, but unless you are exclusive he is totally free to date anyone he pleases.

bobloblaw · Nov 3, 2008, 11:39 AM

The other answer is fairly harsh on you. Listen, I know you feel very strongly right now, and when someone hurts you by doing what he did, it can hurt even more.

Sometimes, we find out that the people trust may not be who we thought they were. Your situation sucks. It really sucks. And it will hurt, and you will probably remember this for a very long time.

Unfortunately, the only thing you can do is pretend to not care. Ignore him. Don't look at him or talk to him. Its hard to do - because we want to who 'why this happened' - but in the long run, your man will realize that he missed out on a great thing, and he'll realized he messed up. Otherwise, if you keep talking to him and calling him, he'll just call you a stalker and think your crazy (Guys do this to make themselves feel better, to confirm they made the right choice by cheating on you).

Good luck.