[johnnyguy]

My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year and we have, for the most part, stopped having sex. We used to have sex at least 5 times a week. Over the past 8 months, its been about twice a month. She tells me that she just isn't a very sexual person, but what can I make of the first five months of the relationship where we had sex daily? I don't suspect her of cheating, but one thing does trouble me. I noticed that her underwear constantly has discharge in them (I do the laundry, kind of hard to miss) when she comes home from work or school. She doesn't work or go to school everyday, and on her days away from the two, there is no discharge. Is this a sign of cheating, getting turned on by someone else, or is it normal? I've read that its normal. However, drawing a little distinction from what seems to be "normal," my girlfriend has this every time she goes to work or school and doesn't have it at home. Its every time too, not just a week or two of the month. Thanks in advance for the help.

[Rochell]

It is normal for a woman to have a discharge. Maybe it only seems like it shows up when she goes to work/school because she is up and about. Her hormones might be off a little. Gravity plays a factor in this also. When she is home, maybe she lays around and watches t.v. If it bothers you that much, just talk to her about it.

[LearningAsIGo]

An average woman's cycle consists of AT LEAST 4 different types of discharge... some experience more, some perhaps less. On any given day, that discharge is a different consistency... none of which you want to hear about, I'm sure.

Her libido (sex drive) is what is troubling you. If she says she's "not that sexual" you should take her word for it. First, many relationships start "hot and steamy" but slow down over time. Second, things like birth control pills actually lower a woman's libido, making her desire it less. Third, most women have a hard time keeping up with 5x per week. Physically and mentally, it can become difficult. Try to keep an honest dialog with her and take time to seduce her... women enjoy that sort of thing.